Am I Being Overly Concerned? My Daughter's 1St Grade Teacher Has Visible Tatoo

I would agree that you are losing perspective - WOW! You don't know anything about this teacher other than she has ink - she could be the best teacher in the school. I just don't see how one thing has to do with the other -do you know that more than half of college students today have a tattoo.

Dear C.:

I am a teacher who has a small tattoo on her foot. My husband likes tattoos. I got it to honor my college experience. I enjoyed working with a great group of students on a ladybug unit and teaching students using those plans. Mine is small enough to be covered by one of those little round bandaids. Generally, however, I do not cover it. Ironically (I guess I should have thought out placement better), flip-flops cover it up while it shows with dress shoes. The bandaid seems to cause as much attention as the tattoo.

I am writing to tell you that I would really want to know if the tattoo bothered a parent. I would definitely keep it covered out of respect for you! Personally, I would prefer that you take up the issue with me rather than going through administration. I would be so embarrased (and it might create a bigger fuss than necessary).

Jen :)

I am a master's degreed math teacher and I have a tatoo on my ankle... a butterfly. It was the symbol of my rebellion as a teenager - no drinking, no smoking, no drugs.

I was also the most highly requested teacher at my school until I decided to stay home to take care of my baby.

S.

I have 6 tattoos (mostly not seen except one which is my sons initials!) and I happen to consider myself a great mom, a great person and a great wife. I dont think you should judge someone because of a tattoo. Especially a teacher that went to school and got her degree to do something that she obviously loves to do. I also dont think you should worry about your daughter seeing tattoos. She is eventually going to see them but she isnt allowed to get one until she is 18 years of age. Its illegal until then. Once she is 18 maybe she might decide to get one and maybe she wont. I dont think it will make her any less of a person either way. I would be more worried about all of the drugs and violence going on in this country before I would tattoos.

Are you sure there isn't another issue you have with this teacher and the tatoo isn't just an excuse?? You did say you "are not against tatoo's" and "you know it doesn't make her less of a person", so what's the real deal? You also said this is a "well regarded school district", so don't you think if the administration had a problem with it she might not be there teaching?
Any of the posts that agreed with taking action and saying she is wrong for defacing her body whether it be from a tatoo or a piercing while quoting the bible are all be extremely judgmental... and isn't that a sin too? They're being hypocrites plain and simple.
Your daughter is going to be exposed to all sorts of different cultures throughout her life and here is a great way to get her to be tolerant and excepting while also teaching her your personal values and expectations as a parent. Relax and take a deep breath, this shouldn't be anything to loose sleep over.

First of all, I do have a tatoo on my ankle. that said, I am a first grade teacher and have my own first grade daughter across the hall. Last year, my tatoo was visible and not one child or parent ever said a word about it. Well, this year, new principal, and my tatoo will have to covered with long pants every day. As a teacher with kids from a mixed background, I have to be aware and respectful of the beliefs of the parents. Most schools have a no tatoo policy out of this respect and concern. You could just check with your office and see if your school has a policy on it. Just asking might prompt the administration to "remind" staff that covering tatoos while at work is part of the professional dress code.

LOL, Yes I think you are being overly concerned. Don't judge a book by it's cover. What if that tatoo were somewhere you couldn't see? Judge her by the content of her character and her skill as a teacher. I taught school before becoming a stay at home mom, and although I don't have any tatoos, I knew several teachers that did (some had (a) small visible
one(s), some had hidden ones). Their tatoos didn't make them a better or worse teacher. It was the amount love for children and dedication that made them what they were. Give this gal a chance! It is the perfect opportunity for your daughter to learn not to judge others by outward appereances. If you do decide to request a teacher change be aware that although you may get a teacher with no visible tatoos, she might not be as good of a fit as the current teacher. You know that saying about the grass being greener...

Also, if this continues to be a problem for you, I would suggest you talk to the teacher about it first. If you are concerned that your daughter will want a tatoo just like her teacher, then maybe you and the teacher can sit down together and talk to your daughter about it. She can go over the pros and cons and talk about how it is something your daughter won't need to decide upon until she's much older, etc. I hope your daughter has a great year. I doubt it will be much of an issue to your dd though, she's still young.

I hope it all works out for your family and that your daughter has a great year in 1st grade.

Hey C.! Well, I want to start by saying that I've scanned over some of the other mother's posts and to be quite honest, I'm shocked. Some of them are quite rude. Heaven forbid you ask for advice! Thats the whole point of this website. Because of these moms, I know the next time I have a question, I sure wont ask it on here. Shame on the mothers who feel the need to be obnoxious.
Ok, back to the point. I have a fairly large tattoo on my back but i can cover it up when need be. I got it when i was 18 and in a stage of my life that i wouldnt care to go back to. I also have a daughter who is starting kindergarten on Monday. So, i am definitely objective. Personally, i would also have a problem with a teacher showing her tattoo to my child. You are right, they are so impressionable at that age. My daughter knows that tattoos arent a bad thing, but yes, teachers are held at a higher standard. If waitresses and waiters have to do it, they should too! I really cant think of any professional position that WOULD NOT require that they cover it up.

I think you are a little too far leaning to the right on this one. In fact, I think that your reaction to it is more of a concern for your daughter's influence and role model issue than the teacher's tattoo. There are many people in this world with tattoo's and I'd bet my home that there are many people with tattoos that are far better role models than many people in this world without tattoos. I think that your way of thinking is almost bordering on discriminatory and is a bad way to lead your daughter. There are many types of people in this world, not just black/white or male/female that your daughter will have to learn to respect and have relationships with. The fact that this lady is a teacher and has devoted her professional career to teaching your child should already give her credence in your book. Yet you are basically labeling her because of an artistic rendering of a flower on her foot? A little odd don't you think? If I were a parent in that classroom, I'd be more concerned with my child being friends with your daughter because of her mom's views than I would with my daughter's teacher having a tattoo. Hope that is not too harsh, but I think you need some perspective. If things like this bother you, you might want to look into really sheltering your child further and just homeschool her.
And one more thing...don't make this a teachable moment. There is no lesson here unless you want to teach your daughter that it is a normal form of expression and that it doesn't change a person...it is art. If you plan on teaching her your own personal views, don't.

I totally understand your concern about your daughter being so impressionable. As a parent, I don't think there's any such thing as ridiculously conservative. Often, that which we do not understand, or cannot relate to will come across as a potential threat, and we can never be too careful about whom we allow our children to be influenced by.
That being said, we can only censor so much. Consider the source of your concern. Perhaps talk to this teacher, and ask how she intends to explain it to her students. I think that talking with her, and being honest about your concerns, will help you to determine what your next step should be.
Pink mowhawks, facial piercings and tattoos may indicate a sense of individuality or general counterculture lifestyle. Encountering a teacher with a tattoo, or rather, a role model with a tattoo is something that we as parents really cannot control.
Since your opinion of tattoos, in general, is somewhat ambivalent, I would suggest that you speak openly - and confidently - with your daughter about the subject. Be honest. Ask for her thoughts, without judgment. Far more than any temporary role model, your influence on your daughter will always demonstrate that from which she will inevitably learn.
Nevertheless, it is my opinion that people who are audacious enough to adorn their bodies with art (or flowers on their feet!) often end up being the most spirited and unique people you will ever meet. If you judge this teacher as any less worthy of being a role model or having earned her station, simply by the fact that she offers a visible tattoo, I can only hope that you might help your daughter to see that it is not as big a deal, but a personal choice - and that with everlasting consequences.

Good Luck!

Hi C. - yes you are being overly concerned. I do not have tatoos, nor am I the least bit interested in getting one - not for me. But my sister has them, and friends have had them - one of them is a financial planner (flower on ankle also - maybe that's the tatoo that people in helping professions get? LOL ;) Don't worry about it, have a conversation when your daughter asks. Perhaps google tatoo artistry and learn about the history of it. They have a bad rep, I think, but do not mean what they used to years ago "bad boy, etc."

MAMAS - GIVE THE WOMAN A BREAK!! She asked a question because she did NOT want to be mean, descriminatory, etc. - I only read about the top 10 responses - I know my dad would have had a COW if I had a tatoo, some religious denominations don't believe in getting them in terms of "marking the body". If you come from a culture/upbringing etc. where tatoos are not common, and maybe the only people you know of who DO have them are of questionable character, than you'll be cautious and concerned when they become part of your child's world. And I'm sure NONE of us were overprotective at ALL with our children (LOL)!

I think it's ok to be concerned. Children are so impressionable. Good luck w/ your decision.

I think it's unprofessional. She obviously chose this spot on her body so that she could easily conceal it. So why not do just that?

If she were in any one of a zillion other professions I wouldn't bat an eye. But a teacher?

I guess I'm old fashioned too.
:-)

I have to say I am shocked at the majority of the responses I have read here today. When a person chooses to be a teacher, especially of young children, they are choosing to be a role model. Despite what most of you have said in this column tatoos are still treated with a certain amount of "taboo" in the professional world.
Personaly, I do not feel this is really an issue about if a tatoo makes a person bad, it about presenting yourself in a professional light. Most dress codes require tatoos to be covered while at work. I know that our school district requires tatoos to be covered.
Requesting new teacher is going overboard, but requesting that the tatoo be covered while teaching is not asking too much.

D.
SAHM of two: 18 and 4

I agree with you. It would bother me too. I wish these teachers would think of these things before getting one that is visible by the children. I think the schools should have a dress code for their teachers which includes no visible tatoo.

