Catty Answers?

I do not sugar coat my answers. I try to to be respectful but I will let someone know what I think. If that is "catty" then so be it.

You're not wrong. And I do think it's worse now than it was two years ago.

I know that at least one poster talked like that because she was used to blogging. That's what she wanted here and could not stand it that people actually stood up to her abusive writing. She left the forum and I assume went back to her blogging. Good riddance, if you ask me.

Dawn

I don't notice it very often.
But, I think we ALL want to answer the "could I be pregnant?" Question with the "DID YOU HAVE SEX? Then YES you could be pregnant, DUH!"
If it has happened recently then I don't know what you are referring to.
L.

lol Laura - the 'could I be pregnant' question makes me CRAZY. Of course you 'could' be pregnant. Wait 2 more damn days and take a test! :)

Hi J.-

I am with jo here...'cattiness' is in the eye of the beholder.

I see things here kind of like the phases of the moon (and find it funny how often the questions/answers seem to be more...flagrant...when the moon is FULL!)

I think sometimes people may lack tact from time to time...but overall no. I have not found the answers to be more or less catty since I started here (when it was mamasource).

As with 'all things'...take what you need...leave the rest!!

Best Luck!
michele/cat

I've consistently noticed it ever since I've been on here. I do notice the same few who usually seem like they're waiting to pounce, or take your question and twist it. I just try to ignore those.

J. - seriously???

It's the WRITTEN WORD!!! You can't HEAR voice or SEE my body language or anything else...

So it happens - you don't like what you read? Or even if you don't like the person you are reading a response from? You will read it as catty - admit it. If you like the person - you read it with a smile on your face. If you don't like the person - ANYTHING they say will be circumspect and taken as catty.

There are times when people need to hear the truth. It's called tough love. I know the men and women on this board REALLY do care - even if it supposed to be anonymous - there are those who have formed relationships and met people in person - but NONE of us are the same. None of us talk the same way. EACH of us has had our own experiences that we bring to the table - that affects how we answer questions.

You don't like it? SKIP IT. Pass over the ones you don't like. What **YOU** think is catty? Another will savor the honesty given...and to top it off - there are sarcastic people on here - you can't hear that either - so if they write a sarcastic response??? OH WELL!! it's life!!! GET OVER IT...

A lot of things seem to be running rampant...but you will NEVER have Utopia. There will NEVER be a perfect world where you get the ONLY the answers you like.

Well, if there is an increase, the line on the right side of the chart must be going up, up, up, because I see this question of an 'increase' on at least a weekly basis.

I hope that's not catty. That's just factual. In fact, this same question was posted a day or so ago.

And some 'honest' questions are just rather vile. Those do deserve sometimes a What Are You Thinking? sort of answer because the thinking *is* that whacked. This is not the site to go to for unconditional validation--some seem to think it is. Not everyone, and I'm not accusing you of this. However, I think there are sometimes far more "Beyond the Pale" questions posited than horrid answers given. So maybe it's always been that way and you are just noticing it now. Or maybe I'm missing those flaming comments.

And some questions are just to stir the pot, too.

One person's definition of catty is another person's definition of blunt, honest, or true.
I rarely see anything mean here.
Those who are truly mean don't stick around very long!

I try and pass up questions that dont look worth my time, but sometimes when I read something that is plain stupid or is something that wouldnt even need to be answered if the poster even had any common sense then yes, I can be quite 'catty" or smart assy.

These things are hard to define. There is no one definition of what is catty, except for your own. I just ignore the answers I think are not very useful. I think we would all be better off, to do that. We can't control others, and I think it's high time we quit spending so much time worrying about it. (My answer is a general one, not directed at anyone in particular.

Abrupt? Sometimes.
Cuts right to the chase? Sure.
Snark factor? Occasionally.
It's hard to put a "tone" with the written word sometimes.
I agree with Catwalk, take what helps and ignore the felines!

Actually, I think a big problem is that there are a lot of people that are looking to be offended. There are a lot of people that expect completely different responses than what they get... they want hand-holding and confirmation and agreement that their way and approach is correct, and how they handled a situation was appropriate. That what they want is "right." When they get a majority of people plainly telling them that they're wrong, then we're the ones who are mean caddy bytchez.

I never try to be outright hurtful. That's just not even on my radar. Do I like to sugar coat things? Not typically, and here's why. Sometimes that changes the meaning of what I'm trying to say, and it gets in the way. It leaves far too much room for interpretation. Saying something straight out rather than hand holding and telling them what they want to hear just to "be nice" is far more supportive. I don't make it a habit to lie to anyone.

I don't read the blog.

Anyway, I do know that some of my comments can come across more sharply or bluntly than I intend, and I've been working on that. I'm very used to speaking my mind and the recipients being adults about it and returning their thoughts to me in exactly the same way.

I do think that for many people, getting the straight truth from others is a culture shock.

By catty I'm taking you to mean smart-a__ attacks and sarcasm or ridiculing the question in some way rather than sincerely helpful answers? Yes, people are rude and they do it. I don't think anyone mistakes abrupt and cutting to the chase for mean or catty. The mean/catty ones contain "digs" in their abrupt nature. The ones that are just abrupt, honest and no frills are just that without taking digs at the poster.

Yeah, they can be like that on here, and they feed off each other. If it's worth it to you, you have to try to ignore it.

nope.
about the same amount that there's always been.
along with the same amount of people complaining about the cattiness.
khairete
S. (meow)

Um, btw...the phrase is "running rampant" not "running ramped".

Let's put it this way, I'm very careful when I put a question out there. I'm careful with my phrasing and I toughen up my skin. I find it a little frustrating when people go back and read my past questions and answer based on my "history".

I agree! I just think some answers are really harsh and judgemental. We can expect to hear a harsh truth that a friend at home may not give us to our face, but sometimes answers are very judgemental and just mean. Take it with a grain of salt. It is inherent in this type of forum. I usually specify, "Please don't be judgemental." We are here to support each other.

Well I can't say for every single post on here but I recently asked a very legitimate & important question that I really needed help on & some of the answers that were left for me were so snotty & snide, disrespectful & just downright tactless that I was taken aback by the rude comments and somewhat hurt by them. I even said "no haters" on here expecting to get good answers that would be helpful but a lot of responses were the total opposite of helpful. I totally agree that responders to posts on here need to be tactful, respectful & unbiased! Put yourself in MY shoes before you answer!