Help! Husband Is Out of Control!

T.,
He needs to be tested for sleep apnea. His doctor should be able to order a sleep study. HTH.

Hi T.,
If it continues, he may need to be tested for Sleep Apnea. After battling a HUGE snoring problem and lots of sleepless nights, my husband was tested. Once he was diagnosed and given the face mask to sleep with (Its called a C-PAP machine) he hasn't had any more problems and we can ALL sleep! It is a pretty serious condition, depending on its severity since it can stress the heart and the body since they aren't getting any sleep. Good luck!!

Hello T.
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Nose strips do help with the volume, sleeping on side stops it altogether. They have a pillow now that keeps the man on his side. I also heard of a mouth guard that keeps his airway open (like a football mouth guard). It's designed for snoring by dentist. My husband said he would try it, but we haven't bought it yet. It would be cheaper than a new bed. I hate the couch and feel guilty when he's on the couch too. Right now, we take turns on the couch so that my back doesn't get too out of whack. I do plan to get a small bed that we can take turns on and put it in another room instead of on the couch. (We're remodeling right now.) My parents did that too. Now that my dad's 72, he doesn't snore too badly any more and they can actually sleep together again. My doctor gave me a sleeping prescription which does allow me to sleep with him and the snoring doesn't bother me. But, that only works when I remember to take it in time. If you were in a deeper sleep, it wouldn't bother you as much. Good luck.

I had to get use to wearing ear plugs. I have been using them off and on for 9 years now.

C.

OOO, same boat here. My DH was tested for sleep apnea. Nope, not that but it can be for heavy snoreres. OTC things haven't worked for us. He is considering surgery. I strongly advice learning relaxation techniques to help you fal asleep, that helps me. I lie there deep breathe and think back to when I used to ride horses. I am literally on the horse in my mind..... then poof, I am asleep. Can't think about the nose noise.... that is the hard part. Ear plugs for everyone, that helps too if your kids are not so little!!!

Try Snore Extinguisher. It is over the counter and it saved my life...oops sorry I mean my husbands over this constant snoring. It was driving me nuts! Read the directions and follow them. It will seem like a lot but after a few weeks my husband only uses it like once a week now and it has been at least eight months since I got if for him.

Does he always snore or just certain times of the year? My husband snores sept-may which coincides perfectly with extreme sinus problems.

Been there and the best thing is to talk with your Dr. with him there. This could be something as simple as a sleep disorder. He may need to have a sleep test. My husband had this and so did my son-in-law and there is a mask that they can wear that helps. It is wonderful to be able to sleep at night now. Do both of you a favor and check with your Dr.

he should ask his doctor about it, but I swear a Tempurpedic will help you both sleep better. It's helped our snoring situation here, not to mention my backaches. This issue was a topic on Gray's Anatomy. I think Gray found wax earplugs helpful...

Hello T.,

I'm going through the same thing with my husband and I feel bad that he ends up on the couch. Here it is, 4am and I'm on the computer because I could not sleep with his snoring. I'm a light sleeper also because of our son. Our 2 yr old son sleeps with us and he wakes up because of his snoring also. So here's how most of my nights go. If I fall asleep before my husband does, I'm pretty much ok. But if my son wakes up because of his snoring, I wake up because of my son waking up. I then ask my husband to wake up and go sleep on the couch and my son will fall back asleep after about an hour and there I am tossing and turning because I have a hard time falling back asleep.

He's tried nose strips, throat sprays and even a device that looked like hoop-like nose ring and it did work. He just recenlty ordered a mouth guard piece that seems to work, but it bothers him to sleep with it in all night because he says it hurts his upper teeth/jaw. What it does is that it holds his lower jaw forward and it puts pressure on his upper teeth in the process of holding his lower jaw forward.

I mentioned a procedure that I saw done on the new show "The Doctors" and it pertained to snoring and the relief for snoring, but he just acted like he didn't hear a word I said. If I knew that this procedure would 100% solve the problem, I would bug him until he had it done. Ultimately it's my husbands choice of how he resolves this issue. As long as he doesn't get mad at me when I wake him up to go sleep on the couch, then things will be alright.