C.,

While I understand completely what you are saying, I think that it's important to consider the teacher's character more than anything that could be on her body. If she is younger, you have to consider that it was really trendy a few years ago to get tattoos. Almost all of my friends got a butterfly on the small of their back when I was in high school, or something on their hip... or the top of their foot. Just because it might be something she did with her girlfriends when she was 17, because she thought it was so cute and cool, doesn't mean that her character is anything to question.

I have taught in an elementary school for almost 3 years, in a Pre-K classroom at an elementary school. The teacher that I worked with is 27, and this will be her 6th year of teaching. She is an incredible Christian girl, married with 2 children of her own. She is the mentor teacher for the district in Pre-K, a mentor teacher at our school for the Teacher Advancement Program, part of the school leadership team, and an amazing teacher. She loves her little Pre-K kiddos like they were her own. And... you guessed it... she has a tattoo! Granted, it's on the small of her back (yes, a butterfly!), and no one can see it, but she still has one.

I have a friend who teaches Kindergarten. She and her husband just moved to Norman, Oklahoma to be the College Pastor of Wildwood Church (a Bible Church next to OU's campus), and I couldn't speak more highly of her teaching skills. She has truly been called to be a teacher. She also has a tattoo. Her's is on the top of her foot too, and it's an Icthys, or a Christian Fish.

I guess you should just think about what really bothers you about it. Is it the tattoo itself? Is it the fact that it's visible, or would you still care if you knew she had one, but it was covered? I think I personally would care more about her appearance as far as clothing. Does she dress appropriately, or does she look grungy and at all provocative? I think also, that there's a difference between looking trendy, but professional, and looking "club" trendy.

You can always just talk to your daughter about the tattoo, when she brings it up, too. I don't know, I hope this didn't come across too preachy... That's not at all what I was trying to do.

I guess my opinion is that if she is a good role model, a wonderful teacher, kind to her students, etc. then having a picture of a flower on her foot doesn't change any of that. I think I'm just trying to say that I know tattoo's have a bad connotation, and that it seems like only a certain "type of person" has tattoos, or at least visible ones. BUT since this is a trendy thing, there are all kinds of people getting tattoos, even the most conservative people that you would never expect!

I hope you and your daughter enjoy her first grade year!

Have a wonderful day, and I hope you find peace with ANY decision you choose to make! :-)

Thanks for being honest about your feelings. :-)
S. R.

I just read some of the responses, and I just wanted to say, that you should not let ANYONE make you feel bad for this. This is supposed to be a place where we can come for advice and encouragement... not to be berated for our thoughts or opinions. You had a question, and you were honest. I would NOT be worried about my daughter being friends with your daughter simply because of your views on tattoos! I would say that that TOO is being a bit discriminatory.

I know how some responses on here can get you down or affect you emotionally (they have made me feel that way before) but I hope that you can let those responses roll off your back and realize that the women responding that way do not know you or your heart behind the request.

I hope you find answers you were looking for and don't feel discouraged!

MAMAS: PLEASE BE KIND AND ENCOURAGING!

Blessings!

I would ask her if she is going to cover it or wear it exposed. If she plans to wear it exposed, go to the principal and ask what the policy is. If the policy is that they can show them, then you are stuck, legally. I don't think they could fire her or even ask her to cover it after she's already been hired, if it's not a policy in the books. At home, however, you can tell your son whatever you like. Tell him it's wrong, tell him it's cute, tell him it's for only stupid people, tell him it's only for smart people, whatever! Just remember that whatever you tell him, he will probably repeat on the school yard or even directly to his teacher ("My mommy says you have a tattoo because....") And whatever you decide to do, you will have to give the same explanation when you go to the mall, go to Six Flags, go to the grocery store, wherever, and you see people with tattoos. I understand what you mean about her being a role model. I also understand what you mean about wanting to shield our kids from things that are contrary to our beliefs. And I say, just because society says it's okay, don't roll over and say, Well, I guess I have to think it's okay too. Because you don't! Good luck resolving your issue.

HI,
Just wanted to share some personal experience with you. I was a very wild youngster who made a not so hot choice of getting many tattoos, most of which are in very visable places. As I "grew up" I became very conservative and a teacher to boot. I am not thrilled with my tattoos at all anymore and try to keep most of them covered when at all possible. However, in the warmer months it is very difficult to be confortable and keep them all concealed. I am however a very good teacher (I currently have the luxury of staying home, but I will go back to teaching soon) and I would hate it if a parent was uncomfotable with me because of the tattoos, I would understand, but hate that they were uncomfortable. I am probably as conservative as you, maybe more, and found that most teacher are. Wait and get to know her, you may find that she is an excellent teacher who made a not excellent choice in her youth. Maybe not, but you never know. Remember most of us have made really stupid mistakes, unfortunatly those of us who made the tattoo mistake have a badge to the world about it. Hope that helps.

I think you have every right to be concerned. I think some of the other moms are being to harsh on you.
This teacher is in 1st grade. These kids are only 6-7yrs old. She herself should be thinking about the tatoo and what kind of impression she is making. She should not have to be told to cover it up. She should have the proper discernment to cover it up around her students. What school district is allowing a teacher to wear flip-flops? Our students cannot even wear flip-flops, or crocs. They have to wear PE appropriate shoes at all times. I think this teacher is way out of line and very unprofessional. Go with your gut!!

Hello I am a mother of two small children, my husband is a tattoo artist so I am decorated in tattoo's. including one that covers most of my arm. I work in a professoinal setting monday thru friday 9-5 office enviroment. My choice in artwork doesn't effect my abilites to do my job, I understand you are not saying the teacher's choice inhibits her ability either. However I don't think it is a reason to discuss with the school. Your child will see many people of all different races, clothing attire, and religious beliefs. I see it as you don't want to face the conversation that would be brought up byu your child. A tattoo is illegal for anyone under the age of 18 to get. The tattoo shops are regulated by health inspectors. I think if you make a big deal about having a tattoo at this age your child might get a prejudice about it. Not knowing about something only makes it that more interesting to a child.

Yep, you've lost perspective. :) I think I would feel exactly the same way if this were my child's teacher, with exactly your reasoning, but it's definitely not worth a teacher change. Definitely use this as a learning experience, but tread lightly, b/c you want to express to your dd your values without lessening her teacher in her eyes.
Save your freak-outs for the really important issues! :) Have a great school year!

Hi C.,
Wow, I'm amazed at what a cord this has struck with so many this early in the morning! LOL I'm a little sad by the tone of some of the responses you've received, I hope you won't let them bother you to much today :-)

That being said, I am a former second grade teacher who is staying home to raise my own and I definitely think teachers should be held to a higher standard when it comes to professional and conservative standards of dress. Many districts require teachers to cover visible tatoos, I suspect the district you are in does have that policy, it just probably isn't being enforced. I have a friend that teaches and just keeps a box of bandaids in her desk to cover her small ankle flower on days she wears capris.

I really wouldn't make that big a deal about it. I hope you never have an awful teacher as my child did two years ago because then it would become painfully clear that a small tatoo is minor compared to what a negative and mean teacher can do to your child's mental state....:-(

Do you know who Steven Curtis Chapman is? Incase you don't, he is a well known and very popular Christian singer who has won countless awards for his music. A few months ago, his seventeen year old son accidentally ran over his five year old sister killing her. On the morning of the awful accident, the little girl had drawn a picture of a flower with six petals, only one of which was colored in. Steven's wife just recently had this small little picture tatooed on the top of her hand as a reminder of her precious daughter. Steven and his two older sons also had tatoos in honor of this lost child. I guess my point is that people of all walks of life get all kinds of tatoos for so many different reasons. So, it may not be something you and I would do, but it the tatoos are tasteful (not naked ladies and other vulger stuff) then we just have to accept it as a person's right and concentrate on the more important qualities, especially one's integrity.

Best wishes for a wonderful year for your daughter (and you, too!)

I personally dont have any tattoo's but it is more of a needle issue than an appearance issue. I do think some people go over board with tattoo's but if that is your only problem with the teacher you might want to count your blessings. If the teacher is good at her job and the kids are learning and having fun I say relax. Your daughter will be exposed to tattoo's and piercing of all kinds. You can take this opportunity to teach your daughter to accept all people no matter what they look like or their beleifs for that matter. You can make this a positive experience without offending anyone. Maybe explain to your daughter that people look different and make different choices and that doesnt make them bad people BUT your family does not think it would be appropriate. Your daughter will come into contact with many different people in her life and if you teach her to judge one person where will it end? Two earrings in one ear? Good Luck

Frisco ISD requires tattoos to be covered. I'd ask the principal.

Why don't you use your energy to focus on bigger concerns? If I were the teacher I would want your child out of my class because then I wouldnt have to deal with such narrow minded people such as yourself. You must not have much to do if all you are worried about is a silly tattoo.

i feel you are being "ridiculously conservative". I work at one of the largest area hospitals with some of the finest surgeons. Many of them have Tattoos. That does not make them less of a surgeon nor does it keep the staff who know about their tattoos away. Many people have tattoos now a days. Most military people have tattoos and they are the ones protecting you and your daughter; we owe them the upmost respect, tatooed and all. I personally would not choose to ahve a tattoo, I also would not choose to ride a motorcycle however that does not mean that those who do do not ahve great things to offer us. I believe if the tattoo was a curse word or provacative art then you should talk with the teacher about not displaying it infront of children. However, you said it was a flower children see flowers everyday. I do not mean to sound upset at you, I just think that you should give the teacher a chance. Judge her only when you know her teaching skills only if you feel you are in the position to judge her then.

