Anxiety After D&C

I have a friend who had a D&C, and she has had two children since then. I know how hard miscarriage is. I wish you the best.

My heart goes out to you and I am sorry you had to go through this. I had two miscarriages ( two boys ) and decided after the second one that I wasn't going to try to get pregnant again as they were so devestating to me. Well I ended up getting pregnant and had a beautiful daughter. So there is pregnancy after a D&C. You will conceive again but you have to not think bad things and good things will happen. Good Luck to you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you've had plenty of responses already, but I thought I would add one more. I miscarried in May 2009 and had to have a D&C. I waited until my hcg levels were back to 0 before we tried again. Since my body was already primed for pregnancy I was pregnant again after only 2 cycles. Getting pregnant again and having a healthy baby (he is now 8 months old) was the best thing for mending my heart. The pain of loss is still there, not as strong as it was at first though. It took a good month and a half before I felt like doing anything other than stay in bed all day - it takes time to grieve - allow yourself that time. You have lost a member of your family. Common or not it still hurts. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Hi M.,

My husband and I experienced two miscarriages (one in 1999 and one in early 2000) before having our first baby in March 2001.

My first miscarriage happened early on in the pregnancy and right after my dad past away unexpectantly (I was pregnant before he died and didn't know it). The OB/GYN I had at that time said she still saw a heartbeat after I started bleeding but as time went on, my husband and I started to doubt her. My body was slow in "purging the miscarriage" so I had a D&C to complete the process. The D&C went well. My husband and I were sad but not devastated since we knew that everything was in God's hands and that "all the intricate pieces and parts had to be in the right places" for a healthy baby to form. If you really think about it, it is an amazing process for a baby to form.

My second miscarriage occurred within 6 months or so of having the D&C and this time, my body took care of itself. Again, my husband and I were disappointed but not devastated since it was all in God's hands...something wasn't quite right so God said no (again).

Something inside of me told me that the third attempt would be THE ONE! I wasn't pleased how my current OB/GYN handled my miscarriages so thankfully, my mother-in-law went on the hunt to help find me a new OB/GYN in early 2000 and I have been with her ever since. My new OB/GYN gave me reassurance by stating that she would do everything that she could do for me to NOT have another miscarriage. When I did get pregnant in July 2000, my OB/GYN prescribed progesterone suppositories during the first trimester.

I was 33 when my husband and I were blessed with our first baby (a girl) in March 2001. I was 37 when we had our second baby (a girl) in April 2005, and I was 41 when I had our third child (a boy) in November 2008.

My husband and I didn't focus on the negatives (that we had two miscarriages) but focused on the fact that God blessed us with the ability to get pregnant.

I would encourage you to focus on the positive aspects (you have a beautiful son and you and your hubby are able to get pregnant!) and not the negatives since the negatives will utilize your energies and will wear you down. This is not to say that you cannot mourn for the baby you lost. That is an important part of the healing process. That baby will always be a part of you and cherish that.

I am with you all the way girl! Here's a hug for you...squeeze!

Hope this helps,
K.

M.,
I am so sorry for your loss! I wanted to share the name of an organization and a GREAT resource with you and all the readers. It's called the Hygeia Foundation for Perinatal Loss and Bereavement. http://www.hygeiafoundation.org/
I found their online and in person support groups to be very helpful during my loss and the many years since. Good luck to you and your husband and there is always hope - as long as you create it!
LYC

It is difficult having a D&C due to miscarriage, but as those have said they are very common. I to was devastated when I had to have one on Feb. 2 a couple of years ago, but that same year on April 6 I found out I was pregnant again and went on to have my beautiful daughter in December. Think positive and try not to put a lot of pressure on yourself, it will happen. Good luck to you.

hey M...
I had a D&C and after, had two wonderful, healthy kids..
I understand the depression and even though it doesn't seem like it, you will feel better eventually. Losing a baby at any stage in a pregnacy is difficult and it's hard not to worry about the future. But, things will be ok.. keep your chin up and try not to dwell on the negative. You will get thru it! :)

Hi M.,

I lost a baby at 20 weeks 21 years ago. I still remember it being the worst thing that happened to me my whole life, until my dad died last November. Over the years, I discovered it was a blessing because God has control and a plan for us. That was my first pregnancy and I am happy to say that my oldest son will turn 15 on Thursday. The other two sons are 12 and 4. God is good and whatever He has in mind for you it was supposed to be. Trust Him. I will keep you in my prayers. Take comfort in knowing that time and grace from God does heal your pain.

