K.P.
C.,
My husband and I have blended our families as well. My son is 11 and his daughter is 8. She lives in San Antonio, but spends 6 weeks of summer here in Dallas & comes to see us the 1st, 3rd & 5th weekends every month. We are fortunate because they act just like brother and sister (including the fights), but we have similar challenges.
My step-daughter comes into town after running the house in San Antonio and we have rules and boundaries. She has had a hard time adapting to our rules and I think she feels I am the evil step-mother at times. My husband is very protective of his daughter because she lives so far away and is strict on my son because he is a boy and is with us more often.
We are in the process of trying to find more kids her age to interact with while she is here to make her stay more comfortable.
We have recently gone to counseling and it has helped, but sometimes it is good just to have a friend to talk to. So...if you need to talk or want a friend for your step-son here, my son is close to his age. Maybe we can get together some time. My name is K. and my number is ###-###-####. I know it is rough, but it is worth it.