No you are not!
You have a right to feel our children should be raised by the conservative school teacher you expect for a child's classroom
you may not be able to make a change
but you need to let the administrator know your feelings I'm telling you this from experience.
My son is 13 now but when he was 4 he went to Glen Oaks Day School (very expensive and thought out and planned for)
his regular teacher was gone for a few days and his sub had a tounge piercing and clicked it on her teeth
my son who was learning to speak (HELLO) started trying to click his teeth too!
Small children will find her body art pretty and try to immitate it maybe w markers but still its an impressionable time in their little minds the administrators will be sure she covers it!

Hi C., I hope this will come across the right way. As Christians, we are suppose to love people for who they are & not condem for the choices we make. As a role model for your child I would hope you would look at the wonderful person she is inside & not what you see on the out.
You as a parent you will have time to teach your child to be her own person and someday she may want a tatoo as well. Then you will express that you don't agree with her choice but as an outsider of her teacher you really should look past the outer package. She is probably one of the most beautiful people you will ever know.
I have two grown daughters & both shocked me with tatoo's, I don't have one either but it doesn't change how beautiful they are or what wonderful christian woman they are.
God Bless you & keep you strong.

It's too bad some of the respondents are being judgemental of you for thinking you're being judgemental of a teachers' tattoo - when you simply asked "ARE you being overly concerned?" Kinda like the pot calling the kettle black.

I see where you're coming from. At one time the stigma of a tattoo was negative. In this day and time, it's more of a fad. Some also have tattoos w/meaning: loss of a love one, name of loved one, etc. I would sit back and see if your concern has any merit. She may turn out to be your favorite teacher. If she shows otherwise, THEN bring THOSE concerns to her attention. If you're still unhappy, talk to the principal. I think she deserves a chance.

Think positive, I think this will turn out to your liking.
Good luck.

P.

I would quietly inquire about the teacher dress policy at the school. Having a tat does not make a person any less of a good role model. To me, a role model is someone who teaches good values and citizenship to our children regardless of what they look like. No, I do not have any tats or unusual piercings.

We are Christian family and believe that you should not "destory" God's temple such as being overweight (which I am currently and working on that issue myself) or getting tattoes. I explain this to my children and also explain the health risks involved in that area as some tat places are not that clean, etc. Not to mention, years later you may just regret that decision from your "youth".

My SIL and her husband both got tats this past year. He has a barb wire around his arm and she has a large flower vine across her lower back. This was the first direct line contact my children had to tats and we had a very in depth conversation about it. Looking at my SIL and her husband, you would never think that they would be ones to get such a thing. However, theirs can be hidden while at work..which is how it should be in a professional field.

Again, look past the tat on your child's teacher, focus on making sure a good education is being given, and just inquire about the dress code with the principal.

J.

you're silly
tattoos are as normal as nail polish

I don't think you are being ridiculous in any way. I think it's a bit tacky to have it showing in a classroom as a teacher. If she were a student w/something like this, it would be expected to be covered. I don't think it's a huge deal, but I'm surprised it's allowed to be shown, especially when it's easy to cover. I don't have a problem w/tatoos, even thought about getting one myself. I just don't think the teacher, being a role model, should display it...good luck on this one!

I agree with you. It is inappropriate for someone in a professional job (like a teacher) to expose their tatoo. Your daughter's teacher needs to cover it up. I highly doubt that the school would allow this if they knew about it. Talk to the principal and tell him/her about the tatoo, and watch how quickly the principal tells the teacher she must cover it up! It should be as simple as that. Obviously, I'm sure the principal won't tell the teacher that it was you who noticed her tatoo, so the teacher will never know who ratted on her!

Overly concerned! Tell your daughter it is body art for ADULTS ONLY!

Good Morning!
I can understand your concern I would feel the same way.
Tatoo's have become so popular they are everywhere..I don't have one and don't really like them but my brother and several close family members do so I have had to deal with this for our son that is 4 now. How I have dealt with this is I explain that everyone makes choices, blah blah but what really works is that our son thinks of tatoos are like a "stamp". He has fun with that as he enjoys and occasional temporary Thomas the Train etc tatoo that comes off. He doesn't like them on him very long.
Don't worry too much. Society use to have the ideal that tatoos' would have to be covered by clothing in a professional environment however I think that has slided unfortunately.
One would think that a professional whom our children are influenced by would have to hold the highest standards so I am so sorry you have to deal with this in our world today!!
Best wishes...sounds like your daughter has a good role model in her mommy and that will be her biggest influence! *grins*
~ Kim

Ummm, not sure where I see the problem. I don't have one, but don't have a problem with it. It's just body art and that's how I would address it with your child (if the subject even comes up)- just like getting your ears pierced. More and more people are getting them. My mom, who is one of the most conservative people I know, is getting one as soon as swimming season is over. I don't think it makes her less of a role model for having one. Now if it was a skull and crossbones, I would have a problem with it. Sounds like you are in pretty much the same type of school district we are and I don't know that requesting a teacher change would be a good idea. They are going to wonder why and unless you have a different reason that you can give it could negatively effect how your daughter is treated. It will get discussed with other teachers and parents (As an active member of our local PTA I KNOW what gets talked about) and this could filter down to you and your daughter. It sounds harsh -and it is- but that's what will probably happen. And I don't think this a big enough deal to do that.

Yes, you are being overly conservative.
I'd bet if you checked around a lot of the other parents have tattoos. Are you not going to let you daughter play with those kids because the parents have a tattoo? What about her doctor? He could easily be sporting one or more tattoos. A tattoo is a personal choice, they are not for everybody.
I'm a grandmother who got her first tattoo 6 years ago, I now have 7 and I'm making plans to add more.

i have 5 tattoos (which by the way i adore and no way regret) and they are all covered up by conservative clothes for work. however on occassion, one of them will pop up for a few seconds. does that make me a bad librarian or role model? get over this real quick and realize you can't suffocate your children with solely your beliefs. the world is out there and if you teach them right, the children will act appropriately. acceptance of other peoples' beliefs should be one of those things that you teach them right away.

Dear C.,
I feel your pain. I would not like it either! Along with too casual dress, visible thongs, etc. As a former teacher, I found these things to be very unprofessional.

With that said, the relationship both you and your daughter have with your teacher this year will be so very, very important. I would strongly encourage you to look beyond it. If your child asks, as others have said, just explain that is a personal choice the teacher has made. I would strongly encourage you to do all that you can to build a strong relationship with the child's teacher, and complaining to the principal about the tatoo will probably get back to the teacher and will not get you off to a good start as far as building a strong relationship. I have no doubt that your child's teacher is very excited about the school year and eager to help the little ones in her charge have a wonderful year. Go out of your way to be kind and supportive to the teacher, look beyond the tatoo, and dif questions arise about it, have a discussion with your daughter about what your family chooses is not the same as what other families choose.

Have a great year!
A.

A tatoo does not have anything to do with her ability to teach your child. Does having a tat make you a bad person? I know many professionals that have a tat somewhere on their body.

Hi C., I do not think that you are being overly concerned. After reading many of the posts, I am surprised about how many took your concern more extreme than you expressed. As a parent, it is natural to worry about such things because you want the best for your child. You are not discriminating against anyone -- you are merely concerned about her choice of how she displays herself. I didn't get the sense that you thought she was a terrible person; you were worried about the effect on your child. If you were worried about your teacher's race -- now that's discrimination. Here, you merely disagree with your child's teacher displays herself. Frankly, I am surprised that a public school allowed the display of the tatoo because schools are so strict about attire, hair styles, types of shoes worn, etc... Our school has a very strict dress policy. I'm not saying that tatoos are wrong, but what is important to consider is the fact that tatoos are not considered appropriate in certain venues. I work in a professional field where I would not garner respect if I openly displayed a tatoo. In fact, I would be prohibited from some venues. It is important to teach your children that althought some of these forms of display may be acceptable, a career choice may affect how your child displays himself as an adult. This not only includes tatoos but piercings, exotic hair colors/styles, etc... In the end, only you can decide what you feel comfortable with and whether you can live with your child being in the class. Keep in mind that when dealing with your child's school, like any other venue, pick your battles wisely. If you take on too many battles, you will lose credibility. Determine if the issue is that important to discuss with school officials. Check the school's dress code too.

Hi C.:

Wow. Of all the things you could be worrying about...

I would be worried that your children are a little too sheltered. Perhaps it's time they learn that there are all kinds of people in this world and they aren't all just like them.

I can only wonder what you are teaching your children about step-families, bi-racial families, homeless people, AIDS and certain other very important issues...

I sure hope your children grow up with caring hearts and without the expectance that all people are the same.

I get it. I'm opposed to tattoos as well. It's a hard situation for you, I know. But I wouldnt change my child's teacher over it.
I'm opposed to a lot of things - things that several beloved family members do. I've told my kids that "so and so does that, but we don't. Mommy and Daddy believe that it's the wrong choice for OUR family." The kids say, "So, they're bad?" We respond, "No, they're not bad, they just made a choice that we don't agree with. That happens a lot in life. We all get to make our own decisions. Sometimes they're good decisions, and sometimes they're not."
It'll be a good opportunity for you to have that conversation because it's going to happen over and over again in life about different things.
Good luck!

The lesson for your daughter here is that people often do things that aren't necessarily good. The Bible speaks against marking and piercing the body. That's enough said, but like the very beginning, people choose not to obey. Then it becomes so ordinary, "everybody is doing it" thing. Yet, the Bible still speaks against it. Even though many are getting tatoos, one still has to be aware that it DOES make some people think a little less of them. There is still that "low class" distinction involved with tatoos.

The world we live in is a very diverse one and getting more and more diverse every day. Our children are growing up in a world that is much smaller due to technology and a world where they are constantly dealing with people and things that are different from them in a multitude of ways. I would view this as a way to have a conversation with my child about choices and differences; this is a way to have dialogue with your child about your family's morals and values and explain that others may not share these same values. I have found that these types of conversations are a great way to reinforce our values with our children while at the same time explaining that different isn't bad and we have to be respectful of other people's choices and differences even when we do not agree with them.

