Anyone 35 or Older Thinking About or Trying to Get Pregnant?

I can tell you what it's like to be the daughter of a mother who was 35 when she got pregnant. I don't think it's too old of an age to have another child, my mother was great when I was a child. I did see the effects of the large age difference when I was in high school, but now that I am 27 and she is 62 I think we are ok. I decided that I wanted to have my kids younger, but I see nothing wrong with having another child at that age, expecially if you still have young ones at home. I might be the wrong one to ask though, I'm always about having more babies :) Hope this helps :)

If you are trying for a girl look up the Chinese astrological chart that predicts the sex of your baby and try to get pregnant when it says you'll have a girl. I don't know anyone who says it was wrong.
About the right time. God knows the right time and sex of the baby. So you could try and never get one or like me, one try and POW! Baby! I can tell you though my husband and I were debating another child (would make 4) and we decided no. Well, out of no where came the oportunity to adopt so I truly got a bonus baby, I never gained a pound! :)

A friend of mine had her first at 43. Yes, over 35 puts you automatically into the higher risk category, but with good communication between you and your doctor you should be fine as long as there's not some glaring issue preventing you.

But I wouldn't move forward with having another baby if you are on board. Because while dad can be a great help, you as the on carrying the baby and after will have the majority of the responsibility. Nothing says you get a girl, and what happens if you have another boy. I am sure you'll love it just the same, but don't pin you decision on trying for a girl.

I can't say i'm in the same boat.. we are done.
but i didn't have my first one till i was 36. i'm 39 now.
is it because of your age you are having second thoughts about starting over with diapers and such.? (since you mentioned your age)..
getting pregnant after 35 you would be considered high risk..that's what happens after 35..lol.lol
actually the term is advance aged maternity..lol lol i told my obgyn the first time he called me that.. 'sounds like geritric maternity'..lol lol

good luck..

T.

I think only you know if this is right for you and your family or not. I can tell you that I am 38, expecting my second child and thrilled! After being told I'd never have children, my daughter was a very welcome blessing 9 years ago. Imagine our suprise to find out so many years later that another wonderful blessing was on it's way! While it's been a long time since I've been pregnant or dealt with the whole "baby" thing, I don't think people who can conceive easily recognize the gratitude that those of us who can't feel. My husband is 10 years older than I am and worries about being "too old" - I say rubbish! Children keep us young and I welcome the amazing opportunity to mold our future! Do what your heart speaks!

Well, I had my last child at the 'advanced maternal age' of 39. (I had a chuckle when I read that in another post!) We had tried when my oldest son was three until he was seven. I thought I was okay without another baby, then I lost my job of 17 years and found out a couple of months later that what I had attributed to stress was actually a surprise pregnancy. I tell you I truly know how torn you are now, it is hard to start all over. Do what your heart tells you to, I do believe that everything will work out as it should. Although I had a few complications, everything turned out well and now I don't know why I was ever conflicted because we are so in love with our little bonus baby. Good luck to you.

Hi C.,
I feel like we're almost in the same boat! I'm 35 1/2, have 2 boys, 4 1/2 and 3, and we ARE pregnant. We actually got pregnant last August, so we're due the end of May. We're having another boy, so, so much for the girl idea, but, I have to tell you my boys, esp. the 4 1/2 year old, are THRILLED about the baby and my 3 year old says he has a baby in his tummy too! Too funny! It's actually been a good learning experience for them to talk about babies and where they come from and all that fun stuff. :) Funny, my husband is also the more driven one to have more kids. :) He'll be 40 this year, but he just loves kids! Anyway, you're not too old! Your boys will still love the baby! Good luck! :)

I had my last child at 33 and wanted another one. I too wanted a girl after the two wonderful boys I had.

My husband got *Fixed* a year after our youngest was one. I wasn't against it but I wasn't really for it either.

Now, I'm glad. I don't want to start over. Think of all the late night feedings, the dirty diapers, the crying.

But you really have to remember all the good things about having another little one to rock to sleep, cuddle, and watch grow into their own little person.

Also the older you are the more the risks for the pregnacy and it's harder on your body. On the other hand my grandma had my mom when she was 46, with no complications. Mom had eight other siblings. Grandma cried, I guess. LOL

I don't know if I helped or not but I hope I gave you something to think about. Good Luck and trust in God to give you the right answer.

I always say, when in doubt, hold off. However, while there are risks of being older and pregnant, I came from a family of late in life babies. My grandma on my mom side was 40 when she started having babies and had 3 of them. One did die at birth, however it was only because she had tied a knot in her cord, which since there was no ultrasounds in those days, no one knew about. My dad's mom was 29 when she started having babies and had 6 of them, the last one she was 39. My mom had my baby brother when she was 36, and my sister had one at 35. I am under that age right now, so I dont have a late in life baby. All these babies turned out just fine and the moms had very little complications, if they had any problems, it was normal pregnancy stuff, nothing to do with age. If you want another one, I say go for it, however; since you have doubts, its ok to hold off for another year and see. Kids are a lot of work, no matter how old you are, so you have to go with what your heart tells you. Good Luck!

Good Morning,

I don't know what your faith is, but when I am torn about something I leave it in God's hands. He know's what's best for you. If it is meant to happen, it will. If you are on birth control, go off and see what happens. You may or not get pregnant.

My friend (33 years old) and her husband were facing the same thing a few years ago. They decided they were happy with the two children they have. My friend was a little unsure if she made the right decision, but figured if she was supposed to have another baby it would happen when God, or who ever, figured the time was right. She is now 12 weeks pregnant. This child was not planned by her but she is now over the shock and anxiously awaiting for October to hold her new baby!

;o) Best wishes!
K.