I recently ended a very abusive relationship..i share a 4 month old daughter with my ex. i dropped her off with him for the day and while on my way to pick her up he notified me that he was not letting me bring her home and wasnt going to let me see her. i immediately called the police and they were unable to do anything because he's on her birth certificate. .my daughter needs to be with her mother and sleeping in her own bed at night,not in a stroller with her bottle being propped up. it breaks my heart that her father is using her as some sort of object to gain power and revenge towards me..im concerned for her safety and well being. if anybody has any experience with this sort of matter i would greatly appreciate any advice as to what i should to so my baby can be home as soon as possible.
Get an attorney. No one parent has the right to claim custody above the other without a court order.
Get a lawyer
Get her back
File a restraining order
Best to you, mama...
I second J.B.'s answer below -- go in person to your local courthouse (maybe call first to make sure you go to the right one) and talk to someone in the family division / domestic violence. They will know how to help you. There is no way a 4-month old should be separated from her mom.
(It could be true that the police can't do anything without a court order.)
Best wishes to you. Stay strong, and don't be afraid/ashamed to ask for help! There are lots of resources out there. Sending you lots of love!!
Get an attorney asap.
Contact the domestic violence hotliine or a local women's shelter. They have advice and resources for cases like yours. Document everything that your ex is doing including times, dates, phone calls, conversations, locations. Do it while the info is fresh in your mind.
You are also on the birth certificate. Were you married? Do you have a parenting plan or court order in place? If not, get a copy of the police report that just happened and go to the local courthouse and file for "emergency temporary custody". Then file the right paperwork at the courthouse to get a custody and parenting plan in place. That way if he only gets her say every other weekend, then he can't just take off with her, it will be "illegal" (against the court order) and then you can call the cops and he will HAVE to give her back. But you made this child with this man and unfortunately he has a right to see her. You just need to get a schedule thru the court so it's legal. Good luck.
If you don't have custody established, go file immediately.
That's crazy! It doesn't matter who is on the birth certificate he can't deny you access to your child! Go to your local family courthouse (also called probate court) RIGHT NOW and talk to whoever will listen to you. The best person to start with will be the department that handles restraining orders and domestic violence.
There's really something off about your story, but going with it:
Get a lawyer immediately. File for emergency temporary custody. If you have documented proof for your reasons, police reports from previous incidents, etc, get them to your lawyer. Get all of your legal ducks in a row and pray that your ex isn't doing what you should be doing right now.
