Remember When Mamapedia..

I still remember fondly when people didn't have to start a new thread to complain about answers from other threads.

I do remember, different time, different name.
Most of what bothers me is the women who get on here and use their answers to questions to show what a sarcastic, "funny" person they think they are. We seem to have a ton of budding comedians on this site! Some make a silly question nothing more than fodder for their "schtick".

I would much rather see people ignore a question than get on there and post something such as, " Troll!", or "...don't understand why you are posting this...", or something equally rude.

Oh well, there's one in every crowd (or 12....)

All I have noticed is the questions have changed. Instead of asking what kind of meds worked best people are asking to diagnose what cannot be diagnosed over the internet. Then they yell and say you are being unhelpful by saying you really need to ask your doctor.

Then of course there are the people that answer questions to insult other posters because they don't like them.

Still I think the biggest question is to you, remember when? You have been on here barely a year! Not much different from a year ago.

I went to go see your last question and I honestly didn't see anything out of the ordinary. You asked about your sister's hand injury with very little detail on anything about it, never mind how she injured herself or anything, and you got some good serious answers the way you and everyone else always do. Maybe the phrasing on one of the questions wasn't 100% friendly but it was GOOD ADVICE and yes, it was still respectful.

You've been here long enough to know that posts like this are viewed as poor woe is me drama queen threads and we get them a dime a dozen over non-issues on a weekly basis.

With the issues that the nation is dealing with right now ...and the issues that many of us mom are dealing with for our children ...and yes, for ourselves and our spouses, THIS felt like a burning question to ask based on your last question?

I like you, sweetie, but you seriously frustrate me sometimes.

Asking a fellow mom what cough medicine she likes best or how to make a stuffy baby comfortable is one thing, but providing medical diagnoses is something most of us just don't feel right doing.
I'm sorry you find our responsible and thoughtful responses rude and judgemental.

I'm sorry the responses disappoint you. But dispensing and accepting medical advice, sight unseen, over the internet from unqualified people to someone who isn't even the person posting the question is just insane to me. If that's the way it was in days of yore, people were pretty irresponsible back then. You're not simply asking which brand of bandaids sticks in water best, but rather diagnose a condition by description of a person who is not me. Coming from a family of medical professionals, I have to say, I'd rather it be that the response people give (respectfully) is "please see your doctor," which is largely what you got.

Things change....people come...people go...

Just know that someone people - well - they just **ARE**. You cannot change them. You cannot control them. You can only control you and your behavior, reaction, words, etc.

Keep in mind - there are people who come on here asking if they are pregnant...I'm sorry - but really? How do we know?! I love that one of my girls on here stated one time (well, several)...that just got me to laughing..."pee on your keyboard" and we can tell you"

Bottom line is you can't control someone else's responses, how their day was....etc.

this is the WRITTEN word...you do NOT hear the passion, hear the care, none of it. If you do NOT like what the person is saying - you read it snottily...if you love it - you smile and read it happy...you can't hear sarcasm...you can't hear any of it...it's YOUR life experiences...YOUR values...YOUR day...all of it...determining whether or not you like, love, don't care or hate it...

be like a duck and let it roll off your back. Take what you can and shed the rest...really...there are some people who just aren't worth it.

I went back and read your last question just to see what everyone was talking about it, and yeah, it sounds like you are asking for a diagnosis over the interwebs from folks that may or may not have any medical training whatsoever. It would be one thing if there was mention of going to the doctor next day, or there was a question about what to do until you get to the doctor, but at the end of the day, nothing on here is going to substitute an actual doctor's exam.

I work in vet hospitals and people call all the time, trying to explain what they are seeing in their pet and wanting a diagnosis over the phone and what can they do...sorry, I can't do that! What people don't seem to understand is what a huge liability issue it is if we give the wrong advice without seeing the pet in person and most of us are not willing to take that chance (not to mention whatever suffering the pet may endure in the meanwhile). I remember once someone posted a question on here about their dog - she sounded desperate and what the dog was doing sounded serious. Unfortunately I didn't see the question until several hours later, and my response was, GET THE DOG TO THE VET NOW - but at that point, it was too late, the dog had already died. Maybe if she had just gotten the dog in the car and started driving to a vet hospital (and there are 24 hour emergency places pretty much everywhere now) the outcome would have been different.

