Forgotten Birthday from Close Friend

I was friends with someone for 8 years. 6 of the 8 years I celebrated it on the wrong day (22 instead of the 20th).

She never mentioned it to me EVER. I found out I was celebrating the wrong day from her husband.

She said as long as I remembered she was ok...and she got to celebrate it TWICE. :)

Bottom line, she should remember, no excuse. I too am old fashioned about such things.

Sending good thoughts and birthday wishes to you. :)

I saw my friend on my birthday. She didn't even speak to me, I was in the back of the gym and didn't go in the store to visit but she could have come out and said happy birthday so I know she forgot too.

I am pretty well done with this particular friendship, it has grown to just an acquaintance now and I just had to let it go.

I got over 200 messages from my friends on FB so the day didn't suck as bad as I thought it might.

Here's a quote that I believe in: "There comes an age when we shouldn't expect that our birthday is important to anyone but outselves. That age is about 11." Unknown author.

It is not that big of a deal to me. A birthday is another day to me and I do not expect waves of Happy Birthday's via text, facebook, cards, etc. I enjoy sending out Birthday wishes, I just don't necessarily enjoy getting them, nor do I expect it.

I realize some people celebrate all month, some all week but it means more to me to spend time with friends and family during the year, making memories and not all on a day where they feel obligated to be wishing me happiness all day.

I am sorry you are hurt. Happy Belated birthday to you.

Awww. It's okay and understandable that it hurt a little, but my advice would be to LET IT GO.

Your birthday is the day after Valentines Day. That makes it easier for some people to remember but harder for others because their minds are already full of everything they have to do for the holiday. I used to remember so many peoples' birthdays and make the effort to call, send a card, or email. Now that I'm older my social group is much larger. I have a hard time keeping track of even my family's milestones. We all get forgetful.

I'm sorry you are upset, but if she's really a friend, I would let it go. My best friends and I are notorious for forgetting each others' birthdays and sending presents late. Heck, I still haven't sent their Christmas presents! We've accepted that we're busy, forgetful and preoccupied sometimes and just don't sweat it if a birthday or holiday goes by without comment.

I think it hurts when someone you are close to forgets a birthday or special milestone. After all, it is the day that you entered this earth! I am the same way, have always sent cards, more recently texts, and to those I am close with, phone calls as well. I like to tell the people that are special in my life that they are special to me and I am glad they are a part of my life. But more aften than not, it has become a one way street.

only family members actually send me cards.. my fiances birthday is the day after mine so all the stuff from his family and most of mine is like a joint happy birthday card lol.. but honestly as far as my friends go if not for facebook i wouldnt hear a happy birthday from anyone maybe jusst one or 2 people so dont feel bad

I am always the one that remembers all of the birthdays anniversaries ect... But not so much in the last 5 years. I have become so busy with so many other things, I am not as non top of that stuff anymore.

I now just tell people to please remind me when important dates are coming up, and they asked me to do the same! I think as some of us age, this is part of it.

It does not mean I love these people any less, I am just a bit overwhelmed with lots more responsibilities as I have become older.

If it were me, and it has been before, I would never be mad or want to shame anyone for forgetting my birthday.

Sorry she forgot. I bet she still loves you though.

BTW, thank goodness for facebook and their birthday reminders!

You might say I have low expectations! I love cards (not to mention gifts!), but I don't really expect anything from anyone - even my grown children. Nobody's obligated to think of me. Folks have busy lives, and I'm not in the center of any of it. I'm not going to let anybody's forgetfulness or busy-ness keep me from having a great birthday!

Of course, when I am remembered (by present, card, e-mail, or FB post), I'm thankful, but I'm not keeping score.

I send cards, too - whether I get any back or not. And that reminds me of something else. I've known a couple of people who have decided that cards don't fit in their budgets any more and have chosen to stop sending them. But then they don't quite know how to explain their decision - so they end up saying nothing at all. Maybe this is the case with your friend.

I just totally forgot my bff's bday last week. I'm usually soooo good with that type of stuff but with age and all, I'm starting to not be so on top of things. I used to not really be able to understand how people missed stuff by now I do. Dont be hurt. It doesn't mean anything.

I love to celebrate other's special days but when it comes to me, I really don't care. I don't expect marching bands, flowers, expensive dinners or such things.

I live a pretty great life and enjoy special times with my daughter and her dad's side of the family as well as our friends.

The last big birthday was 16 (I was getting my drivers license), 18 was OK because I was going to Hawaii and the drinking age was 18 back in 1984.

I hope you had a nice birthday dinner with your husband!!

My guess is that your friend is like me and a lot of us. We don't want any acknowledgments of our birthdays from friends because we know we won't be able to return the favor. Its all we can do to keep up our own families birthdays. But if it is important to you, you better just come out and tell her. Because I know for me, once you start your own family, you choose not to have the pressure of remembering non family birthdays and you want the same in return.

Oh Lordy, if my friends and family ditched me when I forgot their birthdays, I would have no friends or family.

I am horrible about birthdays. I know my son's and my sister's - everyone else I usually get the month right.

Of course, I in turn, don't mind if my birthday slips by them also.

My Birthday is December 24th --yep Christmas Eve. My kids try to come over that day but don't always make it. They do send face book wishes or call. A few friends send a HB wish on facebook but I am sooooo used to people forgeting my BDay. It hurts but there isn't anything I can do about it.

If you want her to remember your birthday call her a week before and ask if she wants to do a girls night out to celebrate your bday.

As long as it's remembered it's all good. One thing that works with certain friends and family members is to 'invite' them to celebrate with me on a lunch date or phone date from my online calendar. I have the yahoo calendar so when I set up an event it automatically has an option to invite guests. Then you can set reminders for the event days in advance to be sent to their e-mails (and yours).

I love techie tools.

My friends stopped acknowledging bdays around the 30 mark. I'm fine with it, as long as hubby remembers. ;-)

Yeah....I know what you mean. I can say that most of my immediate family got their card/gift late for their birthday last year. I've resolved to do better this year. So far--so good, but it's only February! :)
I'm 48 and my BFF & I have been friends since I was 6 mos old and she was born. There are years her card has come late, and I have mailed her card late on occasion as well.
In fact, her Christmas gifts are still here at my house! LOL
Generally, I chalk it up to "the mind is willing and the flesh is weak" and try not to dwell. Happens to the best of us!

How are things otherwise with your friend?