Communication with Ex

Oh, I am supposed to communicate with my son's father! Dang it - did anyone tell him that. LOL

Yep, you guessed it - my communication technique is to raise my son and make decisions that are in his best interest. Now that my son is 14 I just talk to my son about major decisions - like where to buy a house, vacation, college savings, etc.

But, his father has chosen, through words and actions, not to be an involved parent. Oh, I still notify him of anything major, but usually after I have handled the situation.

Best for me is to take care of my son and not wait on input from his father.
:P

Email works best for us. Talking doesn't really get anything resolved and there is no written record if we need to reference things later. Text is sometimes necessary due to time contraints, but also seems to go "back and forth" too much. Emails provide a clear, written record of what was said and can be easily referenced and answered on the person's own time. Just remember, whatever you are saying in those emails can be brought up at any time later down the road!

Good luck!

email if you receive a receipt of it....otherwise you have no guarantee that he actually received & opened the email!!! Getting him to actually read the email is a totally different issue....

& because of this, I still recommend an honest phone call. It's the only way you can guarantee contact with him. & if he doesn't "listen" to you, then that's his problem.....you tried!

Please don't resort to giving the child the note.....that's what my sis does & I HATE that she uses her child as the note-bearer. It is so wrong & unfair to place the child in the middle!!! Peace.

Typically working with his new wife has worked best for me but I know that is probably the exceptiong. My ex only listens to half of what you say, hears what he wants, and then swears you said something different than you did. So I found that email works well (paper trail).

Emails but facts only . . .