Fertility Issues - Bridgewater,MA

I am going through a similar situation but don't really have advice. I just wanted to share my story so you knew you weren't alone. I have a 17 month old son and we started trying for the 2nd a little before his first birthday and I got pregnant the first month (a little stresful though since I skipped a cycle, so technically maybe I got pregnant the 2nd month) and I had a miscarriage. It took 8 weeks to get a period after the m/c and than it just now took 9 weeks. Some people get pregnant very easily but I have found it is a hard delicate process. Hang in there and keep me posted.

Hi K.,
My name is C. & I wanted to say first to you, I am soo sad for what you are going thru. I am 6 months pregnant & just attended my first childbirth class Tuesday evening. One of the things that my childbirth instructor talked about was the unnecessary amounts of cesarian births that are performed in the USA & how it is a clear indication that doctor's really do not know what they are doing.

I am concerned that the doctor that performed a c-section may have damaged your internal organs, I would look into this.

Good luck to you, my thoughts & prayers are with you.

Sincerely,
C.

PS
At least you were able to have one child, you can always adopt:)

K.,

I also had the HSG test done & did various series of treatments with clomid & IUIs with no success. I tried for five years to get pregnant and had a couple miscarriages too. My infertility was labled undiagnosable, but on a lark I went and saw a naturopath who gave me some herbal supplements and did accupuncture on me (in the Burlington, VT area) and I swear she's the reason I have an eight month old baby girl today. I guess the big question is whether or not you have the uterine capacity to carry a child to term. If you receive a favorable diagnosis (and they should be able to determine this from ultrasound, right?), you may want to give this a try. Her name is Donna Powell and her number is ###-###-####. Her office is at 33 North Main Street in Burlington, Vermont. I had completely given up after years of trying, going through treatments/inseminations, hormones, you name it. I feel for you and understand your frustration. Being nervous or anxious won't help your fertility either (easier said than done, I know). Have you considered adopting? I briefly considered adopting but financially couldn't afford it at this point in my life and then decided it just wasn't meant to be. I decided to do accupuncture once to give it a try and then when nothing happened that month, I just completely gave up. I couldn't stand the monthly rollercoaster and heartbreak. I was really heartsick over it and it was very hard on my husband too. A month or so later, bang, it just happened. Whatever she did kickstarted something for me in there. I know everybody tells you that it'll happen when you stop trying. I hated hearing that from people who I thought were trying to give me some little appreciated consolation, but boy were they right. Get the accupuncture & herbs, give it up to a higher power & relax.

I wish you luck & understand the heartbreak and frustration involved. Hang in there.

R. J.

Hi K.,
I haven't experienced what you are going through, but I know of many women who have had a tilted uterus that has caused health and fertility problems. Have you heard of Mayan Uterine Massage? That is the only way I know of to correct a tilted uterus, and it is safe, non-invasive, and a very very old technique. I think there are some practitioners around here, so it might be worth checking out.
Good luck!

K. i had the same issue and if i can remember it was alittle crampy but they found that i have cyst infront of both follopin tubes they took them out and then i have a year of feritlity drug and then ivf and i now have twins that are 8 years old who is your doc?

Hi K. -
Don't give up hope! It took me 2 years to conceive my first child. My doctor was just about to refer me to a fertility clinic, but gave me a hysterosalpingogram just before. This must have cleaned out my tubes because I got pregnant right away. But then it took me another 6 years to concieve my 2nd child, with a 1st trimester miscarriage in between. After all this trouble, my husband and I decided we were happy with 2 children and figured we were done. SURPRISE! I just found out I am expecting again, and my youngest has only just turned one. This time we weren't even trying! I know how frustrating it is when you want to have a baby and it just doesn't happen, but I now believe babies have their own ideas of when they should be born. Just don't give up. It will happen! Good Luck!
R.

Hi, I was 34 when I delivered my first born son via emergency c-section. In the process of extricating him, my uterus was torn quite severely. After a long recovery, we hoped for a second. I went to see a wonderful doc and fertility guy who did look at everything. My uterus was tilted, which is supposed to be more difficult for getting pregnant. And, I had scar tissue from the tear and the c-section. But it took 6 years before we got pregnant again. My 40th birthday present was another beautiful boy. It is devastating to live through miscarriages. I know there are great resources available to help with the grieving. But, don't give up and STAY HEALTHY! Think about doing some exercises that improve your core muscles and your pelvic floor. A c-section is extremely invasive. By improving those muscles you may be able to get your uterus to shift. You have many reproductive years ahead of you. Don't feel that it has to happen today. I was so concerned about such a large age gap. Last nite my 8yo and my 2yo played tag and hide and seek. Take heart with your body. You may just need more time to get there. I hope it gives you hope because after my first, I felt the same way. The fact that you are getting pregnant is 1/2 the battle. The rest is up to your body and it does know what to do. Good luck and enjoy that 3yo. I can't believe how fast the last few years went by.

Hi K.,
I wanted to respond to your message because it could have been written by me! I am a 29 year old mom to an almost 3 (next month) year old boy and we have been trying for #2 for over a year an a half. In that time I have had 2 miscarriages 9 months apart. The 2nd miscarriage came a month after I had a hysteosalpingogram. I have endometriosis and uterine fibroids. The largest fibroid is on the very top of my uterus causing it to flop over. They also found cysts on my left ovary. I feel like I have had a million blood tests and everything has come up normal so far.
I am with you on being completely stressed out. I worry that we won't get pregnant again. And I worry about having another miscarriage if we do get pregnant. I am not sure I could handle going through that again. I am definitely not finished having children. We started looking into adoption but found it surprisingly expensive. For us, the next step is a OBGYN that specializes in fertility issues. We have an appointment next week to talk about the next step - intrauterine insemination. Talk about taking all of the fun out of it! I am not sure if we are ready for this step, but I wanted to meet with the doctor and hear him out.
Anyway, I don't have any sage advice for you, since I am in the thick of it as well. But I wanted to offer a sympathetic ear if you need one. I don't have many people to talk to about this. It seems almost everyone I know is pregnant or just had a baby and everyone, from my hairdresser to clients at work ask me when we are going to give our son a younger sibling.

Good luck with everything.

K.

Yes, be aware "Tilted Uteruses" are way more NORMAL then not. I can only imagine what you are going through, but don't give up hope and as someone else stated remember being PHYSICALLY HEALTHY is only half the battle, you must be EMOTIONALLY HEALTY also.

So try to relax and consider second opinions and even tghird if need be but mostly besure to see someone who SPECIALIZES in this. They are well more versed in the right and wrongs.

At the very least be grateful for the child God has blessed you with. And keep in mind their are many unwanted children out there. SOme of which who need a mom and dad to love them.

K.,

I'm so sorry to hear about the trouble that you have been having. My husband and I had fertility issues and it took us 3 miscarriages and 2 rounds of IVF to finally have our daughter (now 11 months old). She was well worth everything we went through (including a hysterosalpingogram). I think my first question for the MD would be if you were to become pregnant, do they expect you to be able to carry the baby to term. If that is the case, then if you can't conceive again on your own, there are many, many options. It is a long and overwhelming process but it can work - just complete one step at a time. If you decide to go the fertility route, I would be more than happy to answer any questions that you might have. Good luck!

S.