T.S.
I totally love and respect family traditions!
But believe me, with my brother in law it is definitely his ego. He makes a huge exhibition at family functions. Not only does he not share his recipes, he brings his own special equipment, including a special salad stand for his "famous" Caesar salad, lol!
My father in law was a professional chef, and the extended family is very large and we all love to cook and eat. When he was still alive he was the one we called upon when we were having trouble in the kitchen. He was always very open and generous with his advice. Yet, even if we followed his directions word for word, it never quite tasted the same. There is something to be said for years of experience, and I still miss working with him in the kitchen :(
So, when someone comments to me OMG this is so good my first instinct is to say, oh I'll email you the recipe! That's just my personality, I feel like I'm spreading the love, and continuing in the generous spirit of my FIL :)
Cooking certainly is a very personal experience, isn't it?