J.M.
i think the husband J. leaving is a good excuse for not wanting to go to bed alone?
Emmy needs to have one of us there when she falls asleep or she gets up all night long upset. we read to her until she falls asleep. at first when anyone but M. did it she cried but after a while she got used to it and is fine as long as anyone reads to her or sings, or sits beside her for a few minutes.
can you get a book, one that they are interested in but not enough to need to know the next page? lay them down and tell her to tell them its quiet time no talking and read to them a few pages...if they talk warn them they will lose desert the next day and follow through. after a day or two they'll go right to sleep sometimes it takes em two chaopters to fall asleep sometimes one page...but i enjoy the quiet time with her and occassional cute questions and small talks about her day or the book (even though talking isnt allowed for more than a few moments...unless i'm enjoying it and its not too late=) )