How Do I Stop My 5 Yearold from Mouthing Me

I was always envious of people with boys because I did not think they had to deal with sarcasim or talking back. My daughter is 6 years old and I am struggling with the same issues. I talk to her when she does it and immediately make her apologize for what she has said. I also explain that I am an adult and she should not talk to me or anyone else like that. That usually helps for the rest of the day...until she wakes up tomorrow and has to be reminded to be mannerable again. Hope that helps:0)

C.

this advice may sound mean but its very helpful. i had the same trouble with both my kids and i finally got so fed up that i told them if it happened again, i would wash their mouth out with soap. my son got mouthy and i washed his mouth out with soap just like i said and he knows better now. my daughter learned from him and knows mommy means business when it comes to disrespecting someone. u usually only have to do it 1 time and they get the point but dont give in!! i hope this helps a little.

Unfortunatly, I dont have any advice, but I am in the same boat with my 6 yr old. Or he completely ignores me, so, I am interested in getting some advice too. Thanks for asking this, and I am here to say.. you arent alone! any help would be great thanx to everyone in advance.

A teaspoon of vinigar or hot sauce. If that seems too harsh, take away one thing that he loves every time he gets fresh. We have 3 boys, 5,3,18mo, and the older two don't speak out of line.

All my sister had to do was "threaten" to put soap in my nephew's mouth. She talked to him about what soap (like in the bathtub) tastes like when he gets it in his mouth accidentally. She talked to him about things that are not nice to say and ways we are not to speak to one another. She then said that if he continued she would put soap in his mouth purposefully --and trust me HE NEVER talks like he did anymore! (Of course, I don't think my sister really would do that--but it sure scared him enough.) Just remember to model the same behavior. Now, if Connor (my nephew) hears his mommy say "stupid" he tells her that she can't say that, it's bad to talk that way.

Anyway, it's just an idea. Children respond differently to different things!

Ok maybe I am old school on this but it worked in my house. I have 5 kids and I know all about the talking back. So what I started to do was carry around a bar of soap. Everytime he mouthed back or was disrespectful to someone, no matter where we were, he got the soap in his mouth. We would be walking around WalMart and he would have soap in his mouth. He learned really quick that the behavior he was displaying was not tolerated in our house. He quickly learned to expression himself in other ways.

i have an almost 6 year old, he totally has no respect for me or what i say,ive tried the spanking,soap in mouth,grounding,time out,standing in the corner,ect....he listens to everyone else,but it's like my voice and what i say are invisable,so i can relate,and i know how helpless you can feel.i cant get to stressed out because i really dont want to go into labor,but it is very hard not too

You know, I have to agree with the other posters. In our house there are but a few "spankable offenses" One of which is disrespecting elders. Not listening, talking back, etc. It gets an immediate and swift swat to the bottom. Not hard, just enough to get his attention and he DOES NOT like it. As with everything at this age, it is important to be consistent and follow through on your discipline. He is at a prime age of learning the importance of his behaviors and actions, and if you don't take action now, it will continue and likely worsen. If you don't believe in spanking, you will have to devise some other form of punishment that is as effective, like taking away priveledges (or early bedtime for a week, no TV for a week, etc.) but you have to stick with it, as tough as it is to not cave in. He will get the message.

Hi K.,
I just read the most wonderful book on discipline. (I want/need my husband to read it too & since I know he WON'T ... I just ordered it on CD!) I'm telling you, this makes TOTAL sense.

It's called "1-2-3 Magic" by PhD, Thomas W. Phelan. You might want to check it out! :)

Good luck!
K. ~ Noblesville

K.-

I too have the same problem, only on a smaller scale of my two year old and the word 'no.' The book and dvd about '1-2-3-Magic' was mentioned to me by a mother of an ADHD child who was out of control. She said that it helped him and her. I have tried it with my son and have had great results. I would definately check it out, just be consistent. (I found it at our local library.