I am not sure you can do anything. I know our school would not change the Teacher. I think you would just come across as a troublemaker. Having said that I don't think you really have a problem. We had a Kindergarten Teacher with a visible tatoo and it was no big deal. My Daughter did notice it, but she has never said she wants one. Even if she did, how could she get one? I would just relax. If you child points it out just say yes she does. If you don't make a big deal out of it they won't either.

My ex has tattoos and my husband has a tattoo and while I don't agree with them, my daughter knows my position on it. You truly are the most influential person in her life at every stage so don't lose faith with that. I taught for 3 years and we weren't even allowed to wear stylish sandals if they were a thong sandal (NOT flip flops, but dressier versions) so I have no idea how she would allowed to wear shoes like that. As other people have said, people get tattoos for different reasons. My best friend has a tattoo of her mother's name on her back because her mother died tragically while we were in highschool. Plus, people nowadays enter teaching from other fields so unless this teacher really knew what she wanted to do with her life early enough, it could have been a young mistake. My ex was even married to a woman who would dye her hair hot pink and black and had piercings...and believe me, my daughter and I had plenty of talks on the subject. If you still don't feel comfortable with it, talk to your teacher and explain your concerns. But make sure you don't tear down her teaching ability or who she is as a person.

Ahm - Michael Phelps has a tattoo - does that remove him from the list of role models?

Don't worry about it. If she had an offensive tattoo I'd be concerned. Expression does not make you a bad role model.

My daughter's 6th grade teacher had a tatoo and she has been one of her best teachers. I would be more concerned with her teaching habits and if she loves the kids. A tatoo does not make her a bad teacher or a bad person. It's a flower, not a skull or a demonic sign.

As the school and the teacher are in such a well regarded school district, I would say that this says more about the teacher than a small tatoo on her foot. It shows that she was not employed based on her appearance, but on her capabilities. I am a teacher, with tatoos, and children have asked me about them - I don't flaunt them, school is not the place, but neither do I go out of my way to hide them. I understand your concerns, but perhaps now is the time to explain to your daughter that some people make the choice to get a tatoo. When I first began teaching there was another teacher who was grossly overweight - I heard that some parents questioned her capabilities, and that was not fair. She was a wonderful teacher.
I don't think that you have to worry, I doubt that the teacher will be soliciting for tatoo shops. Plus, hasn't your daughter ever had a removable tatoo?
You can be a great role model AND look different.
Good luck.

Girl, get over it! This is the real world and in this real world there are people with differences. Doesn't make them good. Doesn't make them bad. Just different. That's reality. What's important is to teach your daughter how to interact and accept ALL people with differences, not discriminate against them. 'Cause, yes, for you to change her teacher without even giving her a chance to prove what kind of person she is, is DISCRIMINATION. It's up to us to teach our children, not condition them. And by the way, I don't have an ink mark on my body.

You are making a mountain out of a mole hill. Aren't there plenty of other things to be worried about. Your daughter is going to see plenty of average,everyday folks with tattoos. You need to teach your daughter it doesn't make them a bad person or even different from her or them. I am sorry you are letting this eat you up. Your daughter is very young-I hate to see what you worry about when she is in middle school or even high school.

Wow, looks like you stumbled upon a hot topic! Don't let the name callers who posted very rude remarks deter you from reading the valid advice.

I would ask the teacher what her response is if the children ask, it is possible that she has a witty answer prepared. Please do not attempt to change your childs room until you have addressed this one on one with the teacher, it will disrupt not only your child, but the change in numbers will affect the students in BOTH rooms. Also, you run the risk of being labeled by school administrators as a hard to please parent, your baby is in first grade, you will have to deal with these people for a LONG time.

Open you heart and mind to positive qualities, if the negative still outweigh the positive, then go with your heart. Good Luck!

C.,

I've been surprised at the attack mode some of these tolerant moms have gone into over this question! It is making me re-think the purpose of this website.

As to your question, I am in the very clear minority, apparently! First of all, I think any parent has the right to be concerned about any aspect of a teacher, whether it's considered reasonable by others or not. This person will not only teach your child, he or she will influence your child in countless ways over the course of a year. A young child in particular is easily influenced by attitudes, values, etc, that don't even have to be verbally communicated. While that doesn't mean a person with a tattoo will automatically be a bad influence, it also doesn't mean the person is automatically going to be a good influence, either. (why is it okay to scrutinize every aspect of a particular house or vehicle before buying it, but not okay to scrutinize the adult who will be in charge of your child's life on a daily basis!)

Although tattoos are definitely more acceptable and even have become quite a trend, it doesn't mean we all have to accept them, much less embrace them. I think it is okay to still prefer that a career professional, especially a teacher, would either not have one or would have one that is easily hidden, out of respect for those who may feel differently about them. After all, teachers aren't allowed to express their religious beliefs in any way in the classroom...or say anything that could influence a child in that regard. While a tattoo may be considered "just" body art, it is something that isn't even legal for a child, nor is it always safe for an adult. It raises questions and issues that you just shouldn't have to deal with at the first grade level.

I feel compelled to stress the obvious right now (to any angry readers out there) that I am just sharing my opinion. I don't think the tattoo issue should even be relegated to the "teachable moment" category: I just think it shouldn't be brought into play on any level for any reason in the classroom. I think the tattoo issue is a good example of a larger issue, which is that standards of teachers and of public education in general have changed dramatically over the course of the years, and what would have once been an environment that you could have just left your child in for 6-8 hours a day and assume they would be surrounded by the people who share the same standards/beliefs/values (whatever you want to call it), such is no longer the case.

My child was in public school kindergarten last year, in a district that is known for its high level of achievement and its dedicated teachers and parents. She had an excellent teacher. We didn't have the tattoo issue, but at Christmas, we did have a little problem with the movie she chose to show to her class. It was the Polar Express, and while I know many people have enjoyed that movie, I find it dark and disturbing, and I knew my daughter well enough to know she would be bothered by aspects of it, too. So I just privately told the teacher my daughter would be absent during that part of the day, and that was all there was to it. I briefly considered voicing a concern to the principal but decided it was just my personal issue (not sure that was the right thing to do, but I didn't want to rock the boat!). But it did open my eyes to the fact that there are just many different ways of looking at things and considering what is and is not appropriate for children, and it is my joy, privilege and job as a parent to filter out the things I don't want to deal with at any phase or stage of childhood. So for you, I would say just get in touch with what you really think/feel/believe about this issue and follow your best instincts. My guess is this is probably a good teacher who won't unduly influence your child in a negative way. But the possibility is there (meaning, she could make having a tattoo seem like a brave, wonderful thing to do and unintentionally engender a desire in your child to have one), and if it is disturbing enough to you, then request a change of teacher (after checking dress policy, talking to the teacher and/or principal, etc). It shouldn't be a big deal either way - meaning, if it shouldn't be a big deal to have a teacher with a tattoo, then it also shouldn't be a big deal to choose NOT to have a teacher with a tattoo! Tolerance works both ways, or it should but seldom does. :)

Best wishes in sorting out what you will do, and I hope you haven't been too hurt or offended by some of the less than considerate, intolerant responses. BTW, we decided we didn't want to go through 12 years of having to closely monitor and filter the public classroom experience, so we are going to a private school now. I know that isn't always an option...homeschooling could be another possibility to consider, if it gets to a point where you feel you need a change. Good luck to you!

How the teacher is on the inside so to speak and treats the kids, and teaches them is soooooooo much more important than if she has a tatoo on her foot. I know of a lot of people that wouldn't think of having a tataoo, smoking , or drinking that are not nice people, and are mean natured and I wouldn't want them around my kids, so in my opinon, you are way over=reacting to the tatoo, it isn't an evil one up and down her arm, just a little one on her foot, that sound simple

HI C.,

Are you sure the teachers are allowed to wear flip-flops? I use to teach first grade and everyone that had a visible tatoo had to cover it with a band-aid or wear socks or closed-toed shoes.

Check with the principal on this rule.

I hope that you are teaching your child that just because someone is different doesn't make them bad. But it seems like you are not. Your "concern" is bigoted, narrow-minded, intolerant, and ethnocentric. You are judging someone by their appearance, not by the content of their character (MLK) or their credentials. Another horrible lesson to teach your child. What would happen if your child had a teacher from India with a small nose piercing? What if your child had an African-American teacher with dredlocks? I teach a university, and a former student of mine majored in education. She is a Muslim and wears a headscarf. Would you yank your child out of her class? What if you are Christian your child's teacher was wearing a Star of David necklace?

I hope your child never has an appearance-related issue that would cause people like you to dismiss her intelligence and talent the way you are dismissing the intelligence and talent of her teacher with the tatoo.

And BTW, I do NOT have a tatoo.

OMG. I am a substitute teacher, mother and I sport a tattoo. My 13 yr old is in the process of designing a small piece of art for my ankle.

My current tattoo is on my lower back so it is not always visible but I have had students ask me about it. They ask if it hurt. YES it did, a LOT. I use that time to tell them it is permanent and they need to wait until they are older and know for certain that it is what they want IF they choose to get inked.

My mother is the only one that cringes over it. I have chosen to live a plane ticket away from her.

If you choose to make a big deal over it, your child could possibly be treated differently AND could possibly miss out on the best teacher.

I would think again before judging someone's character and morals just because of a tattoo.

