B.B.
I completely understand!! I have a small handful of close friends, but most everyone else are acquantainces. My husband and I are the first of our friends to have kids, and that makes it even harder, b/c we don't spend much time with them since they have the flexibilty that we don't. Also, those relationships have changed over the years just because life gets in the way as we get older and busier (especially when kids enter the picture, even more so when most of our friends don't have kids and aren't married). When I left my job last year to stay at home with my son, I tried finding a mom's group so I wouldn't feel so detatched from other adults, but I tried a couple different groups and just wasn't impressed. I didn't feel like I fit in, mainly b/c I'm 27 and most of the moms were at least 8-10 years older than me (which isn't that big of deal, but I just felt like we were in different places in our lives and I didn't relate to them at all). Plus, it seemed like some of them were just like you described. It doesn't help that we are moving to the Ft. Worth area where I know nobody, ecxept my inlaws. We are looking for a church, so I'm hopeful I'll find some good friends there when we find one we love.
It is very hard to find good, true friends. I appreciate the few true friends I do have, and keep an open mind when meeting new people, knowing that there's potential there for a great friendship. I'm also trying to be more outgoing when I take my son to the park, or the mall to play. I'll try to start up conversations with other moms hoping that maybe it will turn into at least a playdate for my son, and maybe a new friend for me.