G.B.
I want you to go to FB on another tab. That way you can do this while reading this post too.
Hover your mouse over any of your friends names. Then when the box comes up move your cursor down to settings. Click on it.
That person will have a list come up with checks by each thing. Uncheck each of the boxes that you DON'T want to see on your own wall. They can do this on your name too.
This is a tool that YOU can use for what YOU see on your own wall. They use it on their own wall to manage what they see.
Let's say that you and I are friends. When I friend someone I go automatically when I check "confirm" then do this action. If I play games with that person but don't know them personally I uncheck each box except "Most Updates" on the top then all by "Games" on the bottom. This way I do not see when they post a status update, when they comment on their grand kids graduation picture, if they share a lot of youtube music video's, etc....I see only what "I" want to see.
When you friend someone you give them the right to see your account....you give them the permission to see the comments you make on other peoples posts, you give them permission to see what you "like" when you find a page that you want to follow or subscribe too. That's what FB is all about, it's a social network.
The only thing you can do is ask yourself what your purpose is on FB.
My sister is one of those people who are very very very private and afraid of getting hacked, too much information given out, etc...I have told her over and over that she might not want to be on FB then.
By making an account you are putting yourself out there. You comment on a friends post then all their friends can see that too. It's their post that YOU commented on. All that person's friends see their posts. She just can't wrap her head around that. She doesn't want anyone else to see anything she does....why she is on FB I don't know. Maybe it's an activity that will help her be able to be outside her box...lol.
So, you need to go to each of your friends name and hover until that box comes up OR you can go to each friends wall by clicking on their names and then go to the word "Friends" and when the box comes up it will have a list:
In the box:
Get Notifications........make sure this one is unchecked
Show in News Feed.....Make sure this one IS checked or you will never see anything this person posts. NOTHING. You are limiting what YOU SEE on your wall. I have a cousin that doesn't always post using nice language. I have this unchecked on him. I don't want to unfriend him, I just don't want to see his posts.
SETTINGS...this is the one you will click on to manage what YOU SEE on your own wall from this person, more on this one in a minute...
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Close Friends
Acquaintances
Add to another list
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Suggest friends
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Unfriend
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Now back to the list that comes up when you click on SETTINGS>
GO BACK....I don't use this one for anything.
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How many updates? FB is asking you how much of this person's FB stuff do YOU want to see.
All Updates
Most Updates
Only Important
I have Most updates on everyone except my daughter and a couple of other truly close friends who I have clicked on All Updates.
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What type of updates.......this is the core of FB for your purpose.
Life Events
Status Updates
Photos
Games
Comments and Likes
Music and Videos
Other Activity
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There is NO NEED to have all of these checked unless you truly want to see their posts about that topic.
You must pick on on the top, do you want to see EVERY single post they do? If this is your child you may want to do that. If this is just a person you are acquainted with you may not want to see stuff they post except important stuff. I have almost everyone checked on most updates.
Then you can check or uncheck anything you want on the bottom. You have to pick one though.
This will explain them a little bit.
Life events, not sure what it is, I don't have it checked on anyone at all.
Status updates, I have this one checked only on people who I want to see what they post. I DO NOT have this checked on anyone I am friends with just to play games with. I only have GAMES checked on these people. If I do not want to see what is going on in their daily life and don't care to see their posts I do not check this box.
Photo's, this is a box you'll need to uncheck. This is the one that you are in control of that limits their posts on other people's stuff. If THEY comment on someone else's pictures this limits that post and it should not show up on your wall. If you and I were friends and I commented on my sister's pictures then if you had this box checked, you would see my comment that I made on my sister's picture. By friending you I have given you permission to see my comments and all that "I" do. By unchecking this box you are limiting MY posts on your wall.
Games, if you do not play games then uncheck this box. If you do play games with people and don't really want to "know them" on a personal level then uncheck everything except this box in the bottom section. On my friends that "I" ONLY play games with I only have 2 checks...one on Most updates and the other on Games. I do not see anything they post except their game posts.
Comments and Likes, if I comment on anyone's posts it will show up on your wall if you have this checked. If I like a comment made by someone else it will show up on your wall. Unless you live vicariously through me you really will want to uncheck this box. Seriously, each and every thing I do will show up on your wall if you have this checked. Uncheck it on everyone...unless you really like the things this person likes.
Music and Videos, I have a couple of cousin's grand kids as friends just so I can get to know extended family better. I really enjoy watching video's they have shared. I had never heard of Nickelback. BY checking this box on this "friend" I was exposed to new and wonderful music that I truly enjoy and like. I keep this one checked on people that I find to have good taste in music that posts a lot of music posts. I only have this checked on people that I like their taste in music, they have to post vidoe's for you to see this option though. If they don't post music video's it doesn't matter.
Other activity. I don't know. I have it unchecked on everyone.
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SO this is how YOU manage what YOU see on YOUR OWN WALL. Each person needs to do this on each and every one of their own friends too.
When you join FB you need to understand, everything you do is open to each and every person you are friends with. That is how a social network works. Shared content is everything it is about. So you can manage what YOU SEE just as your friends should manage what THEY SEE.
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ETA
Sorry, I forgot to comment on the option to make lists.
I have all my family members on a list, one for my mom's side of the family and one for my dad's side of the family, then I have one for my own personal immed. family.
I have all my highschool friends on a list called old friends
I have one for close friends, I have a few people that I don't want to miss anything they share so I have them on a list.
I also have one for church friends. They post a lot of religious posts and I want to be able to go on that list when I have more time so I can read any articles they have sited or shared.
Then I have a list of my games friends. One of my lists is called FarmTown and the other list is called Garden's of Time. When I go to that list I only see those people that "I" have chosen to be on that list. It narrows down who I am seeing so "I" can see more of their posts.
This way I have the group of friends that play that particular game on one list and I can go to that list and see a LOT MORE posts by them than what is typically shown. For FarmTown this option usually shows me all their posts for their facilities and bonuses and requests for ingredients. When they post these they sometimes are skipped by FB and they never show up. Since I have these names pin pointed in a list I see more of their posts. So I get more to select from.
The lists show up on my wall down on the left side a bit. I can click on them and only the people "I" have put on that list will show.
