C.R.
Marriage is not easy. I some times feel like every day is a struggle. I love my husband very much and know he loves me but that doesn't make it easy! We went through a rough patch for a few years and I struggled with wondering if it wasn't going to work. I stumbled upon Alisa Bowman and found her website/blogs to be very helpful. She also has a very funny book that tells how she went from wishing her husband dead to falling back in love. I find her very realistic (marriage is not romance and roses everyday!) and humorous and she gets me to think about situations from different perspectives...
http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/
Good luck! One of the things I've realized is that my husband and I have VERY different communication styles and things that I think should be obvious to him (like I need help around the house) are just not to him. However, if I tell him I need help he will do so. I do get tired of constantly asking him to "participate" but I'm learning that as long as he is willing to do it when asked I can be okay with that. But it is not always easy.