I have a co-worker and I've been friends with her since I started working here. I'm in 31 and she's in her mid 50s. She has a daughter who is close to my age. I'm kind of friends with her (mostly chat on facebook & goodreads), I've met her a few times. So her daughter is having a baby and I got invited to the baby shower. I am unable to attend due to my husband having a class that day and my son having an event for Cub Scouts that I must attend so I can't possibly go.
My question is do I send a gift? If so what and how much should I spend? I was thinking a homemade card and maybe a gift card? Or do I not send anything? Help!
Thanks for all the answers. I had a cute crochet cat pattern I was planning to make her anyways so I will try to have it done by the time the shower starts.
If you want to then do so. I would do something simple since you are not close friends. If it is possible you'll be visiting her in the hospital then you might want to consider what you'll be taking then too. If you are not going to go see her then I would do a bit more on the gift now.
If you sew or do crafts then I think that is always a nice treat.
since you arnt super close i would go get a nice blanket or a small bath kit few washcloths and soap something like that i wouldnt spend much but just a little something to say congrats
In this situation, if you don't attend, don't feel like you need to send anything. If you do want to send something, a $20 gift card to Target or Babies R Us, or even a box of baby wipes would be nice.
I would not send anything...unless you think you are gonna be uncomfortable around your coworker, but I hate when pressure is put on like that. Now every time the child has a birthday...you will be invited...and so on and so forth. I just wouldn't.
My opinion - sounds like you are not close, so you are not obligated. The question is, do you WANT to send a gift? if so, go for it. If your budget is tight, or you don't want to, don't. Or you could send a lower priced gift since you are not attending, like a few good children's books, or a towel set, some diapers, etc.
I would go and get something off of her registry and give it to your co-worker so she can take it to the shower for you. The reason why you are invited is that you are friends/coworkers with the grandma to be, not the mom-to-be.
I think it would be lovely to send a gift. A giftcard to target or toys r us or somewhere that she can get baby stuff is always an appropriate gift. Your giving the gift because your friends with the woman you work with. I know that when you get to be my age (almost 50) your own friends are not having babys anymore but now your friends kids are having babys. and you give gifts because of that friendship. It is a way that generations stay connected. in the olden days this would not even be a question. everyone celebrated a baby. I'm glad that your not considering blowing it off but asking what / how to handle it.
I think it's totally up to you. You are certainly not obligated to send/give a gift if you're not attending the shower. Ask yourself this: if she wasn't having a shower, or if you weren't invited, would you give her a gift? If the answer is yes, give her one. If the answer is no, don't.
Okay, I like this one. I am 53, if I truly befriend a younger person on the job believe me, the younger person has hit the lottery. An older person is not competing with you, has great advice, genuinely likes you, can serve as mentor, and has a great sense of discernment. It was a huge compliment to be invited. Get a gift! Better late than not! It is a great investment in you!