I hope that all works for you, with whatever decision is made for relief.

God Bless,
E.

I have a friend who just went through the same thing with her husband, he actually went to a sleep clinic. At the clinic they found out that he would stop breathing 51 times in an hour, which is scary. He now has an machine that he uses at night that blows air in through a nose tube and the snoring is gone. It wouldn't hurt to have your husband checked out at a clinic. Good luck.

He will need to go to the doctor. There is no over the counter remedies to really truly treat this.

My father can raise the roof with his snoring and nobody can sleep with him around. He finally went to his Dr. for help.
(after decades of this snoring)They did all types of test. He ended up with minor surgery and some medication.

This has changed his life! He is now calmer, he is happier, nicer, he has lost weight, he has energy and his girlfriend for the first time in years says she can now sleep through the night.

This is very common for men, but they do not like going to the doctor. If he is in denial about his snoring, record him one night and play it for him the next morning. That is what we did for my father when he said he did not believe us about how loud he snored. We told him we were very concerned, because he would also gasp for air sometimes.

This will begin to effect your health too, you need to have sleep to continue to be a healthy person.

Some men hate doctors but he HAS to go see on. Hopefully he is understanding your problem and wants to help and isn't thinking he doesn't have a problem since it's not bother him. He needs to see an ENT (ears, nose, throat). My husband finally had to go have cysts removed from his sinuses and now he is quiet for the most part. They can appear for no reason or maybe the cold he had irritated his sinuses and one or more popped up. He would never really know he had a cyst unless he could hear himself snoring so it's not always looked for in general checkups.

I wish I could suggest some over the counter stuff to help but all I can tell you is to wake him up and tell him to roll over. Not the best advice but it used to work sometimes for me. At least long enough for me to fall asleep. After many nights of me waking him up to roll over and him waking up tired because of it he finally decided to go to the doctor to get me off his back.

Good luck to you.

His adenoids may be swollen from the cold. He may be able to get to the doctor and get a steroid prescription or get an evaluation for adenoid removal.

My mother says that the nose strips do help a little bit (my Father is awful). People who snore really have no idea how bad it is...I would get a tape recorder and record it for him so he can see exactly how bad it is. Play it back for him one night when he is trying to go to sleep. Explain to him that it has to stop, it is really disrespectful of him not to try to resolve it. If he won't respect you...send him to sleep on the couch!

Good morning T.,

Your problem sounds like what we had.
Eugene and I have been married 4 years, the first yr was sleeping in the sofa in the back family room, and I could still hear him snoring, it was loud loud loud. wow!!
we tried everything, nothing ever worked, we did not know what to do either.
Then we found XANTHONES,
He started drinking these and within 6 months, his snoring went down to normal, not totally gone away, but we can sleep in the same bedroom. It is amazing how this worked for us.
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God bless,
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Sounds a lot like us. One thing I know is that different things seem to work for different people. I've heard many people say that you won't snore if you lay in a certain position to sleep, but I think my hubby has snored in every possible sleeping position. Try the nose strips if you haven't already - there are a lot of people who say they don't work, but we finally got some & they have helped a lot. They don't eliminate all noise, but it did help my hubby to so from LOUD snoring to sometimes no noise, other times just sounds like deep breathing. Be sure to get the right size & apply them correctly - if you put them in the wrong place they won't do anything. You can always go see doctors & get adenoid evaluations or sleep studies later, but why not try a few OTC products? You may luck out & find that spending a few bucks on an OTC remedy either solves your problem or gives you a little relief until doctors can uncover deeper causes of the problem. Hope this helps!

Have him get evaluated for sleep apnea. My husband uses a CPAP machine now and it made everyone much happier.