Peace,
C.

My step mother had 2 miscarriages and then continued on to have 4 additional children she has a total of 6 children now. Your miscarriage as devastating as that is, may have happened because there was a problem with the baby not with you. Have faith that God is doing what is best for you. There is always hope for the future, don't ever doubt that!

Hi there!
First of all my prayers are with you right now. I have two beautiful girls that I am so thankful for but before my first one I had a miscarriage. I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks and had a heartbeat, then at 8 weeks there no longer was a heartbeat. I also felt my own heartbeat had stopped at that moment. I had a D&C also. I thought I was going crazy at first because I was taking it so hard with it being an early pregnancy. Still to this day and that was over 4 years ago, I still tear up thinking about it but if that would not have happened then I wouldn't have my two healthy heartbeats now. If you need anything please let me know. And you need to talk about how you feel. And yes you will get pregnant again, you just need time to heal inside and out for it to happen. Take Care.

Hi M.,
The one thing that helps me at times of troubles is this:
God said " I know the plans I have for you, they are plans for good and not evil".
That always helps me shake off what has knocked me down and keep going.
Be blessed.
Camille

Hi M.,

I'm so sorry for your loss.

but there is hope! I had a D and C (in a third world country) and we purposely waited 6 months to try again. After waiting those agonzing six months, I decided it was time to move back to the USA and go to grad school. The night I made that decision, I got pregnant. She'll be 7 in December.

You'll be OK. Hang in there.

Hugs,
Umber

I had a miscarraige between my son and daughter. The doctor told us to wait 6 weeks before "trying" again (this was after I had an ovary and tube removed prior to my first and that chances were minimal for pregnacy). It's not a big deal - just give yourself and your body time to heal!!!

I don't have experience with this loss.I just wanted to say I am sorry for your loss and the sorrow you are going through.
T.

Hi M.,

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first baby to miscarriage, and like you, was devastated. I went on to conceive 3 months after my d&c and had a healthy baby. I now have two beautiful children. Give yourself time to grieve and try not to worry. Oh, I was also told to wait at least one cycle before trying again, to give the lining of my uterus time to build back up. Best wishes.

M.,

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had one, too, 12 years ago and it was devastating in part because I had been having difficulty conceiving and had taken fertility meds to get pregnant. I want to recommend a book that helped me get through my period of grief. It is called "Empty Arms" and is by Pamela Vredevelt. It truly was a source of comfort for me.

Also, I want to encourage you that you need not worry about conceiving and carrying a baby to term again. The baby I lost was my first. Since then, with the help of God (first and foremost), fertility meds, and progesterone suppositories, I have conceived and carried to term four healthy baby girls who are now 11, 8, 5 and 2.

God bless!

S.

First of all I wanted to tell you that you are not the only one out there who has had a D&C. I had one 6yrs. ago and I still think about it. Your right it hurts to imagine what could of been. Not to mention husbands really don't understand your pain and expect you to move on. We have been trying to conceive for a year and I also wonder if it is due to the D&C why it has not happened, but the doctors keep reassuring me, that is not it. They told me that the more we plan it the unlikely hood of it happening. The doctors said we put our body in a stress mode which makes us unable to conceive. We even tried clomid and it didn't work either. So we just gave it to god and will trust in his decision, which is hard!

Feeling your pain,
K.

