I see many questions about bedtimes and bedtime routines and it got me thinking about bedtime in our house. Basically with a few exceptions we all go to bed at the same time, which is 9:00p. My oldest son who will be in 2nd grade next year gets up at 6:30-7:00a no problem and my little one around the same time and will nap for 1.5 hours during the day. My husband gets up early around 5:00a, so he likes to be in bed early. I am a SAHM, but obviously have to get up when my kids do.We co-sleep with the younger one. We co-slept with the older one too, but he's been sleeping in his bed since he was about three. Is anyone else in the same boat or are we just oddballs?
I am often the last one awake. Hubby puts grandson to bed and the girl goes on her own.
I just like the nighttime and don't go to bed early.
My 8 yr old goes to bed at 8:00 He usually gets up between 6 and 7.
My husband and I have time together and go to bed around 11. My 21 yr old...... well dont ask.
I am a single mom with one little girl at home. She's 8. We usually go to bed at the time. I get up half an hour before her in the morning so that I can get ready. I believe that it is whatever works for your family. No two families are the same, so no home routines are going to be the same.
i don't see anything odd about it, really.
i'm a night owl, and a loner, so i've always treasured the quiet hours to myself after everyone else was in bed. but there's nothing wrong with everyone settling in at the same time.
khairete
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Same boat baby!! I co-slept with my now 5 yr old (she'll be 6 in August and heading into 1st grade)...she still sometimes falls asleep with me. My husband sails for months at a time as an engineer so I kind of like it :)
We have a very flexible bedtime for her as I have teenagers (17 yr olds) who kind of set their own pace at this stage in their lives, and "the baby" as we call her, just kind of says when she is tired (usually around 9 but it's not like she's up until midnight :). Our outlook was always that she conform to our life and the flexible bedtime and co-sleep method worked best (it always worked very well for travel as well)...I'm happy to see that you have found the same peace. Bedtime can be a very stressful parenting moment for parents, I chose to not let it be and it seems to be working out very well for our family.
GET OUT OF MY HEAD -SUZ T.
Again, Suz is answering like me. I needed to have quiet time to myself when I was married and raising my son. I would do my wifely duties then get up and read a book or something for a couple of hours alone.
We never close! Lol
My husband is up at 3:30 am and asleep by 9:00-9:30.
School year, my 10 year old is "in bed" by 9:30, sleeping by 10, and up at 7:00ish.
My alarm is set for 6:15 AND 6:30 am and I'm up at night until at least 11, sometimes midnight.
ETA: Summertime for the 10 year old? All bets are off--depends what we're doing & what's going on....
If it works for you and your family, that is great.
No need to change or compare, if what you all do works for bedtime.
I wouldn't say you are odd-balls.
My son prefers to sleep in. He goes to bed around 9:00 and wakes up around 9:00. I could never go to sleep as early as 9:00!! I typically get in bed around 12:00 am, as does my husband.
I would not call you an "oddball." You just have different sleep patterns then me. Not weird, just different.
Whatever works for your family is good. Some children need a lot of sleep others do not.
Early on when our daughter was in elementary school, we made a deal with her. She did not have an official bedtime, BUT, she had to get up in the morning.. Had to get ready on time and no whining. If any of this did not work out, we would then set a bedtime for her.
She did great with this. She learned what she needed for sleep, she knew I would not put up with her ever being late.
There were times she stayed up super late.. but she never lost this privilege.
She said at college, she was amazed at how many people it took them a while to figure out when they needed to go to bed.
Other times she said she had to go days without a real bedtime, because of studying at the library for days at a time. She felt like she was totally prepared,
Your routine is pretty much exactly like ours.
My boys usually go to bed around 10:00pm and get up around 8:00am. They have to be at school for 9:00am. I go to bed around 11:00pm and get up around 7:00am. I watch tv or read for a bit before I fall asleep. I have to be at work for 9:00am, but I like to read the paper and shower before I leave. My husband probably rolls into bed around 2:00am and gets up around 9:00am. He works the evening shift and needs time to unwind after he gets home. I only co-slept with my kids for the first six months, but the two boys share a bedroom.
I go to bed between 10:00 and 10:30 because have to be up by 5 for work. Son goes around 11:00 when my husband says its time. He has no problems getting up at 6:00 for school and now at 7:00 for camp. Husband stays up sometimes all weird hours but he has to take my son to camp so he gets to sleep till 7:00 but otherwise up at 6:00 to get my son ready for school. On weekends sometimes, I let my son stay up till hes ready to go to bed.
Baby goes to bed around 7:30. Middle son around 8. 5 year old around 9. I go to bed at 9:30. Hubby stays up late, anywhere from 12-3. I then get up around 5 or 6. Baby gets up at 7. Te other two vary, but they usually stay in bed till 7:15-8', sleeping in till 8:30 about once a week. Hubby gets up late, around 8.
I get my 3 year old to bed (I lie with her...bad habit but oh well) between 7:30 and 8. My 9 year old son goes to bed between 830 and 9. My husband and I go to bed between 10 and 11. No one naps.
We all go to bed at the same time here.
Getting up can be staggered though depending on my husband's work day (if he's got East Coast calls he needs to be up as early as 5-6AM). If I want some quiet time to myself I just get up earlier in the morning before the kids wake me. I can't deal with staying up any longer than the kids because I'm dead on my feet by the end of the day. The youngest is in our room in her own toddler bed while the boys each have their own rooms. It is not unusual for my second or third kids to climb into our bed at night. I am also a SAHM, my husband works from home with occasional travel into the office out of state or sometimes to their offices in LA. My youngest (4 years old) does not nap every day, even though she probably needs more than she takes.
All of our kids (7-15) go to bed at 9. The older ones stay up if they're doing homework or are out of the house but they have to get up the earliest and they both like sleep so 9 or thereabouts works for them. SD gets up at 5:30 or 6 to do her hair and primp, my son gets up at 6:40. School starts at 7:30.
My little boys (7 & 9) don't have to get up until 7:30 or a little later so 9 PM works for them too.
My husband goes to bed sometime between 11:30 and 12 and is up at around 6:45. I go to bed anytime between 11:30 and 1 AM (sometimes later if I'm really busy) and do my first wake up at 6:45. I make sure the older kids are up and then go back to bed until 7:15, then drive them to school and start my day.
Our 8 yo goes to bed at 8 p.m. and wakes at 6:30 a.m.
I go to bed between 9-10 and wake at 5 a.m.
Husband goes to bed anywhere from 11-1 a.m. and wakes at 6:45.
