Dont Want Sex

I too am 8 wks pregnant with my second and my husband got really mad when I told him not to touch my breasts. I explained to him that they are really sensitive right now and he was a little understanding. With the nausea and change in hormones I have no desire, but know cthat my husband has needs. I feel it is my part as a wife to try and satisfy some of those needs. I am also very tired this time around and sleep whenever my daughter sleeps, which really makes it tough for sex. I know that I will feel better next trimester and things will change then. In the meantime I will try and please him when I can tolerate it.

I have 4 children, girls aged 8, 3, and 5 and a boy who is 6 months. When I was pregnant with my son, I had absolutely no interest in sex. It was different with the girls, but with him, I couldn't stand it. I could barely stand for my husband to breathe on me. The only contact I wanted was for him to massage me, but then he thought he could get some. It was really hard on our relationship and I felt miserable about it. Some people thought I should make myself give him sex, but if I did I would be thinking the whole time that I wished it was over. I even used any excuse I could to stop right in the middle, like if one of the kids made a noise I would have to investigate it.

I am a midwife, so I know all about hormones and how they can affect your sex drive. I reassured my husband over and over again, but he still felt hurt and rejected. I just want to reassure you that it gets better. My son is 6 months old now and I suddenly have my sex drive back. It's not constant yet, mainly because I am still breastfeeding. Still, my husband is a much happier man.

I had the same problem. It was a very rough nine months. After he was born I felt normal again, but during the pregnancy I didn't want sex at all! My obgyn wasn't much help...she just said it's hormones. No suggestions on what to do about it or anything. We talked about it frequently because I knew he was feeling neglected. I think that helped him some. He knew I wasn't avoiding him because I didn't love him or something like that! I'm sorry I don't have any good advice for you! I just wanted you to know it's not just you! Good luck! I hope someone else will give you some better advice!

Hi K.. I am 19 weeks pregnant now. When I was just pregnant my breasts were so tender, and I was exhausted and had NO desire to have sex, be touched or even entertain the idea. I wanted nothing to do with sex. I am happy to say that my libido has definitely been making a comeback. It probably started improving around 15 or 16 weeks and now is fully back (and then some). Maybe try to explain to your fiance how you are feeling and let him know that it is your hormones and not him (that was a big thing for my guy). It is a tough time and another strain to the relationship, but it might get better for you. Good luck and know that you are not alone!

Consult your doctor to make sure everything is OK with you physically. Have you and your fiance' had any disagreements lately? Are you depressed?
These are things you need to figure out and talk about with your boyfriend. If this pregnancy was a surprise, it may be affecting your mentally more than you realize.

I am soooo with you. I am almost 13 weeks pregnant and I want no part of sex. I have never been one to want to do it all of the time anyways, but since I got pregnant it is way worse. I don't mean for this to sound harsh and I love my husband more than anything, but I almost get sick or mad when I think about having to do it. I so wish I felt differently, but I don't and I am not sure what to do about it. I was similar with my first pregnancy, but worse this time. I wish I had some advice to help, but I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone or strange for having those feelings.

I am 2 months pregnant myself and am experiencing the same thing. Honestly, I couldn't get enough when I was pregnant with my son, but it's different this time. Everyone thinks it's a girl because everything is so different. Just remember that we all make sacrifices for the ones we love. I've had to force myself quite a few times for my fiance because I love him. He makes a ton of sacrifices for me, so it's only fair. Let me know any time you need to talk!!
Good luck!!!!

Very, Very common during the first trimester. Do you have a copy of What to Expect when your Expecting. This uusually turns around at the start of the second trimester. If you are worried about hurting the baby don't, usless your doctor says not have sex. But I was so tired during the first trimester with my second that I usually fell asleep. I had a decreased drive as well. It should pass.

When I was pregnant I would still get the desire but when we tried it felt so unpleasant I didn't want to do it again until months after my son was born. As for my husband, after I really started to show he kind of lost desire too. He said he felt too weird knowing his son was just inches away!:)

Well, I understand where you're coming from, but one thing you have to remember is that as a wife, you also have the responsibility of keeping your husband's needs met. I am not the most sexual person, and very rarely am I "in the mood". As a matter of fact, there's only a few times a year when I actually feel like initiating sex. However, I like to call it "marriage maintenance". If my husband and I have sex 2-3 times a week, our marriage is great. If we go more than 4 or 5 days without sex, we tend to fight and argue because my husband needs sex more often than that. So, I just make sure we have regular sex, whether I feel in the mood or not. It's always worth it too because it keeps our level of intimacy up. I don't "dislike" sex, but I definitely think I could probably go without and be okay. You may just have to look at it differently and think of it as your way of keeping your husband happy.

Everyone and every prgnancy is diffrent with my first I didn't want sex at all! I looked at it as I;m all ready pregnant that was the only reason to do it anyway. Now with this one I can't get enough. Your feelings toward sex may change during the pregnancy, but as for now you can ask him what things yo can do for him other than sex to help him fill those needs and let him know what you need from too maybe taking your daughter out to the park so you can rest and when he gets back give you a back rub or something like that might help with mood. I hope this helps good luck.