Hi M.,
Let me just say that I feel for you. I have never personally been through this, but I have had a friend who had a few misscarriages due to some other complications, her uterus is tilted and she is missing one ovary. She was able to conceive fine afterwards. I hope that helps. I wish I could give you more, but just know that I will be praying for your family. It's never easy losing a child, even one that you didn't get a chance to really meet yet. I would suggest you wait until you are emotionally healed some before you start trying again. Another loss could be more devistating, and your body needs some time to heal. Good luck, and my condolances. Remember that baby is in Heaven waiting for you and you will see it and hold it one day.

Sincerely,
D.
Katy, TX

Your anxiety is normal. I lost a baby at 18 weeks due to a fatal birth defect. I delivered him. He was stillborn. We had a funeral for him. I had to have a D&C a few months later because of complications with my delivery. This was one of my most difficult times of my life. I look back on this loss and realize I should have been on medication to get through it. Your anxiety is normal. I felt as if my body had failed me. I was so nervous to get pregnant again because it was my responsibility to deliver a healthy baby. I had anxiety throughout the entire second pregnancy. I prayed constantly during my 2nd pregnancy. People really did not understand why I could not relax a bit and just be pregnant. It was hard to do. I had a healthy baby girl and she is now 6 years old. I also had a divorce along the way. I still do not trust my body with pregnancy. I guess you would say I am not a happy pregnant woman.

I realize this is a long story to get to the point of yes your feelings are valid. Please remember you still have hormone stuff going on with only being 2 weeks. You will feel better when they start to settle. I encourage to post, blog, call a friend, cry, talk to your husband, or e-mail me. You need loving caring people around you at the moment. Take care of yourself and give yourself time. I hope that the little things of your day will comfort you.

It is a hard time, I know-we got pregnant after being told we wouldn't due to my chemo and radiation-lost the baby at 10wks and had a D&C-was told chances were slim given our situation-since we wanted a baby, we didn't chose to use B.C., 5 weeks later we were pregnant-not even the Dr. believed it!

Our beautiful son is 4 years old and a blessing for many reasons.

Keep the faith!

Hi M.,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how tough it can be. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and it was extremely tough. I didn't end up having a D&C, but I have a friend that had 3 miscarriages before having her daughter and she had to have at least 2 D&C's that I know of (maybe all 3 times). She did eventually carry a baby to term and has a beautiful 5 year old daughter now. It was a devastating time for her and her husband, but pray hard and know that this is all in God's hands. It is definitely possible to conceive again following a D&C, so please just take the time you need to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally from this and then try again when your family is ready. Good luck to you.

I had to have a D&C after I went for my 6wk check up and they couldn't find the heartbeat. It took us a little while, but we have a beautiful 6month old girl now. I was devastated when it happened to me, but my doctor reassured me that it was rather common in women of all ages to have a miscarriage. Just talk about it with other women and you will be so surprised how many women this has actually happened to. I know that doesn't help your feelings of loss, but it is somewhat comforting to know that you aren't alone. I was so scared to do anything the second time I was pregnant thinking it was going to happen all over again, so I only did what I was comfortable with, ie walking, heat exposure, ect. Me telling you not to stress yourself will not do any good, so all I will tell you is try and try again, but only when you are both ready!!

With my first pregnancy I had a D&C. I have a son and I am currently pregnant again. Chrilden are a blessing. I was told to wait a year before trying again to get pregnant. It does get better and I was sad for months after loosing the first baby. Its a very sad thing to loose such a blessing. But I promisse it dose get better. Take time to morn this loss. Trust the doctors when they say you can have more. Pray that Gods will be done. Keep your body healthy and prepared to have another.

Been there,with both,yes you can get preg. again and yes it hurts and I know that I did for quite a while.How ever when you do get and you will (practice makes perfect) the lose will be better for you. Take care of your self and it will happen.

M.~

I feel your pain. I had a D&C during my first pregnancy due to a miscarriage and the devastation was tremendous. It takes time, but your pain will heal. I did conceive three months later with no complications during my pregnancy, and now have a beautiful three year old baby girl. She's the light of my life.