I personally think it is no biggie but if it bothers you why dont you talk to the principal and have it covered up.If you do that thought yu have to think about the possibilty that she will find out it was you and you dont want to make it diffcult for your daughter.I am sure it is hard seeing your little one go to schoool away from you and you are just being protective which is what makes you a great mom.I know that my son is only a year old and I am very protective of him.Being a mom makes you crazy.Like when he was a newborn I would get so mad if anyone washed his bottles with anything but his bottle brush.You are just being a good mom who is to tell you what is right for you baby but you.If it bothers you that is your progative she is your daughter not anyone elses and you just want what is best for her.Just analize if it is something you want to bring up or leave alone.I go back and forth all the time wondering if I should put my son in public school or private school.I think not as much goes on in private school but I think if he is exposed to these things before he leaves my home then i still have a chance to talk to him about them.I mean i would never want my child to try drugs but I would rather it happen before he leaves my home than after he goes to college so I can still help him.Heaven forbid it ever happen in the first place but I think you might want to think about that.You know at least she is young and still in your home so you might wwant to take advantage of that and teach her something about it.It is utimitaly your choice what you do but know also if you do talk to her that young kids a lot of time blurt things out and take them out of context.So she might go to school and tell her teacher something like my mommie says tatoos are bad.I hope this helps you a little bit I was just rying to give you both sides of the spectrum.I just want to say good job and thank you for caring about your daughters future so many people dont!

Whoa!!!!!! C., I am sorry that your simple question has caused some personal attacks on you as a person that are actually very hurtful but on the other hand, you have also received some really good ones with good advice.
No, you are not being overly concerned. You are being a good Mom!!!!! If the tattoo makes you uncomfortable, go with your heart. If the teacher is asked to cover it up and she mistreats your daughter because of it, she does not belong in the classroom. This is your child and you are responsible for her and there are no "do overs" in rearing a child. Whatever your values are in your home, take them with you wherever you go. Stand up for what you think might have a negative impact on your child. Be as conservative as you feel is necessary in being a good Mom! Remember, go with your heart! Your daughter is depending on you!!!!!!

I don't think you are. I think the teacher should keep it covered. The kids should never know it's there. 1st graders should not think a tatoo is cool because their teacher has one. Last weekend I worked an over $40/hour promotional modeling job because Verizon canceled the other model because of her visible tatoo. They gave us capris and wedge sandals to wear an she had a small tatoo on her ankle. Not only are visible tatoos undesirable for a high paying career they can also be damaging to your health by putting toxins in your body. I wouldn't want my daughter to be influenced by seeing her teacher with one and thinking it's pretty. I wouldn't even want her to be influenced on a subliminal level. In addition, out of all my friends over the years with tatoos only two of them didn't do drugs. Simply put, I wouldn't care how great a teacher she is, if she taught Sunday school and studied the Bible after working all day in a soup kitchen. You don't want your daughter to get a tatoo. And Ladies, tatooing is not the new body adornment piercing is. What are we going to do next? Allow teachers to teach with there tongues pierced? How about eyebrows and lips? Lastly, it is misguided and shows that some have no idea what real discrimination is to compare you changing teachers from someone who CHOOSES to put permanent "art" on her body to wanting to change teachers because they have a disability or are of a different race. We don't have to be tolerant of teachers wearing visible tatoos or smoking in front of our kids, those are personal choices and have no place in our schools.

C.,
You are a very young Mother and have not had the pleasure of having a teenager. If this were your daughter and had probably as a young adult or maybe younger gotten a tatoo without your permission but was of good character,would you want her to be judged with such a broad brush? I have 2 daughters both teachers with tatoos. Over my objections,they at 18 got them. One of them has spent $1500 trying to get it removed.
Child rearing is a race not a sprint. If you are going to freak out because the teacher has a tatoo,you won't make it.
Don't sweat the small stuff. If nobody dies,it is all small stuff.
N. Cox
Mom of 7
Grandmother of 10

Hmm... i think that it is not a big deal and you may be over reacting. But it is school and most jobs require you to cover them up. Maybe call the school and ask what the regulations are and if it is supposed to be covered while she is working. my son is starting 1st grade this year so i know this age is very impressionable. (sp?) anyway... i don't mind the tat's myself i have 6 but in the work environment i keep all of them covered! I don't think you should try to move your child into another class. what are you going to do? inspect all the 1st grade teachers? NO! =) Just call the school and check the and see if they is supposed to cover it up. They may say no, if they do tell them (the principal, secretary whoever) that you would be more comfortable if she did.

Hi there,
I think you are being really overconcerned. If your daughter brings this up to you, you can use it as an opportunity to explain whatever you want about tattooing, but this teacher has the right to have this tattoo, and there is no reason she should be made to cover it. Personally, I can tell you that I am a professor at UNT with a Ph.D. I have two tattoos that almost never show, but occasionally they do. I am no less of a role model to my children, my students, my colleagues, anyone I meet, etc, because I have permanent ink. I personally find fake nails and dyed hair revolting, and I don't like shorts, but that doesn't mean I make judgements about the people who get fake nails, dye their hair, and wear shorts. Some people don't like pierced ears, but does that mean those with pierced ears shouldn't be allowed to wear earrings in front of children? We live in a society that celebrates difference. Don't make something out of nothing. It is sure to backfire. If you make a big deal about this tattoo, you'll alienate your child from the school, get a bad rep which will reflect poorly on her, and probably make her WANT a tattoo. Just my two cents.

My husband is a new teacher and we just read over his district's dress code yesterday. For both the men and the women teachers it states, "No visible tatoos." I believe this is because, as you stated, teachers are our children's role models. I wonder if you could find out if she is in violation of the dress code and have it addressed that way. I

I respect your conservative attitude, although I don't share it (and no, I don't have any tatoos). I think if you make a big deal of it, it will become a big deal by drawing unnecessary attention to it. You are showing a discrimanatory attitude towards those who prefer body art, and you say you don't think less of this teacher yet I'm picking up that really you do, and you risk your daughter picking up on that vibe. Is your daughter asking questions about the tatoo? If not, then you should just ignore it as well. And if she asks, you should answer in as nonchalant a way as possible. Just be matter-of-fact about what it is and that only adults are allowed to do it. And it's OK to let her know it is not something you agree with, but just don't be negative about the teacher when you tell your daughter this because you don't want her to turn around and be negative or disrespectful to the teacher . . . after all, she will model her own behavior after you.

Seing as how it is not an offensive tatoo, I normally would not be too concerned, I am of the younger generation that it is more acceptable though. However, the teacher is in a role model position and so as a parent I would be concerned, the school should have her cover it up. I work in aviation and all tatoos must be covered. I would speak with the principal first and find out what the school policy is, then look to have her removed.

Life is too short for such nonsense. With all that is going on in the world right now. Tattoos??? Should be the least of your worries. How about a teacher that has a foul mouth, one that let’s bully’s get away with bulling, one that plays favorites, one that doesn’t take her job seriously? These are valid things to be worried about. Really, a tattoo; I think people should put more energy on important things like getting these tattooed teacher’s a pay raise, I remember when my mom was a teacher her job was wonderful till the parents showed up. Stop thinking about it, your making a mountain out of ..well nothing.

I have read a lot of the responses and a few people I see on here seem to be very set in their ways. I, first off, do not think you should remove your child from the classroom because of it. But you have your beliefs and you need to teach your child as best as possible of your beliefs. She will be influenced by so many other things and people that this is just an obstacle that may not even pose a problem to begin with. it would be a good learning experience. And whether or not the teacher chose to put TOXINS in herself is entirely up to her, regardless of who looks down on that. What about the food we eat, the polution in the air, global warming for goodness sakes! It is adornment, just more permanent than piercings, as well as a "fashion statement" for a new generation coming up. You just need to be confident in your parental skills and teach her what you believe is right without making this teacher out to be a bad person for having a flower tattoo. She very well may be a bad person for all anyone knows, but a tattoo will not indicate that. Figure out who she is as a person, and let your daughter as well, before you make such rash decisions. If you did remove her, what would that be telling her about people outside of her school with tattoos? Just be aware of what the consequences would be for either decision and what your daughter might pick from that, rather that just a tattoo. And drugs and flower tattoos do not coincide no matter who tells you that. Plenty of people do drugs and look like a saint. PLEASE do not think that it is either or. Give her a chance, and give your daughter the benefit to look beyond the exterior. Another thought(not to keep typing away) what happens if a child who has very little at home comes to class with rundown clothes and dirty hair. That poor child will learn way too early on to begin with how cruel the world when you do not look like everyone else without having to be predisposed to it so early as the first grade. I don't always respond to these, but when I do, I have quite a bit to say, and feel like I should say it so you do not have such outrageous responses such as toxins.....seriously?

I've taught elementary music in 3 districts and 2 states, and find that tattoos are really getting to be pretty common among women - young, older, teachers, you name it. I don't have one myself, but from working with plenty of teachers who do, I can say that it never impacted the job they did. (Even my daughter's pediatrician has one on her foot like you've described!) As for explaining it to your daughter, it is a great learning experience. I would wait until she brings it up. Keep your eyes out for other women in your families lives who have them too so she can see that her teacher is just like other people. (Kids need this lesson anyways - most of them think that we sleep in the closets at school. The look on their faces when they see me at the grocery store - whoa!) Classroom change requests are tricky things. I would only do it if you have serious problems with the teacher. Balancing class lists, with considerations for gender, age, learning differences, race, etc. are very tricky, and a principal who gives in to every parent request isn't supporting his/her staff very well. My advice - take a deep breath, prepare for the inevitable questions, and enjoy getting to know your daughter's new teacher!

