J.L.
Edit: lol, I just realised in my answer I said that I loaded the car with groceries, and then later on said we didn't have time for grocery shopping. Just to make it clear, my mum would ring up on Friday afternoons to ask us to collect certain items such as bulk dog food and bulk longlife milk for her. She couldn't leave my father at all and so relied on others to pick things up for her. :)
Yes, yes, yes! It's incredible the insensitive complaining some people do! My MIL did this the other day: my husband and I work full-time in responsible jobs, and we have three small boys in day pre-school and kindergarten. My husband employs his brother who is 34 and living at home with his mother. Until two weeks ago when my father died my husband and I would load the car with kids, clothes and groceries and every Friday after I finished work, we would drive the hour away to my father's home so that I could nurse him as he died, and my husband would work all weekend trying to maintain my father's farm. On Sunday evening we would head home where my husband would head straight back to work (he works 12-hour nights)' and the whole thing would start again. We were exhausted and emotionally drained. We didn't even have time to do our grocery shopping, and we haven't had a vacation for ever (we've never taken our children for a break). This went on for months. Then one day my MIL came to my work and told me how my BIL was so upset by MY father's illness (they hardly knew each other and then my BIL didn't better coming to the funeral)' and told me how much my BIL needed a break from work and that my husband should give him time off. I didn't know what to say. I just looked at her.