Good luck and think positive thoughts......it will work out for you:)

I'm so sorry for your loss! We went through a similar experience 2 years ago, so I can empathize with how you're feeling. My OB told me I could start trying right away and we got pregnant the first time it was possible, after I had a normal cycle. The cleansing out really does make you extremely fertile. We now have an almost 13 month old beautiful little boy!

The best advice I can offer you is to look at the blessings you have in life and try to plan something else to look forward to in the meantime. I realized I was grieving so much that I wasn't enjoying life and I had so much to be thankful for that I needed to find a way to get past the grief. As trivial as it may seem, my husband and I planned a get-a-way and that really helped. We laughed and cried together and reconnected in a way that probably wouldn't have been possible if we were still at home. Best of luck to you!

Plenty of mamas have conceived after miscarriage and a D&C. Miscarriage is really common, unforunately. I had a D&C 35 years ago when I got pregnant in high school. (Thank you Rowe v. Wade)Once I got married-12 years later and after constantly being on the pill-it took me three years to get pregnant with my son and then another 9 months of trying and fertility drugs to get pregnant the second time. The baby died somewhere between 11 and 13 weeks and I had a D&C. I had already seen the baby's heartbeat and thought I was past that magic first trimester. It's such a sad time- it is a death in the family- and the death of all your hopes and dreams for that little person you didn't even know yet. Take some time to grieve and take care of yourself. Truly this happened for a reason- if that baby had been healthy, it would have survived. It was the baby, not you, that wasn't developing correctly. It took me another 8 months- and the doctor telling me that I would probably never get pregnant again without in vitro!- to conceive. In fact I conceived exactly two weeks after he told me to "take a break and come back after the first of the year" if I wanted to do in vitro because I "wasn't ovulating at all"! He kept shaking his head when I came in pregnant, saying "I don't get it. Are we SURE you're pregnant??" even as he was doing the exam. So- YES!! it can and will happen. Of course I was a wreck for the first trimester of that baby-and never really believed I was going to have a live, healthy baby until she finally arrived- but she is perfect and almost 14 years old now. And two years after that we got pregnant with a third- and my husband and I joke that all we did was say "maybe we'll try for a third". Not sure any sex was involved at all. And she was a twin and I miscarried her twin at about 7 weeks- and never even realized it. I kept thinking I was pregnant but then I would have a "period"- spotting from the miscarriage- so that when I finally went to the doctor thinking I was about 6 weeks pregnant- I was 14 weeks along. When I delivered, there were two placentas and only one baby. One perfect baby. So -whether a D&C is intentional or required- YES- you absolutely can get pregnant again and deliver. And I started having babies late- my first at 36 and my last at 42.....
Good luck.

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I personally do not have any experience with miscarriages. But, let me tell you how to get through your loss. I strongly recommend you go to Jesus and ask him to help you through it. HE is as close as the mention of HIS name! He is waiting for you to turn to HIM! I go to church in Pasadena, not sure where you live, but if you are in my area, please feel free to come to church. Christian Tabernacle of Pasadena. I hope you find peace in this situation.

Holy moly you have a lot of responses! I just wanted to add to what I hope are a lot of positive, reassuring posts...I had two miscarriages/d&c's and a host of fertility problems, but I am now the proud mother of three beautiful daughters. My first miscarriage was a twin pregnancy that I lost at 18 weeks, so I really, really understand the pain you are describing. Hang in there, treasure the time with your son, and lean on your wonderful husband during this difficult time. Hugs to you!!!

Dear M.,
I am sorry for your loss. No one knows how painful it is until they experience a pregnancy loss. You will grieve your baby for a while, and always remember him/her. Yet, you will get pregnant again. Our bodies are amazingly resilient. Trust that your body knows what to do, try not to focus on getting and staying pregnant again, and simply enjoy your son. This time will pass, and it will all be well.

