I have 2 children and most of my younger son's "friends" are from my older child's younger siblings. Now that they are getting older and the older children are in school we really don't see them unless it is at birthday parties and the younger children don't really play together. I feel like I am trying to force friendships with the younger ones and it's not really recipricated. The adults have been friends for years I don't want to hurt feelings by not inviting but I feel like it's not fair to my younger son to invite kids he doesn't play with. Not that he doesn't like them, he is indifferent if they are there or not. What would you do?
I'd invite HIS friends. If you like the other parents, get together for adult dinner nights or an occasional huge BBQ with everyone. If it's not being reciprocated anyway, I doubt there will be hurt feelings. Kids go their separate ways sometimes - that's life!
My bf has a daughter 3 months older than my granddaughter. They decided one time to have an activity and not invite my granddaughter. It devastated her.I would think of the kids, if they found out they were excluded it might hurt their feelings. I would talk to the moms and see if the kids are feeling the same way.
I would stick to your child's actual friends. You don't mention the kids' ages, but if this is not a party for family friends, then I'd stick to your little one's own friends from preschool, daycare, playgroup, the neighborhood, whatever kids he actually plays with. If no one is reciprocating, then you should not feel any obligation. Make him the party that you want (or that he wants)
I have the same situation coming up... I let the kids invite who they want and if we have left over room then we invite the other kids... Its really trhe point of them just having a goodtime!!!!
This happened to us too. You just invite your sons friends. The adults may be thinking the same thing, you never know.
I think you can just do a small family/close friend party & it would be fine.
