In my opinion there is WAY too much focus on "diets." Cutting things and depriving yourself of a food group is not good because we need all of them in different amounts for our over all health. I wouldn't focus on what's right or wrong, but what's good. What's good for your body.
We know that packaged processed foods full of chemical additives are not good for us. If you change your "mindset" as you said to eating REAL food then the "diet" part won't matter.
Just remember that the farther a food is away from it's natural source, the LEAST nutrition we'll get from it. So think of an apple. A fresh, real apple is good full of vitamins, minerals, fiber etc. Apple-sauce (homemade) is OK but apple juice really is the least nutritious. Once you start eating healthier, your body will start craving healthier foods making a life long transition easier.
What I try to teach is generally if it is made by nature it's good. If it's a man-made food product we should think about making another choice.
Of course I have a 19 year old who reminds me that Hemlock is made by nature and he's pretty sure a cheeto tree just hasn't been discovered yet!
Trust me I know how hard it is but you can do it! You and your family will be so much better in the long run!
Good Luck!
Lori Krause, RN, Certified Dr. Sears L.E.A.N. Coach
www.YourKitchenCoach.net