I am an elementary teacher. I have a tattoo - 2 of them! And I have to say I am puzzled by your statement or judgement per-say. One of my tattoo's is visible, on my ankle. Not one teacher, parent or administration personnel has ever said anything other than, "I like your tattoo". I have had 2 students ask me about it - basically all they want to know is did it hurt and I say, "YES". It is symbolic to me and it is a pretty tattoo. The fact I have ink on my ankle does not in any way take away from my abilities to teach my students. My class motto is family - in my classroom we are family, we have each other's back and support one another in failures and accomplishments. I'm positive that my tattoo does not take away from that message nor keeps them from learning.

What a wonderful opportunity to teach your child acceptance. The world is made up of many, many different people, who each have their own uniquenesses. The world is getting smaller and our children are being exposed to many cultures and lifestyles that were unheard of when we were growing up. They will all eventually be working together in society and will need to know how to respect those around them even if they are different or make different choices than the would. I would worry more about what I would be teaching my child by pulling her out of the class than by her teacher having a tatoo. Give the teacher a chance to do what she is there to do I'm sure you will all learn from eachother this year. Best wishes.

It sounds like you are judging the book by its cover. If you don't think a tattoo makes her any less of a person, why is it even an issue? This sounds very judgmental. I can't even believe it is an issue.
I would tell my first grader that it is something artsy that some people like to decorate their body with. It is something that can be done once you are an adult and can make grown up decisions.

This is just a thought, but around here students are required to cover those type of things. You might check with the school just to know what the dress code is for the teachers. I'm pretty sure the schools in my town wouldn't allow the teacher to show a tattoo.

Gosh, I really never thought about it. My son's first teacher had a tattoo on her foot and my only thought about it was "didn't that hurt!" He was 3 and going to a church preschool. My husband and I don't have any tattoos, but know several people who do. You probably know others that have tattoos, you just don't know about it. Several of my friends have them and I never knew until it came up in conversation at a Bible study one day.
Don't worry about it. As long as she is taking good care of your daughter I wouldn't be concerned. If you are really against tattoos, you can use it as a learning experience if your daughter mentions it. Even then, you need to make sure she understands it's only the tattoo you don't like, not the teacher.

Although teachers can wear sandals and flip flops, most schools don't allow visible tattoos. I would think during school hours she would have to wear shoes that cover it up. My husband and I don't have tattoos, nor do we ever intend to get any. We do, however, have a lot of friends and family that have made that choice. Of course my kids see them. I just explain to them that they look okay on some people, but my views on them for myself are not so good. It is a choice. All you can do is teach your kids and pray they make good decisions. I'm open enough with mine to go ahead and say that I hope and pray that they wouldn't scar their bodies with such nonsense. Maybe they'll listen :) I really don't think that her seeing a tattoo on her teacher will even phase her, due to the prominence of them in society anyway. She's still little. She'll agree with your views on them right now because you're Mommy. I wouldn't worry about it enough to change teachers. She might be the best role model in the world for your little girl. A tattoo doesn't change her heart. Good luck!
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Tattoos are as common as pierced ears. There was a time when ear piercings were taboo and controversial.
Please teach your children to be accepting. Some of the most intelligent and creative people of the common era are also tattooed. It's called body art for a reason. Besides, unfortunately, there will be so many genuine issues to deal with as your children get older. Choose your battles wisely.

1 Samuel 16:7(b)
We go to a very young church and the majority of the youth ministry volunteers are college aged. So we have teachers with tatoos/nose rings/dreed-locks etc teaching my 7 and 5 year olds. They are so great with the kids. I love the fact that my kids see goldy people in that cultural context.

What are your concerns or fears of a teacher with a tatoo? What will happen if your daughter see the tatoo? Or admires the tatoo?

Hope that helps.

I too am conservative and I see where you are coming from. My girls are very young and my two year old was watching Sesame Street yesterday and there is a new character with a nose ring!!! I freaked, keep in mind I went through my piercing phase in college and did the belly button, tounge & upper ear. Their daddy was praticaly a pin cushion and he had tatoos. (he has since had them removed as they were not meaningful and kinda stupid)Do I want my girls to get pierced and have tatoos - not really - am I going to be able to stop them when they turn 18 - not really.

As for your question should you request a class change - NO WAY!! Unless you plan to hide your kiddos from the outside world.... they are going to see lots of things that you will not approve of. If she bring it up like you said use it as a time to discuss body art with her!

I have several sorority sisters who are teachers and quite a few have tatoos and I assure you they are all amazing teachers and wonderul role models!!!

No, but I can't imagine the school allowing a teacher to break the dress code! Please mention it to her before saying something to her principal. This is a good discussion subject. Your daughter may understand that her teacher likes her tattoos. Just point out to your daughters that Josh Hamilton has tattoos that he is ashamed of and people sometimes make choices that will always be published, good, bad or neither. This is a good lesson to think before acting! Actions taken may be offensive to other people in ways they don't realize until it's too late. (Just be thankful she's just showing one on her foot and not somewhere you would truly hate for the children to see. There is an older woman who is a teller at a bank in Mineral Wells that has one on her breast and wears clothes that flash it when she reaches forward to operate the drive-up drawer! Gross!)

As you said, the teacher is not less of a person for having a tattoo, I would wait until your daughter brings it to your attention and then simply explain that we all have choices to make and obviously you and your husband have chosen not to have tattoos and expect that when your children are old enough they make a good decisions not to tattoo their body either. With that said, the teacher may be an awesome teacher and an excellent role model in all other aspects...so try not to sweat the small stuff too much. Also, instead of thinking of requesting a different teacher, ask the principal what the ISD's dress code/protocol for visible tattoos is. I would be willing to bet they have some sort of rule regarding it. Good luck.

I can understand that you would be concerned. I don't like them myself, but they seem to be everywhere. My boys see them in Target when you get some guy in a t-shirt that has tatoo sleeves. My husband has one as well and although I don't like it, he's a wonderful person.

Its good to be conservative, but I wouldn't get too upset, I don't think they let the teachers wear flip flops and when she does notice it, be honest with her and let her know that it is forever and other tatoo facts. I've come to realize it over the years that some people just like to carry their artwork with them instead of hanging it on a wall.

i think you're making a big issue out of nearly nothing. my son had was team taught by two teachers at a public school last year, LOVED them both. very nice women, great teachers, my little boy did great with them. one day while i was at the school, one of the had on a short sleeve shirt and when she moved her arm, i noticed a flowery tattoo that went all the way around her arm. i was thinking "wow, ms **** has a tattoo", it did kind of shock me, but i already knew she was a great teacher and i didn't care in the least. but to be honest, i may have had a different reaction if i had see the tattoo before i knew and liked her so much. i took a lesson away from that, b/c i knew in my heart that i may have judged her(but i wouldn't have pulled my son from her class) if i had seen the tattoo first.

Hi you are obviously uncomfortable with a teacher having a tattoo in a visible place. Do you think that this means she is more likely to have different values than you and that you think she will somehow be more permissive or encourage things you don;t want encouraged in your daughter? I would really think hard about where this us coming from bc a lot of this is just assumptions based on a small tattoo. (it could be she has many more that are not visible or maybe this is the only one!)

I don't have a tatoo and personally would never get one. However I would not dismiss someone's values or teaching or morality based on a small visible tattoo. My son had a mothers day out aide that habitually wore very low rise pants and a very visible thong. I thought it was in poor taste for a teacher but was willing to consider that she might be a great aide. BUT she was also a mediocre aide and after several months of caring for kids in a disinterested manner she was let go bc parents complained...not just about the thong but about her unresponsiveness to the kids. I still don;t think one is related to the other but I can see how people would end up with those perceptions.

I personally have more problems with preteens dressing like 21 year olds on a man hunt and have to wonder abotu their moms and their values. A tatoo in an adult...small and not the most conspicious would not in the least bother me. I would want the teacher to be the best she could be for my daughter...first grade is not an easy year and its important to have a sensitive caring teacher. If you make the tatoo an issue you are most likely going to generate more interest in your daughter and push her where you don;t want her to go. Most likely she will not care. Just tell her some people like to decorate their bodies that way. There are some truly big issues waiting to raise their head in a few years with all our kids. making an issue over a small tatoo on a teacher before you even know what kind of person she is, is really not very significant a battle to fight at this point.
Good luck!

I think you need to look past teh tatoo and focus on the good qualities of the teacher. If this is a highly regarded school then i'm sure she is a high sought after teacher. Tatoo's are everywhere even in gum ball machines. If your daughter asks, or you may want to talk to her ahead of time, it give you a chance as a parent to make your choice and opinions clear. I am sure she is not the only one in the school, in your church etc... That has a tatoo. I don't have one either but the world is surrounded by different styles and different people. That is why it is oddly wonderful. Try not to judge. You may want to really think about what the real issue is... Are you having a hard time letting her go to school??????

Tatoos are a form of expression kind of like the choice to get your ears peirced. I would not worry so much about a flowery tatoo. A skull and crossbones would be worse, don't you think? And no you really can not shelter your daughter too much because you will probably run into much worse in the grocery store.

In my opinion, yes, you are being extreme and over sheltering. My parents have been missionaries all my life, so I completely understand the different levels of thinking on tatoos. But my mom watched an episode, a while back, of "Miami ink" and it changed her views...not to the extent where she is going to get one or like for one of her children or grandchildren to. But she doesn't look down on someone because they have tatoos. Many times there are heart breaking stories behind the reason someone got a tatoo or for an inspirational reason. I could understand your concerns if it was a skull or something dark. In today's time and age if something on this level is bothering you so badly you're going to have a tough time. You could use this time for you and your daughter to both learn from. You don't judge a book by it's cover. This teacher could be the most inspirational one your daughter will ever have. Just my opinion....hope you figure it out!

