Hey Moms
I wanted to know if any of you have any ideas make my husband feel special, appreciated, loved & respected. We have been through alot of major changes in the last couple of months & I noticed that he is supper stressed, and down. I would even say a little depressed. We had an awful fall out with his family, we moved overnight, we had a baby & he works weekends & some nights graveyard. I know he misses spending family time with us but honestly I think we should be the happiest we've ever been. We are healthy & alive and together. I know I too have been through alot & I havnt been myself so do any of you know any good books I can read that will inspire me to make my husband a priority again. With the new baby & boys I think I get caught up & by the time he gets home im so tired & overwhelmed. I love him & dont want to neglect him but Im stuck. I dont have any ideas. I've tried dates at home, park picnics before but I am in need of new ideas? I think it's the little things that count so anything will help! He really doesnt have any hobbies all he know is work & us. Thanks
you know I think about that a lot myself. One thing that I do is tell him that I appreciate him all the time, but what he really loves is when I wrap my arms around him and just hug him for a long time, and I look into his eyes and tell him that I love him. I know that makes his day. Just tell him how lucky you are to have a responsible husband who takes care of his family.
I could tell you, but some on here may find it offensive (hint, hint, wink, wink)...
When my hubby he feels like this its mostly because he has a soulsucking job, and wants to spend more alone time with me. (Awwww....) I know the things he loves the most. If he could have one day with me it would be: a movie (his choice of course) a dinner somewhere with some cocktails, a trip to the beach since we love bodyboarding together. Do you have any family near by?? If there is anyway you can spend a whole day together doing what you guys loved to do together before kids, bills, stress, long hours... etc. It doesn't have If he has to call in sick then fine. Just go with the flow, let him pick everything, and do it all with a huge smile. And some hanky panky when you get home :D
I know that being a mom of multiple children makes you exhausted by the end of the day. I only have one kid and I'm asleep by 10:30 each night!
But honestly, sex always works with my husband. Always. I don't even have to do anything special for him, just initiating it is enough for him.
I agree with Jane. Touch means a lot to men.
My recommendation, make it about you two. Wether sensual or romantic. Or you could just have him lie down and give him a full body massage. When mine gets that was, i hire a baby sitter, book a hotel for a few hours. go out, have some fun then enjoy eachother at the hotel and we are back before bedtime, sometimes even dinner.
Does your hubby enjoy time to himself? I send my man off to the movies when he is getting stressed. I tell him to go and enjoy! My hubby also loves candy! He is a candy monster but he does his best to not overdo it of course. But when he is in a particularly stressful time at work etc, I might leave some reeses on his pillow. Of course, just showing up to bed in the buff and totally into him never hurts!! Are there any hobbies he would like to do but just never pursues? Maybe remind him that he thought of taking up golf etc and see if he might want to do something related to that. Does he enjoy sports, fights, MMA? Maybe arrange a babysitter when there is a fight on he might want to see and go to a sports bar and hang out and watch it together. Or if you have the ability, set it up at home with pay per view and watch it together. Hope this helps! It will get better, I know how it is when a man is in a funk, the main thing is to give him some room of course while doing anything you can to be there for him. My hubby usually sorts it out himself and then tells me what was up afterwards, he is an internalizer. I just let him work it out usually. Hang in there, you are a gem to actually care what is up with him with all that is on your plate, he is blessed to have you :D
Can you visit him at work one night with dinner? If he does like to do anything, golf, fishing, etc and he gets the opportunity to do it, let him even if he has been working and you need a break. My hubby is golfing right now. Not that I want him to, but I know he just needs a break!
Us mom's have a lot on our plates, but the dads just seem to have a lot on their shoulders and every where else.
Good luck!
If you can afford a night at a Bed & Breakfast, surprise him with one (make sure it fits in his work schedule, of course). Pack everything, including some nice lingerie, beforehand, and tell him you have a surprise. Go there and get all checked in then take him up to the room (I did this about 5 years into our marriage and he LOVED it!!) Make sure to bring champagne (or sparkling cider) and other things to make it a special evening/night (ask what they can have in the room when you arrive). Doesn't have to be a super fancy place, but nicer than a motel :)
If you can't afford to go out, find a sitter for the night and plan it all for at home. Maybe the kids can stay over with someone in your family. Get the house all set up before he comes in, and if you can, meet him in a sexy outfit.
Often, the gift of your time and attention speaks volumes to the man in your life - I've seen it happen! :o)
good luck and have fun!!
