Another Day Being a Mom...

I've always been the one that gets along with everyone and attempts to make peace or move on. My husband and I teach our kids morals and values and to treat others as they want to be treated. We hear from others what a good job we are doing in this hard world raising our girls. Well like always there is drama and moms try to make it better. I'm sure I will jump around trying to post this and get some answers. I'm trying to see what options or how you would handle it or what I can still do to help.

I car pool with another family who has more kids then I. The young kids go with the other mom and I take the older kids. My kids are more mature and the other mom knows this. The older one has a few friends from other schools. Those friends really try to act older (having older siblings or blended family with cousins, aunts/uncles, single parents boyfriends living in their homes) and have different family morals and values but still taken care of. I'm ok with that, the kids are still taken care of but make bad clothing and potty mouths. My kids dress age appropriate and I'm sure they use bad language when I'm not around. My kids aren't angels and I don't make them out to be. Anyways...getting back to car pool and the older kids. Two of them go to the same school and my friends kid isn't as mature and acts like a kid, she's sweet, yet naive and sensitive. My kid is mature for her age and she will speak her mind and be stubborn but she is a good kid. She stood up to a bully last year that was bulling another child and the teacher saw it and told me. So I know my kid has a heart. Well everyday there is a text or call or face to face that my kid is being mean to my friends kid. They act ok in the car ride to and from school. They talk while I talk to my friend and pick up my younger child. My oldest likes to take pictures of herself and post every little thing. She takes pictures with her friends from the other schools all the time and some with my friends kid. Then I hear it from the mom that my kid doesn't hang out/treat her kid right. They spend time on the car ride and they have some classes together. I can't force a friendship to be better friends if only the friend stage is where they want to be. I tell my child be nice, make this work and don't be fake or just let me know and I will end the car pool and move on. It's crazy to deal with this every day. I told my kid it's almost like a bully but then the other is so sensitive if mined doesn't say hi all the time. I just want it all to stop. I told my friend and the girls they have to work it out. I gave advice, they choose to do it or not. What else can I say/do or offer? I want this to work out and maybe it will. I went to school and avoided drama as much as possible. I don't like it or competition and this is what it's turning into. Fire away!