I had a wonderful conversation with a friend last night that I haven't spoken to in many, many months. We have known each other for 20 years, been in each others weddings, and just have a lot of history together. My husband was glad that I caught up.
The best part of this is that my friend is a guy I dated for about 4 years - yup - ex-boyfriend. I see a lot of posts as to why wives/husbands or SO's can't/shouldn't be friends with ex's. Why not? We're all grown ups! As much as I might complain about my husband, I am so happy that he doesn't have any machoism when it comes to keeping in touch with my friend. My husband didn't really have any long-term relationships, per say, so he doesn't talk to old girlfriends, but I have met, aham, old 'flings' or crushes and really, it's not a big deal to me that he has a past, so to speak. If I was the jealous type, I'd be ranting that he's off to Vegas for a bachelor party, when really, I think he'll have a blast and I'm glad he's going!!
I do feel like I am lucky to have this unique relationship - my parents allowed my ex to live with us when he really didn't have anywhere to go, so my parents kinda became his parents.
Do any of you have ex's that are truly friends and feel lucky to still have them in your lives? True friendships are so precious to me.
I don't see any point in it and think its an open door that needs to remain closed. Just my opinion.
I don't see any reason why you can't be friends. Different things work for different people, so if that works for you guys, then it works. We talk a lot on here about how there are no real consistent "rules" that work for every kid, so why do we insist on rigid rules of behavior for the adults?
But, no, neither my husband nor I has any real relationship with our exes. For both my husband and myself, we didn't break up with our exes because we weren't working as a couple, we broke up because we were flatly NOT compatible as companions. It sounds like that is not your situation, so why not? I have a girlfriend who is very close friends with one of her exes - they just didn't do well as a couple. Some people can be, some can't.
Your post "Catching up with old friends" and your question "Do any of you have ex's that are truly friends..."
Two ENTIRELY different things, IMO.
I see no reason for anyone to continue dialogue with an ex, on any level. They are an ex for a reason. That's just me. It can lead to an emotional affair once the two parties start traveling down the 'you remember when' road.
I'm not saying this is YOU nor am I saying it happens EVERY time, I'm just saying....