I don't know if your husband is over weight but that can contribute to the problem......Other wise, you might want to have him participate in a sleep study....He might have Sleep Apenea...which is when the person actually stops breathing....it is quite serious.....It is genetic in my husbands family and use of a breathing machine is very helpful.

If he is willing, have him see an actual sleep doctor. You go with him since he does not know what he is doing and he can get to the source of the problem. Maybe an Ear Nose and Throat doc (ENT) since this started after a cold, but sounds like you are both getting sleep deprived. Once my husband was treated with sleep apnea (I'm not saying your hubby has that) we both started getting the deep REM sleep we needed. I feel your frustration! Best wishes!

Things to try immediately, while he's working on getting an appointment to see a doctor (his own doctor would be the best place to start):

1) The nose things help some. They don't eliminate the problem entirely in many cases, but they help.

2) If congestion is part of the problem, he should do something for the congestion. Sudafed (behind the pharmacy counter), neti pot or similar to rinse out nasal passages, etc., antihistamine if it seems to be allergies.

3) Exercise. The thing that most consistently keeps my husband's snoring down is exercise at least 4 days a week, for 30 minutes or more each time. The downside of this is that if he's gotten out of the exercise habit and starts snoring again, it takes 2 weeks to get full results from the return to exercise. But there's definite improvement after 1 week.

4) If it started with a cold, there may be something lingering from that -- his doctor will be able to help with that.

So, call the doc, get a small box of the nose strips to try, see if you can get him to start doing some exercising, and discuss with him what he'd like to use in terms of over-the-counter stuff to clear out his nasal passages.

The nose strips do work. I had my dad use them when we went out of town together and they did wonders. I didn't think anything would ever help that man but these did wonders. Also, no back sleeping, that is the worst way to sleep if you have a snoring issue.

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My husband got my dads old breathing machiene to see if it would work. It takes alot of getting use to but when he wears it it really works. He needs to go get tested to get his own machiene to work with his breathing or lack of durring the night. If your husband also recently put on weight and many other factors it could be the trigger of sleep apthema. A sleep test will be needed for him to get one. If he wont go get tested then he can sleep on the couch till he gets sick of that and gets the test he needs. Good luck hope you get some sleep.

I agree that your husband should see a doctor because this could be a symptom of something quite serious. However, I think that you should also look into getting something to help you to get into a deeper sleep. You say that you're a light sleeper, so don't just put it all on your husband, like he's the one with the problem. One source of your irritation might be that he's getting actual rest when he sleeps and you're not. He's not what keeps you up. I, too, have a hard time resting deeply with my "babies" around because there is something in me that wants to be ready for anything and everything...for them. Maybe you're just more sensitive now. Take some Valerian. Drink a glass of wine in the evening. Get him to help out more so you don't feel like you have to be the one to take it all on. (Maybe you're not resting because you think that it's all up to you, and you haven't felt comfortable letting someone else--like your husband--take more responsibility for their welfare.)

We're always so quick to "fix" somebody else, especially our husbands. It seems so automatic, now. When there's a problem, the best way to fix it is to first look at what role you play in it...even when it's something that seems insiginificant, like snoring. If you find that he has no health problems, then leave him alone and figure out what you can do to maximize your sleep.

the only thing I know worked for my dad (my mom could never get to sleep with his snoring!) was if he did NOT sleep on his back. my mom did the tennis ball sewn into the back of his PJ shirt (so if he rolls onto his back, he will be uncomfortable and then turn back over to his side). I'm pretty sure that was the only thing that worked for them...I know he tried the nose strips also and they didn't work. I know how frustrating it can be to not be getting a good night's sleep! hope you find something that works for him!

Two words: Sleep Study. They can figure out just exactly what is causing the problem and give you both some options for treating whatever it is. My three and a half year old was diagnosed with sleep apnea about two years ago. Taking his inflamed adnoids out completely fixed the problem, and now he consistently is able to get a good night's sleep. My partner snores too, so I feel your pain (still working on the sleep clinic thing). I hope you get some peace soon!