I've had 2 miscarriages and had D&C done with both and conceived 2 more children therafter, I did wait a good while though about a year or so just until I felt ready to try again, it's not easy but God gives us women the strength to endures these trials and I believe there had to be something wrong so the pregnancy terminaated on it's own so have faith and don't give up. Blessings to you!

I know I am coming in late, but I wanted to add one more chime to the chorus! I feel for your and you have my sympathy in your time of loss. I too had one healthy baby ( by c-section after 3 months of bedrest for high blood pressure at the end of my first pregnancy) I got pregnant only 9 months after having her, and it was a bit unplanned, my hubby and I only had sex once without BC! Well, we had just adjusted to the idea of 2 so close together, and got happy/excited instead of a little nervous, and then we went in for an ultrasound and they couldn't find the heartbeat. The Dr. reccommended a D&C, but I refused and we let it happen naturally. It was actually very scary and PAINFUL process, both physically and emotionally, I spent the night in the hospital. Then I spent 8 months greiving and recovering physically and emotionally before we even tried again. We were successful right away and now I have a 4 year old girl and a 2 year old boy!

YES! You will (most likely) be able to have more kids! Miscarriages and D&Cs are FAR more common than anyone knows, till it happens to them , and then the comforting stories of friends and loved ones come out - it is like a taboo, partially becasue it is such a personal and emotional subject for many. I too, though they were very rare, till it happened to me , and three of the nurses who took care of me that night told me their stories, a couple friends, and moms of friends, and my aunt all told me they had lost a baby too. I never had known.

One nice thing we did, was the Mother's Day after I had my son, and we decided we were done having kids, my hubby ordered me a mother's necklace with all three baby's birthstones ( we knew the month I would've been due) in it, it is a nice way to remember our angel in heaven.

Hope you are starting the process of healing!

Well first of all your dealing with a loss so all
your feelings and anxieties are valid . I wanted
to reply because like you I had a miscarriage but after
having 3 kids! Healthy pregnancies so it was very
unexpected! I got pregnant right off the following 30 days
ob gave the ok and had a healthy baby girl .I had a 5th baby and a year later
had another miscarriage. Did not hurt anyless than the first!
So you can expect to over worry when you actually do become
pregnant. I had baby number 6 had some unexplained
bleeding thru first trimester but all went well and he's almost
two . I had dc for both miscarriages as well and that did not
interfere in the possibility of pregnancy. Although there was never
any real reasons fir the miscarriages they happened. These things some
times happen.... I will always remember these precious gifts that I
never met but I allowed myself to enjoy the pregnancies as they happened!
Pray for peace of mind! And you will see all will work out!

Hi, Im sorry for your loss. Although I have never gone thru what you have, I know its hard. To answer your question, you can conceive again. My sister in law lost her first 5 babies and she had D&Cs with every single one, now she has 2 healthy kids and is about to give birth to her 3rd. I saw her grieve every single one of them and she would always say, this is the last time, but she kept going. Just keep thinking about the end result......a beautiful baby! Good luck.

Hi! I ended up having a laparoscopy and a D&C several years ago. It is devastating. My doctor told me that because of this that it will continue to happen. That most women that have tubular pregnancies have them back to back. 6 months later I was pregnant and he is now 7 yrs old. My doctor calls him the miracle baby. Have faith and take care of your self. Dont ever give up.

Hello there. I had a D&C in 2002 when at 12 weeks we no longer heard a heart beat. I also had a previous pregnancy a son, born 2001. I feel your pain and know how hard it is. But I became pregnant three months later and now have a beautiful daughter, age 6 now who amazes me and brings me joy everyday. I hope this brings you some peace and hope. You are in my prayers.

I had a D&C as a result of a "missed" miscarriage. I was devastated for months. I went on to have two healthy children, however. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

I lost a baby girl at 22 weeks, had a D & C, and then gave birth to my son exactly one year after my baby girl was due. Miscarriage is very common. I had 2 daugthers before my miscarriage, so relax, stress is very bad for anyone :) I will pray for you!