I didn't see anything disrespectful or judgmental in the answers - just more straightforward and blunt. Sometimes there just isn't anything else anyone can say. We can sugarcoat it all you want, but the answer remains the same!

Mostly when I don't like a place, I stop going there.

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i think you're kidding yourself. i saw ONE response that could have even been interpreted as rude (if you chose to) and one that was quite simply honest. "we can't help you. she needs to seek medical attention". everyone else tried to diagnose for you. was this really worth a brand new question? there will always be people that don't answer the way you "want" them to - in your case, they were right. you literally asked for a diagnosis. you didn't say "I know she needs to see a doctor and she's going first thing tomorrow..." you actually just wanted our opinions. i think you're expecting too much and over-thinking it. people really aren't that bad.

the 'old' mamapedia was mamasource. i do miss it. i think my feelings towards this site have changed tremendously. i am still unable to quit but with so many trolls and out there questions that don't make sense, and moderators using posts...it's just not the same.

I guess I don't "remember when"...

This is all I have known and it is a pretty good place. Please don't tell me I missed out on something even better?!? I take the good with the bad...and then let things roll off my back.

I am not sure what,when and why it changed. I think I am a fairly new one here...seems like some relationships go waaaay back.

Ahhhhh yes, mamasource.....I miss those days. But as with everything, it evolved. It has now turned into more of a blogfest. I look at it this way, some people may need the vent, rant, rage or advice and have no one to go to or nowhere else to go to....sooooo.....if I can help with a different point of view...why not. I get a kick out of some of the stuff. Roll with the flow 2boys4me and if you get tired of it, walk away for a while, I know I have.

I've been here since Mamasource - for a long time - it was far different than it is now. But really, you got really good advice on your thread about your sister's wrist. Those of us who have had the experience of breaking something without knowing it, like my husband did, should really be appreciated. Your sister needs an xray!!

A woman wrote me on here a couple of years ago asking me why I routinely recommended consulting a doctor. It was funny that she used the particular thread she used to point out to me - there were about 10 different diagnoses on that thread to the woman. I'm the one who told her to see her doctor rather than go by a bunch of moms without medical expertise.

I asked her to go back and read the entire thread and tell me which diagnosis was the correct one. She wrote back and said she understood.

I DO like when people throw out ideas, because I think that the ideas can be very helpful to talk to the doctor about, especially if it's not that doctor's specialty. (It has been said that you choose your specialist, you choose your disease... not a pretty prospect...) I think that's why an internist can be so helpful when you don't know what's wrong with you.

However, your sister's problem really IS a hand specialist's domain, but the first thing she needs is an xray that an xray technician looks at, followed up by a hand specialist. And I really don't think this is judgmental advice...

As for rude answers-- ignore them and time will erase the memories. If you try to defend yourself the hole gets bigger.

I agree with you - some of those responses to your question were just stupid. Not every ache and pain requires a trip to the doctor, and certainly not urgent care LOL - sometimes it's just good to know what a random pain is and that it will go away. I responded with some info on DQT, which I learned about when I asked about it on a similar forum. Because I knew what it was, I was able to bypass my primary care, go directly to an ortho, describe what I had over the phone and get the problem taken care of in one visit. I also first learned about public syphysis disfunction from a mom forum - that was after by OB and a nurse practitioner failed to diagnose it. Sharing medical info is a good thing - I don't see why people get their panties in a bunch over these things. If you have a helpful idea, share. If you don't, move along, right?

thats why i dont ask questions anymore the insults were just to rude-i very rarely post anymore either.

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be grateful for what youve got..alot of women lose their breasts to cancer,like my mom use to say-be happy with what you have-some folks are worse off than you...:)