Getting the Fathers Rights Terminated??

As long as he is in the picture you can't unless you have rock hard proof he is unfit. Here say doesn't cut it. If you get a good lawyer you better be ready for a long hard fight to get a fathers right strip is like pulling teeth. The state of Texas wants 2 people financially responsible for the child even IF he isn't paying support now. Best thing you can do is make notation of everything he does dates, times he drops her off, times he is late picking her up, how he talks to her the conversations or fights you two have how he treats you around her EVERYTHING then once you have enough proof then go to court and have things stated to the judge how you feel and what has happen then they will have someone check in on him from time to time to do surprise visit with him and the child or if your girl is able to speak for herself and tell the judge what is going on then he will pull her into his chambers and ask her himself. Most Judges are very touchy about this. All I can say is good luck. I help a family once they were down in Austin trying to get some laws past about this they named their organization children and loving parents they were based out of Heath Texas but then moved out of state to get away from the Father of the child in question. I don’t know if anything ever came of it but your welcome to call or ask around about it if they are still in commission.
T.

I guess I am the only one that believes you should do nothing of the sort. I am a neglected adult child and I think it would be more detrimental to the child to have her father's rights stripped, or for even thinking that he would want to have his rights terminated.
What I would strongly suggest, and what my mother did, is tell her that her daddy loves her but he isn't in a good place right now to be a parent so he does the best HE can do. While this is hard and probably not true, and definitely not fair to you, it's really her you're trying to protect.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't let her go through life thinking her daddy didn't love her enough to want to stick around. If this is something he insists upon then you really have no control over him, but she will see this as abandonment. At 33 I am better equiped to deal with my father's abondonment but during my adolescent years I was full of hate and rage. I took it out on my mother but she never spoke a bad word about my father and never told me he didn't love me.
Your daughter is going to have to deal with this issue in her own time and it's going to be hard. Maybe you could make one last plea to her father in an effort to let him know this isn't something affecting her just in the right now, but potentially for the rest of her life.

Hey girl, I was in your shoes. My daughter was 3 when we went to court. he would threaten to sign away his rights when he was mad. next time you talk to him, have something recording the entire conversation. thats how my ex lost his rights. it showed him to be mentally unstable, mentally endangering his daughter, and highly irrational. jusge ruled that he would do more harm to my childs well being by switching his emotions back and forth.

Get a really good lawyer and keep documentation. Document that he doesn't maintain normal visitation (keep a calendar of when he's scheduled to be there, when he shows up / doesn't call - or does call, what he says, if she's sick or bruised when she gets back, changes in the sleep schedule).. The court ideally is interested in doing what is best for the child. It is presumed that a relationship with both parents is what is best for the child.

Document if/ when he does, or more importantly does not, pay child support. The most effective method I've seen is letting dad get several thousand dollars behind in child support (court ordered) and then taking him to court for it - pay up or sign off.

I haven't been through it personally, but I have had several friends go through it.

It's rough on the babies.

S.

Hello,

I tried a long time ago to have my oldest daughter’s father’s rights taken away as well, however I was told by my lawyer that unless I had someone else to come in and adopt or take the place of her father that it couldn’t be done. It was as though there was a child out there without a father and yes I know that your daughter is pretty much in that same place but it would have been easier for him to not have signed her birth certificate then have done it and now trying to have him off of it.

Just pray about it, ask the Lord to change the heart of your ex because she does need him and ask him to give you the wisdom to be able to help your princess through what only she is feeling.

God bless and I wish you the peace that you need to get through this.