He Isnt His Son!!!!!!!!!!!!

If he does not have an issue with it then don't make one. If he did not react then it means nothing to him chances are. Did he start acting out or has he done anything that seems connected to this? If not, then let it go.

OK, you were honest with your son and you owed him that. I suppose you can only hope for the best. You might have to look into working out custody arrangements, if the real father would like to know his son. If not, you need to get the man to terminate his rights. That's the only way you can truly be protected and then he can't pop back in and want to claim some sort of right to your son. If your son starts having problems, counseling is always a good option. Chances are, it doesn't matter much to him...and it won't cause him to act out. I would take this opportunity to talk with your son about sex and protection. You can do well to educate him against the mistakes you made. (we all could, for that matter!)

You made big mistakes, but they are in the past. If you are a good mother now, I'm sure your son's view of you isn't negatively colored now. You know now, that the same mistake can't be made again. In a situation like this, all you can do is learn from your mistakes. It seems as though you have.

You made a mistake 12 years ago and have now come clean. Try to forgive yourself.
Tell your son how sorry you are and then ask if he has any questons. Be open and tell him what happened, but tell him how blessed you have always been and how thankful you are that you never once thought of abortion, adoption or anything like that. Tell him often how God gave you the best gift of all, that is him along with his brothers and sisters, if you have more children.
Then move forward.
We all make mistakes, you are not a bad mother.

Well, at least you are being honest now. You made a mistake. You may be able to use your experience to eventually start a conversation about sex and responsibility (birth control).

Boys that age are not known for wanting to talk about feelings. But do let him know he can talk to you if he wants to. You can try to talk with him while driving or doing an activity. I would let the counseling go unless you see behavior problems.

Well, it could have been an honest mistake on your part. I would imagine it would be hard to truly tell who the dad was initially.

Also, you can't force your kid to counseling. Just keep an eye on him and his behavior. Maybe it doesn't matter to him who his father is. If he starts acting out you'll know he's conflicted over the information, and at that point you may need to intervene and talk again, or possibly have the guy he's known as his dad talk to him.

You may need to talk to the real dad and find out where he stands, and also ask your son how he feels about a relationship with the biological dad. I guess in this situation (or any) talk, talk, talk, talk, and LISTEN. =D

Hard to say really in this situation. Just know everyone makes mistakes, and it's not the end of the world.

Best wishes-

Ok. You were young. We all have done dumb things, that we may or may not regret. I'm not judgemental at all, so I'm not even gonna base my opinion on what you shouldve, couldve or didn't do. I think that you should really have a heart to heart with your son, first and foremost. I have a friend who found out that the man she thought was her sons father, wansnt. After 7 years, her son thought that this man was his father. He, like your son, seemed to be emotionless about the entire situation. Since then, he has been in so much trouble. In school, at home, fighting, using drugs, etc. I'm not saying that this will happen to your son, but please, keep a close eye on him!!! Although he's not showing it, he's feeling it! Do you plan to have his "father" in his life? What will happen to the other guy? What are your parents saying now? I really hope that everything works out with you. Don't beat yourself up too bad. You made a mistake. Now its your chance to try and make it right. For the future, speak to your kids about safe sex. They will be greatful that you did.

What is done is done, but do not blame your parents, you were an adult and they could not force you not to correct the initial mistake. Now that all is out in the open it is time to help your son heal. He does not trust you, you have been lying to him his whole life, so he has a right to that feeling. Send him to a counselor. He says he does not want to go, but if you keep bringing him hopefully he will eventually open up. As for the rest, just be there for him and give him time to deal with all this.

Honey, we all make mistakes. You made a big one, but you're owning up to it now. Make sure your son talks to someone (therapist, counselor, etc.). He may tell you he doesn't want to, but he probably still needs it... and you're the mom so you can insist. He's at such a vulnerable age and you really don't know how he's taking this. He may not be able to tell you his feelings; a certified counselor will really help him make sense of the situation.

The only advice I have in addition to that is don't blame your parents. You were an adult... they could not prevent you from changing the birth certificate. Sure, they probably strongly told you not to... but ultimately it was up to you. If you continue to blame them, it's going to come across to your son that you're not taking responsibility for your actions.

Being honest is what you are doing & good for you.

the most important part of this is letting your son deal the way he wants to. Dont put your feelings on him he is 12 this is a lot to process. Although I really feel you should have left the finding of the other man up to your son when he was older and it was his choice. I am absolutely not judging you this is a huge bridge there are going to be ups and downs just stand behind your son.