Custody Issue

there are ways to get his address even if he doesn't want you to have it. Interested send me an email

This may sound weird but I think you are lucky. I sort of had that and it helped me to not have to deal with custody. I had physical and legal custody and we never had to deal with my ex. I handled it all. He did not bother to let me know where he was so it was all on me. I had already stepped up to the challenge of being a single parent at the time so it made is kind of easier. I grew up knowing that my ex never would if he was going to act like that. Your child needs a parent. For us it worked out. I hope it does for you.

Legally he is supposed to give you his new address within 24 hrs of the move. That should be noted in your court paperwork. My ex tried to pull that one and I simply told him he would not be taking our daughter for visitaion until I was given that information. He's just being a jerk of course you want to know where your child is when not with you.

um, yeah, he needs to provide you his address. One, I'm sure the courts would want it in order to make sure he pays his fair share of child support. And, two, if he will have custody of your child at any time, you should have the ability to locate him at any time.

Susan is right. You need an attorney NOW.
As long as your are still legally married, you don't have the protections that you will get once you have a legal court order that dictates the circumstances of your child's visititation with his father.
That aside, I would never let my child go with another adult unless I knew where they would be and how I could reach them.

Hello, I could be wrong, but I believe if your child is visiting his/her father he is required to give you the address. However, I don't know if he is if the child isn't visiting. He is running from something (responsibility). I would ask a lawyer.
Good luck with your precious child.
K. K.

My husband and I have been going through this for the past 3 years. We have 100% physical custody and 50% legal custody of his two daughters. It is absolutely necessary that you have your husband's new address if your child will be visiting with him at his house. In most situations like this, it is actually legally required that if either party moves, they must notify the other party within 5 business days.

Check whitepages.com - enter his name (or girl friend's name) and the city. The address should come up.

You could also try reverse look-up.

There are ways of getting around him not giving you his location. The corts can demand it but you can aslo research him on the internet. It is public access.

My friend is going through this very same issue and she was told that the only way it could ever be enforced is if it is in the court order for the location to be disclosed... otherwise they don't have to tell.

yeah...been there done that. get what you can while you can, my dad never paid a thing & neither did my kids dad...he too would not give me his whereabouts! They are all grown now...men can be such idiots!

Yes you should have his address.
My ex did not want to give me his address, when it was time to bring my son back he would not. I could not get my son back and he brought him days late. He refused to give me the address, so I did an osc so I could get the address, and also to resolve the problem of not bringing him back. Long story short my ex continued to keep him over his days, but i was able to get assistance from the police to get our son back the other times.
Its been along battle and now our son hates going over.
GET THE ADDRESS FOR your sons safety and your sanity

My friend's Ex Husband... although divorced for YEARS... has refused to ever give her his address/phone number/or place of employment. AND he is very secretive about it. She has tried...but to no avail.
She has full custody of her kids though.
Her Ex.... only comes around or spends time with the kids about once a month. Or less. The kids do not like him at all. Because now that they are old enough to know better... they know he is a dead-beat Dad. Even though my friend never talked negatively about her Ex.

I would... really get the Advice of a Lawyer. Since you both have joint custody.... but you have physical custody.
AND, you are still "separated" but not Divorced.

Basically, if he skips town and does not give you any forwarding address/phone number/place of employment....he can disappear off the face of the Earth and you would not know. AND... you would not know his coming and goings regarding your child... and what if he goes to your child's school or something and tries to pick him/her up from school WITHOUT you knowing.. for example? Then your child could disappear too, and you would not know how to contact your "Husband." Just an example, but which happens sometimes.

So, you should ALSO alert any school/Daycare your child goes too... and UPDATE them on this status and WHO is "allowed" to get your child in case of emergency or ANYTHING or any scenario. Think ahead....

And, what if he says he's moving to another city... but actually doesn't???? You would not know that.

You NEED to think FOREMOST Of your life/and your child... and protecting/safeguarding against anything. For the both of you.

The fact that your "Husband" does not feel he has to inform you of anything.... would lead me to believe that he cannot be trusted...nor regarding your child.

And since you are "separated"... was this done legally or just an agreement between the both of you? Was the "custody" of your child legally done in the courts, or just something you/he decided on your own?

Also, I would change the locks on your doors....so your 'Ex' does not feel he can come and go INTO your house, while you are home or not. (I saw your other posting about your "Husband" coming to your house whenever he feels like it even though he left months ago).

You NEED an Attorney. Now.

All the best,
Susan