The school district obviously finds her competent to teach. I wouldn't dwell on it too much and probably discuss it only when questioned. Use it as a chance to say "Hey, everyone's a little bit different, and she chose to do something permanent to her body," then share briefly why your family disagrees with that choice. Many "normal" people these days have tattoos, so be careful not to question the teachers ethics/morals. Honestly, I bet your daughter doesn't even notice it.

Wow...189 responses...that's a lot! :-) I use to be a teacher assistant back in the late 90's and I don't have any tatoo's but I knew a few teachers that did. I think it is good that you are thinking ahead and maybe explain it to your daughter that some people have them and some don't. I tell my kids about drugs, drinking, tatoo's and everything in between, (they are 2, 4 and 6 years old). They know what is good and bad, and I don't consider a tatoo bad, they just know that they have to be 21 before they get one and 82 before they drink. :-) I think is is good to keep an open mind and just follow your own heart and instill the morals and values you want in your child. If the tatoo really eats at you, talk to the teacher about it, if she is a good teacher she will understand. Good luck with everything. :-)

You are being overly concerned......a tattoo does not negate the teacher being a good role model or her ability as a great teacher. Corporate executives have tattoos in this day and time--it is no longer the "sailor's badge of courage". If you are asked about it---just say yes--she does have a lovely flower on her foot----and leave it alone! The less said the better!!

Me--Mom of 1, Nana of 3 (1 a 1st grader this year)--and NO..I do not have a tattoo--nor would I ever get one!

I know you have obviously had tons of responses, but I just wanted to put in my two cents. I am currently working on my Bachelor's in Education. I hope to be a first grade teacher : )...and I have a tattoo. HOWEVER, I definitely see your point and I would probably feel the same way if it was my child. I got a tattoo on my shoulderblade, and intend to cover it up all the time when I teach because I do feel that tattoos are a distraction to children. I think the teacher should be covering it up, and the dress code probably requires this. I WOULD be a bit concerned about the teacher, not because of the fact that she has a tattoo, but because it sounds like she is probably breaking the rules. I am a very by-the-book person, as a role-model should be, and it doesn't sound like she is. I think that you should do what another mom said and ask in the office what the policy is...hopefully they will remind her. And I wouldn't try to switch teachers, but I would be very involved and try to get to know her. She may be really nice. I, like you wouldn't be thrilled, but there are worse things...

If it bothers you, it's probably bothering someone else. I would say something. The tattoo may not be offensive but she should cover it up during the time she's with the kids, if for no other reason than it's distracting to the children. I find that teachers are dressing more like students now. It does give me pause and certainly makes me wonder if it affects how students relate to their teachers. It does make you wonder how students regard a person who is the authority of a classroom setting when they are dressed like a student!

I don't want to get any flack from the other moms about stereotyping, but I understand how you feel. When I was a kid, we didn't know anyone with tattoos...they were for bikers, ex-cons or a few ex-military.

It's hard to change how you think about things, but tattoos have become "fashionable." Our generation had ear-piercing and this generation has tattoos. You're going to be seeing alot more of them, so get used to them and realize you need to give the teacher a chance.

So because she has a tattoo she can not be a role model? In my opinion, you are being judgemental. You have not said what kind of teacher she is. You have no idea what kind of a person she is. You do not know why she has the tattoo...maybe it represents something special to her and even if it is just "art" I think it should not matter. I can't believe you would be willing to ask for another teacher that may not be as good at teaching your daughter just because this one has a tattoo. I am surprised you daughter has not seen someone with a tattoo yet or maybe she has and just did not think much of it.

C.,

I understand your concern and wanting to 'protect' your daughter from the things of the world. HOWEVER, I think that you might need to stop for a second and think about the teacher for just a minute...WHY does she have the tattoo? Some people, me included, get tats just because (I have 3 and my first was 'just because') and some people get them to represent a difficult time in their past, a happy time, to show their love for someone, etc. There may be a very sentimental reason that she has the tattoo and if you approach her with a negative attitude about it, this may be cause for more concerns about your daughter in her classroom. I believe that everyone has the right to their own opinion - this includes you and the teacher. I would let it go and just address the question if it arises from your daughter. Tattoos don't make a person bad-just an individual with a way to express their feelings/emotions/individuality. I actually have 3 total - Like I said one was just because - the other two have meaning behind them. My last one is actually a witnessing tool for my Lord Jesus. My next one (and there will be a next one) will honor my upcoming grand daughter.

Don't judge or her or make short sided opinions of her based on the tattoo. She is probably a great person and a wonderful teacher. These are the things that I would focus on.

Well, I guess you could look for the silver lining:

1. It's not a skull and cross bones.

2. I is not on her face.

3. It won't show all year long.

4. It can definitely be a TEACHABLE MOMENT.

I hope it helps. :o)

Blessings,

P. <><

I don't agree with tattoo's either but my daughter is a 2nd grade teacher and a wonderful role model and has a tattoo on her lower back. She did it in college and tries very hard to cover it up but sometimes the kids do see it. Teacher's work very hard and they don't have an easy job so please don't make a big deal over this. It does not show that that teacher is any less motivated and determined to teach your child to the best of their ability. My daughter happens to be the teacher that all the parents and kids ask for so I think that speaks volumes. You may be doing your child an injustice taking her out of this class. I'm sure that this teacher is every bit as loving and caring and talented as any other teacher that doesn't have a tattoo!!!

OH my, Lighten up. Do you not think she has ever seen anyone in public with a tatoo? Kids only react to alot of things because the parents make a big deal of it. I do not have a tatoo but my daughter has several but it does not change who she is. She has a good job, family and enjoys showing them to people who ask her about them. How do you explain the different hair styles, cuts and colors to her? Just let it go and let her develop into a very smart young lady on her own. If she ask questions, don't freak out. Just answer them honestly.

I think you need to explain to your child where you stand on the issue of tattoos. People have alot of things I don't agree with but you set the standard in your home. My son is very observant and just entered 1st grade on yesterday. We have him and have had him in private Christian schools all his life. My son was given play tattoos from his teacher in Pre-K! It took all the Christ in me to kindly explain to his teacher that, play tattoos and real tattoos are not acceptable. His body belongs to God and will not be defiled. The introduction of tattoos is not acceptable. I hadn't planned on explaining about tattoos to my child at the age of 4, but the bible says if you train up a child in the way they should go when they are old the will not depart from it. My husband and I do not have tattoos and we have to teach and live before our children as examples. I am conservative and plan on living as Christ-like before my children and our congregation as much as possible. The blessing about it is, it’s okay to be different and nowadays conservative is different!

So what is more important? Would you rather have a good teacher with a tattoo or a bad one without? You say you're not against tattoos, you know it does not make her less of a person for having one, but you're not sure you want "this person" teaching your daughter? If you are not against tattoos, and it doesn't make her less of a person for having one, then what is your real issue? Why don't you wait and find out what kind of teacher she is before you consider changing your daughter's class? I'm sure she's seen tattoos before and if you don't make a big deal out of it, she won't think a thing about it. Do you think your daughter is going to spend all of her school time obsessing about this tattoo? Most likely not, and as long as the teacher is a good teacher and the tattoo is in reasonably good taste(which by your description it is), then you should just ignore the tattoo. If your daughter asks, handle it just like you said, some people choose to, and some people don't. For all you know, the teacher may have gotten it when she was 18, hate it now and be planning on having it removed when she can save up the money(might be a while on a teacher's salary) and as far as that goes, teachers do so much for so little pay and even fewer thanks, why make a tattoo such a big deal? BTW - no, I don't have any tattoos. I hope you base your decision on the caliber of the teacher and what your child learns from her - and I'm pretty sure that getting a tattoo will not be in the lesson plan this year.......

Maybe instead of being critical of the teacher & her choices, you should use this opportunity to talk with your child about individuality & choices that can affect your life permanently.

I do think you are thinking too much into it. Judge by what a great teacher she is and be happy that its a flower and not a skull and bones or pot leaf. Don't judge a book by its cover. Some of the most "normal" conservative looking people do some really messed up things behind closed doors. If your child questions it- just give your perspective on what you think- and explain that it was her choice but it's not a choice YOU would of made. You are her role model- Teachers come and go but role model moms are here to stay.

Don't forget- most people regret the tatoo they get and it could of been a bad choice- or its something to remember someone in their life that may have passed away- there is usually a meaning behind a tatoo. t's notmy choice but I know many people with them and that is my experience. Having it on her foot meant that she felt a bit conservative about it. I do not hink there is anything wrong with your child even asking her. Not like you 1st grader is going to go out and get one- right? lol

Get to know the teacher and volunteer in the class as much as possible. I bet you will be pleasantly surprised.--"Dont judge a book by its cover" is something we sometimes loose perspective of when we are moms.-Its that protective guard..and thats ok.

Good luck
D. S

I do not have a tattoo and I never will. I really hope that my son chooses not get get one when he gets older. That is just my opinion, and I still think you are being totally ridiculous. You can share your opinion with your daughter, but do not let a tattoo (especially a girly flower on her foot) cloud your judgement of this woman abd her ability to teach your child.

im sorry but you got to be kidding! just because she has a tatoo on her foot doesnt mean shes out to corrupt your child! my daughter is a pre kindergarten teacher and she has several tatoos and your child would have been lucky to of had her for a teacher! as a matter of fact parents have requested to have their children in her class on several occasions...by the way i have a tatoo on my left shoulder and on my right foot also.

If your daughter asks about it, you can tell her what I have told my first grader. All I had to do was mention that tattoos are made by poking your skin with a needle a LOT of times. This really opened her eyes (literally), and I think that for at least the time being she can't imagine ever wanting to get one!

