S.H.
M.,
From a co-sleeping breastfeeding mama, let me encourage you to tackle each issue seperatly and not try to steam-roll all the changes into happening at once. If you do, you'll probably end up with a pre-toddler that shows more resistance to the process and frustration on your part and his part. Frankly, I started telling my boys if "Mr. Moon is awake, the milk is night night", within a couple of days they were ok with it, but I did keep some water by the bed if they were actually thirsty (which I discovered was often our situation). Secondly, during the day, I had a 'nursing station' or two. If I didn't sit down in one of those places and kept them busy they would often forget about the non-hunger, non-tired desire to nurse. One feed at a time is the easiest way to wean for you and for him, that way you aren't engorged and he doesn't feel rejected. I would stay away from pushing milk (cow, rice, or soy... especially soy if you do the research out there on boys and what the estrogen in soy can poss. do), people don't really need to milk, it is just a belief in the American culture. Now if he likes it, give it to him, but don't start subbing the desire to suck out for a bottle or you'll have one of those 'bottle toters' instead of a breastfeeder that you are trying to wean... and it won't be good for his teeth (and pre-teeth) with all that sugar on them. Most children don't loose the desire to such until closer to 3 or 4! A shock to most, but it does explain the lack of desire to wean at 12 mo or so, he's not a little monster :) If you desire to wean, do it gradually and gently so that it is a good process to both of you. Your choices in parenting (co-sleeping) can change, but don't have to if you are still enjoying that part of the child-rearing process. You might try the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley if you find nap and night weening causes harder to manage sleep situations. She is a co-sleeping breastfeeding mom and the book is totally non-judgemental and easy to implement based on your preferences and desires. Also, when Dad is home, let him be a big distractor for you. Kids often like to nurse out of boredom, so Dad and outtings can be an easy change in the weaning process. Many prayers for a smooth process for you so you can continue to enjoy the parenting!!!