J.S.
I agree with the other gals about Flylady.com. What I've learned is that it's all about routines (which is what Flylady helps you with). It's about having a system that is easy & consistent (for mail & that kind of stuff). It also helps a ton to have buy in from the rest of the family to learn to help clean up their own stuff. I know your husband isn't there a lot - & that's a bummer - but the up side is that he isn't there to make more clutter :)