Am I Overreacting? - Little Elm,TX

I see both sides. I know she wants to be part of your life, and with all the kids gone she must be lonely.

However, you have a right to privacy too. I am not on my daughter's pages, but they're teens and I could get to them if I wanted to... I do periodic checks. But I do love seeing their blogs, their comments and stuff.

I'd say you can ask your mom to visit, but take her off as a friend. And because of employment issues, I wouldn't put anything on the site I would be embarrassed if my mom saw, but that's up to you. Employers are checking these things out.

And I'd create a family site.... where you and your siblings can gather. Set up a once a week chat or something. I IM with my parents and we have a www.myfamily.com site... but that one costs money, there are others that are free.

I can't blame her for wanting to stay connected... she loves and misses you. But you need to take her off as a friend and not let her interact/comment.

I'm with you. I would not like it. You have a right to your privacy. She is your mother not facebook monitor and/or bff.

I have a completely different (cordial/civil - not loving/nurturing) relationship with my mother and I would never let her have any type of access to me online. I limit any access she has to me.

If for some reason you cannot block her or change the status.....create a new facebook account without her knowing about it and have your friends meet you there.

You are a grown woman and you have a right to your privacy without mommy checking up on you. It sounds like you mom wants control over you. If she is lonely and has the need to control, maybe she can get a part time job somewhere or join a group for women her age.

Just my opinion, hopefully I did not insult anyone.

There really isn't anything you can do about it. You obviously accepted her as a "friend." I know you didn't really have a choice in doing so or it would have been a whole lot worse. The thing is in this day and age, if we choose to set up Facebook/Myspeace etc, then these things are going to happen and we just have to accept it. So, yes you do have a right to privacy, but that right has not been infringed because you have the page and you accepted her. I am sorry that sounds so hardnosed, but it is the truth. The only solution I can think of is to stop using your facebook and perhaps setup an account on myspace or other networking site, or even just set up another facebook account and don't let her find out about it, which I am sure is what most teenagers do to us parents :)

I understand, & yes, I would want my privacy, too.

You could make up a secret dictionary of code words between you & your friends. I know it sounds silly, but my friends & I do it when we're talking about sex in front of the kids.