Aside from your very traumatic reason for needing the D&C, they are GREAT for cleaning out your system so your body can prepare for a baby.

I know this first hand. I had endometriosis so badly before my first child that my ovaries were wrapped within my fallopian tubes and attached to my bac (hence the sever back pain during periods). I started my period one month and it never stopped. 3 months later they did a D&C to stop the bleeding and I conceived my oldest a mere 3 weeks later. The though process from the doctor (who had claimed I would probably not be able to conceive without fertility help) was that the D&C cleaned out my scarred uterus and allowed a fresh layer to create in it's place and the depo provera shot they were statring me on (I had only had one) caused my ovary to contract with the needed power to actually get the egg out through the mess that the ovaries were in.

The whole thing (D&C, and subsequent pregnancy) allowed me to keep my uterus and ovaries long enough to have my twins 7 years later...I am now uterus and ovary free.

I want to also share with you, that I, myself experienced two miscarriages. Both were devestating to me. I am sorry that you had to experience this yourself. But trust me that it is ABSOLUTELY possible to get pregnant after a miscarriage. I had my oldest 6 years after my first miscarriage (I was not attempting to get pregnant in between) and my twins were about 1 and a half years after my 2nd miscarriage (he was deployed to Iraq after that miscarriage). I did use fertility to get pregnant the second time, but it was because my endometriosis had progressed to a point where normal methods were unable to control it and due to the need for a hysterectomy as the last resort to alleviate my suffering they wanted me to conceive asap versus using natural methods...

Good Luck, and if you want to talk to someone who has been there feel free to PM me... ;-)

I am sorry for you loss. Anytime you lose a baby it hurts. Give yourself time to mourn. It's natural to be scared and feel the way you are feeling now.

I went through the same thing and after the recommended 3 month waiting period I was pregant again. My son was born a healthy 8 lbs and is now 10 years old.

Hi M.,
I wanted to assure you about additional pregnancies after a miscarriage and D&C. I had miscarried and then had a D&C to make sure everything was cleaned out of the uterus. You don't need to get a uterine infection. I have since had two healthy pregnancies & given birth to two healthy babies.
I would recommend that you use some kind of birth control for a few months, to make sure the uterus has recouperated
from the procedure. I waited about 6 months and then tried again. I did not have any trouble conceiving again. I was pregnant again within 2 months of no birth control. Good Luck, and don't worry, you will have more children.
Sincerely, L. T.

I lost three babies before having my beautiful twin girls three years ago. Hang in there and have hope that God has a plan for you. It's so hard, but it will get better. I had a D&C with my first two miscarriages. Make sure you are with a doctor that you trust and keep the lines of communication open with your husband. It will get better!

I have never been through this because I'm unfortunately infertile, but I have had several friends who have had D & C's and later went on to have healthy babies, and even at least one friend who miscarried naturally (before the D & C was scheduled) and went on to have healthy babies.

I am so sorry for your loss.

M.,

I am sorry to hear about the miscarriage. Just have to know in your heart that it was Gods way of taking care of it for something being wrong beyond your control.

I have had three miscarriages after having had one normal pregnancy. The third miscarriage was a tubal pregnancy and was very painful. I did have problems getting pregnant and staying pregnant. The doctor finally put me on a steriod shot for the first trimester along with one baby asprin and I carried it to term with no problems.

Good Luck to you and your family and try not to worry......it will happen for you again!

I know how you feel.

I had a miscarriage within the 1st trimester of my pregnancy. A miscarriage truly is a death in the family. Please, do not give up hope. I got pregnant three months after I had the D&C and my pregnancy went well and my baby boy was healthy. While you are recovering, take the time to relax. What helped me during my recovery was my husband would take me out of the house each day. It was the little things like going for a ride, visiting my family or watching a matinee. Plus, he gave me a chocolate bar each day.

Take it day by day.

