D.S.
What a great aunt you are for being so involved. Divorce is really tough on most kids and being a teenager on top of it is going to make it extra hard. I would get her into some type of counseling. I am sure she is having feelings that she may not want to share due to fear of hurting someone's feelings. She needs to get out her feelings to someone who is neutral and not so closely involved. She may have issues with her dad or mom that she just cannot share with any of you. One bit of advice as a person who was divorced many years ago and also had parents divorce when I was a teen is to NOT TO BAD MOUTH THE OTHER PARENT as difficult as it is going to get. Remember that is their parent and although they are no longer a couple they will always be her parents. It is tough sometimes to do but we have to be the adults here and not put that extra burden on our children. I can still remember seeing my mom cry and how devastated she was when her and my dad split. I was old enough to know what was going on but it still hurt me to see my mom so upset. My dad was with another women so my mom would ask me questions when I would return from visits. I hated that even though I knew her intentions were not to involve me but it made me very uncomfortable. See if there is a divorce support group for teens in your community. Teens being able to share and have support from their peers can really be helpful. Sometimes they think we as adults just don't understand them. Good luck to your brother I know he has a bumpy road ahead.