Losing a pregnancy is never easy. Even having the Doctors tell you that everything will be fine doesn't ease the burden or the worry. I have had 3 D&C's and was able to have a successful pregnancy afterward. Not always right after, I have had 6 miscarriages, but I was able to get pregnant again. I'm sure that worry will always be in your mind until it happens, and maybe after that. I hope you can find peace and that everything goes well.

Hi M.,
So sorry you have had to experience this and the loss of a child can be devasting. D&C's do not keep you from getting pregnant again- they just remove all the nasty junk your body could not discharge in order to get you back to a normal cycle. I have had several of them- about 4 I think in my lifetime- after my last round of female issues with cists and tumors and all kinds of ugly things I had three beauatiful children-
If the depression continues or more than another week or so I would consult my Dr. for something for temporary relief. It is normal you would feel this depression after a miscarriage but it will get better
God bless you.

I gave birth to two healthy babies and then I had two miscarriages. The second one required a D&C. It was devastating. It took me a couple of years to get over it emotionally.

It is a death in the family and everyone grieves differently. As D&C is also scary because it is a surgical procedure. It hasn't been long since this happened to you. While you will always remember this, time should help you feel better.

I went on to have a third healthy baby. I am more grateful for him than I ever thought possible. Before my miscarriages, I just took it for granted that I would get pregnant and have a baby 9 months later.

Best of luck to you. Don't give up hope!

Hi M.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts, & although you will ALWAYS remember the baby you lost, it will get easier. My husband & I had tried to conceive for 2 1/2 years before I got pregnant. Obviously I was elated, but when I hit 15 1/2 weeks there was no heartbeat. You know how I felt. I had a D&C a few days later. Well I took a little time off from trying to conceive in order to heal. Well, long story short, I now have a beautiful 18 month baby girl. She is so perfect & smart & gorgeous!! It will happen for you too, I just know it. And if for some reason the Lord doesn't give you that 2nd child, just know that you are already blessed to be a mom - what a wonderful world.
Hope this helps - I pray you get baby #2!
Good luck & God bless
H. B

Hi M.,

I went through 2 miscarriages and on the second received a D&C. 6 months later I got pregnant again and now have a wonderful and beautiful 2 year old daughter. Miscarriages are the hardest things to get through, but when you finally get pregnant and get to hold your baby it makes you appreciate them so much more. It makes you realize how wonderful God is and how life really is a miracle.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I had 2 miscarriages, the second one requiring a D&C. I was horrified that I would never be able to have children, because I kept miscarrying. My doctor was very good to assure me that the procedure would do nothing but help the possibility of future pregnancies, so I didn't worry about that. But just to reassure you, I went on to have 3 perfectly healthy babies afterward. The D&C could have possibly helped my ability to maintain a pregnancy, or it was just God's timing, or who knows why the first two went straight to His arms, and these 3 are here with me. Whatever it is...future children are still possible for you. Just pray and trust the Lord to be with you. I am so sorry for your recent loss. I pray for your healing, physically and spritually. Big hugs!

C.

I know how you feel, I was the same way. I lost twins 8 years ago & had a D & C. 6 months later I was pregnant again and have a very happy & healthy daughter. It still hurts but I am so happy to have my little girl. I wish you luck in the future.

I had a misscarriage the first time I was pregnant and they did tests and found out the baby was normal, and I was J. high risk, I would J. reccomend when you do start trying take the vitamins in advance and let your doctor know, in case they want to test your hormone levels in the first week after you show a positive test, mine were low so I J. had to take progestrine so my body wouldn't reject it, I guess everyones reason for a misscarriage is diferent J. let your body heal and your doctor know what your doing. but yeah the d & C didn't stop M. from having a healthy baby. Also I don't know what your planning on doing but what helped M. with the depression was I got preganant before the other baby would have been due,I took a few months off and then tried, and it helped M. to know there was no way I could have had my daughter if my 1st pregnancy worked, so now I'm greatful for it, because I couldn't imagine life without her.

Of course you can. I had a D&C when my first child was about 10 mos old. I got pregnant again about 6 mos later and miscarried a second time at 11 wks gestation. That one was really hard to deal with...
But about 2 mos later I got pregnant again, and now I am 30 wks w/ no complications!
Although the statistics say it's rare, I actually discovered that I knew quite a few people who had 2 miscarriages in a row and then went on to successfully have multiple children. So don't give up, you've already had 1 healthy child, the odds are in your favor.

sorry about your loss, but there is hope for you to have many more children. i did not have a miscarriage but my niece's first pregnancy resulted that way and 10 yrs later she is on the way to having baby number 5 in sept. so good luck and be patient.

M., I am so sorry for your loss. It is a loss and you will never forget it and don't let others make you feel like you should "get over it". The pain will lessen, and you will move onto the next phases of your life, but you will never ever forget, and you will always wonder what this child might have looked like, and what they may have become. When you see kids and even young adults the same age this child would have been you will wonder. This is normal. I miscarried in 1981 at 4 months. I had a 1 year old at the time. Had to have a D&C (or dusting and cleaning as I call it) after her, then again when I miscarried with her brother. In 1982 I gave birth to another girl who will be 27 this year. The only people that will truly understand your pain is another woman that has been through it too.
God bless you and keep you and your family, this too will pass and you CAN go on and have more children that you will love and cherish, but the memory will be there forever.

You should mourn for your baby. That is natural. My very good friend had two in a row. She says that if she thinks about them hard enough she will cry.

Now for the GOOD NEWS -- she has a happy healthy baby girl!!!!

Give yourself some time to mourn. Cry as much as you need to. Get angry and yell. Don't hold it in and keep trying.

She did learn that her iron count was low and started to take iron supplements.

I had 2 miscarriages before I had my son who is now 31. I was 23-24 years old at the time. The Doctors told me that it was just God's or Mother Natures way of taking care of something that was not right. It took over a year for me to get pregnant again, of course, I was frightened. The Doctor after 2 months told me that I could probably stand on my head, and this baby would be fine. The last miscarriage I had had been at 10 weeks. Anyway, the final result was a bouncing 9.6# baby boy. The doctors told me that they do not worry about miscarriage until you have 4. It seemed harsh at the time; however, I guess that they were correct. So, maybe this gives you comfort. Good luck!

I had my first son in November, 1997 and I miscarried a pregnancy at home in March, 1998 at approx. 12 wks. and had to have a D&C. It was the most painful thing I think I've ever dealt with (mentally and physically - it was worse than childbirth!). Like Brenda L. said, my doctor also said it was nature's way of "taking care of something that was not right." I was completely paranoid after that and when I did get pregnant again in late 1999, I was convinced that something bad would happen at every turn. Now I have 2 fantastic, incredibly healthy boys (8 and 11), and the only problem I did end up having with my pregnancy was gestational diabetes - everything else was perfectly normal! So, try not to stress too much, and have faith!!!

Hi M.,

I am so sorry for your loss. I know the devastation and heartbreak. After TTC for over 2 years, and a surgery to remove a giant cyst and endo, I got PG in Nov. 2007. I was elated...a few weeks later, I had an U/S that showed an empty sac. I miscarried 2 weeks before Christmas. It was the worst pain I'd ever felt. We were advised to wait only 1 cycle before trying again as I was 38 and time was of the essence. We actually got PG again right away. My beautiful boy is now 10 months old! So it is possible to have another healthy pregnancy. Don't give up hope. Give yourself time to heal and then try again when you are ready.

Blessings

Hello M.,

i feel your pain.. and the thought of not being pregnant really hurts. I had the same thing done and feeling way down. But, really you should be able to conceive after your next cycle. You want to give a month. It's like getting a fresh start after have the D&C. Like having yourself clean and fresh for the next baby to grow. Good luck to you and may GOD BLESS you soon