I like you have definitely lost perspective. I would be more concerned about the teacher's abilities as a teacher. A tatoo should not make anyone more or less of a role model or qualified to do something..it is simply adnorement for the body, much like pierced ears. I am a standup, Christian 41 year old mom of two girls, and I have a tatoo...I teach Sunday school, I am girl scout leader, and I am a great mom. Please don't judge a book by its cover...it's what's on the inside that is important.

This is NOT something to be concerned about. I personally don't have a tatoo and so far my older children haven't made that choice, but it is something that is very popular. I have several wonderful, CONSERVATIVE friends that got tatoos in college and regret it now. Even if your daughter notices and thinks its neat, it's not a big deal. She's just in 1st grade and will be exposed to many, many different things before she is old enough to make those choices. My daughter loves to play w/ temporary tatoos and I always tell her that this is fun because when she gets tired of it or wants a different one we can wash it off....unlike those poor people who get REAL tatoos and then they are stuck with them! I had a similar concern when my daughter was taking private swimming lessons. Her teacher wore a 2 piece suit one day and her belly button was pierced! Later that day I noticed my daughter had a "stick on earring" in her belly button so she could look like her teacher! haha!

C.~
The true teachable moment is here-it is not about Tattoos at all. The Lord works in mysterious ways....nothing is random. The lesson is in judgment. A lot of judgment has been made against you-you are probably feeling unfairly so.How could people judge you based on one statement? The answer is they can't, they shouldn't-neither should you. Maybe you just needed to experience this to understand it better. It is a lesson for all of us. Like I said, the Lord works in the most mysterious of ways.
N.

Some of the other Moms suggested not using this as a learning experience. This is a fantastic chance for you to open your mind and heart a little wider to the opportunities that the world has to offer.
The fact that the issue here is a VISIBLE label is very disconcerting. It seems you'd rather it be a "don't ask don't tell" tattoo; as long as the tatoo could be covered it would be ok. Would you prefer everyone else cramp their lifestyles so as not to offend you?
People are DIFFERENT - Different races, religions, socio-economic backgrounds,sexual orientations, some have higher learning capabilities than others, some even have physical and mental disabilities. Some of our differences are visible and some are internal.
To put your tatoo question into perspective, ask your this:
Would you care if a really fantastic teacher with only one arm or leg taught your daughter?

If your answer is yes, you have an even bigger issue - Discrimination.

If your answer is no, then maybe you should look deeper at what a tatoo means to YOU as an individual. Write down your thoughts in free form as the words, phrases, and ideas come to you. When you feel like you've expelled all you can on paper, take a moment to go back through it to see if there is a common theme. (ex: Maybe you associate tatoos with pirates.) Put this piece of paper someplace safe until after New Years. That should give you enough time to form an educated opinion about your daughter's new teacher. As you are putting it away,remind yourself that all people are different.
Repeat the excersise on Jan. 1st, before you pull out the original list. Compare the 2 lists to see how, if any, your opinion has changed.

Take Care.

I think the most important thing is what kind of a teacher she is... the Tatoo could be from a long time ago... or what ever but the main thing is if she is a good and loving teacher then I would not worry about it. There are worse things to be exposed to and she is not going to wear flip flops all year. As long and the teacher is good at her job then I would let it go. :o) I do think that if you do complain and any one finds out it was you or why you moved your daughter it would not be good for you or your daughter socially seeing the number of responses here I feel you would get the same effect at school.

HTH
A. J

WOW - I read your question and I was and am actually a little flustered and confused by your concern over a tattoo. A tattoo? Really? Your daughter is going to be exposed to things all the time and hopefully she’ll come to you, her mother, for guidance and answers, objective answers. We need to teach our children to look beyond the façade. Having her classroom changed because of a tattoo is simply superficial and quite discriminating. What will you tell the principal, seriously? I hope that you REALLY (honestly), think this through. Read and take in all of the wonderful advice you’ve gotten from all of the other moms before asking that your daughter be removed from the class. The problem may not be the tattoo. Be well, M.

C. -

I am a tattoo lover - have 4 myself. However, I don't feel that a teacher should have one visible to her students. It's not appropriate. Pretty or no, it's just not. Check the ISD's dress code and see if it addresses tattoos. If it tattoos are not addressed, I would ask to speak to the teacher in private and discuss your concerns. If she doesn't understand or seems obstinate, then you might want to say something to the principal. Tattoos are an expression of one's self, blah, blah, blah. However, they are not appropriate in certain settings and I honestly don't believe a classroom is one of those settings.

Frances

I totally see where you're coming from. When I first read the post I thought you were right in thinking she was a bad influence, but then I remember something from my childhood. My uncle had a huge eagle tattoo on his upper arm from when he was in Korea. When I was your daughter's age I thought his tattoo was awesome. He used to draw an egg on my arm for me and told me it would hatch and become an eagle later! I am 42 now, and have never gotten or wanted (since I was 5, anyway) a tattoo. I don't think seeing her teacher with one will make her want one. But it certainly couldn't hurt to bring it up to the teacher, gently and nicely though, and give her some room supplies beforehand.

Tatoos are the latest trend (as much as I dislike them, it's just the way it is). My husband got one after my son was born - he tatooed our son's name on his arm. In my mind they are not indicative of one's character or morals. They are a trend and I'm sure like so many trends, it will die down. I remember when it was just OK to have 1 piercing in your ear - now we are seeing multiple piercings - and not just in the ear! So - go easy.

I wouldn't worry about a teacher with a tattoo, my greatest concern for my children in school is that they are getting a good education. Is she a bad teacher because of a tattoo, probably not, people come in all shapes, sizes, colors etc, and yes some people have tattoos. I really don't think its a big deal and if there is some problem with her, as a teacher, then by all means, have your child put into another classroom, but I, in my opinion think its terribly judgemental to want to remove your child from the classroom because the teacher has a tattoo, you wouldn't do it if she was a different race or religion would you? She was hired by the school district for her teaching skills, I'm sure they didn't check to see if she had a tattoo, because thats discrimination. What message are you sending to your child if you put her in another classroom because of a tattoo? That its ok to judge people, not a good one in my opinion.

i definitely think you are over-reacting. perhaps if it were a tattoo of a swastika or skull and bones there might be cause for concern, but i think the fact that your child's teacher as ONE tattoo of flowers, on her foot, to boot, isn't really anything to fuss about. obviously the teacher has the proper credentials to teach your child what she needs to learn, and she passed a background check, so what are you really worried about? it's not like your daughter will be of age to get a tattoo anytime soon, anyway. it is the responsibility of the parents to guide their children by teaching them right from wrong, and i don't think a tattoo really has anything to do with ethics and moral values. so, stop being so judgemental; after all, we are in the 21st century and the world is undergoing lots of major changes that are WAY more important than what's on your child's teacher's feet. good luck!

Yes, you are being overly concerned. My son's teacher last year for mother's day out (one of the 2 teachers) had a tattoo and was a fabulous, sweet teacher. This was in a wonderful church setting and my son loved his teachers and the school environment. Looking at someone's character and their professionalism on their job is a far better indicator of what to look for in a person. I don't have a tattoo--but I don't think less of someone who does. I also taught in public school for 7 years and I can look at it from the other perspective as well. Some of our best teachers were the more eccentric people who didn't always look "the part". They loved the students and were awesome at their craft. You can use this opportunity to teach your daughter about inner beauty being more important than outer beauty. And you can teach your daughter about not judging a book by it's cover. Blessings, Stephanie

The teacher is still the same person whether the tattoo is covered or visible. If you're truly concerned about the perception given by a visible tattoo, you should talk to the teacher and find out what she plans to tell the kids when they ask about it. She's probably been asked about it before by children, whether in her classroom or just out in public (kids are curious), and probably has a simple answer prepared.

If your daughter notices it and says something to you about it, that is the time to discuss your views on the subject, your family's values, and talk to her about individuality and acceptance.

when I used to teach and a teacher had a visible tattoo they were to cover it with a band-aid...which actually lead to more questions than the actual tattoo. Maybe you could ask her how she plans to explain it...I know as a teacher I would much rather discuss things with parents before it was blown up into a bigger situation involving other parents or the principal.

I totally understand your concern. I am a mom, and I have plenty of tattoos. I'm not the kind that you see with them everywhere, but I definitely have some. Including one on each foot. I know that there is a time and a place. Some people with tattoos think that it marks who they are and blah, blah. Well, that is true, to an extent, but 1st graders don't care about that. They see a tattoo. And it is one that sounds feminine and "cute", which, to me, has no meaning. The ones on my feet represent two different close people in my life who have passed away and I look down at my feet sometimes, just to remind myself that if I am able to cope with that, I can cope with anything. BUT, once again, when in Rome. I cover them with makeup or the right shoes for certain functions and make sure my sleeves are long enough or shirt is long enough to cover my others. I am surprised that the school hasn't asked her to cover it. If she says she can't find the right makeup, she needs to try Sheer Cover. You can get it at Bed, Bath and Beyond. I wish I would have found that in time for my wedding, because nothing worked.
In a nutshell, I am a role model for my children, my friends' children and my niece and nephew. They just know it's me, they have been around them all of their lives, it doesn't make them want them. If anything, it sort of makes, my nephew,at least, not want one because he just doesn't get it. He is 9, both of his parents have them, but not like mine.
Your kids will either want them, or they won't. I would come home from kindergarten with my entire right arm drawn on. My Mom always knew that I would get them as soon as I could. I NEVER knew anyone that had one, I just liked to decorate myself.
My point of view is that I understand yours, yet your kids will eventually do what they want, which is a LONG way away. If she is a sweet lady, and has a good head on her shoulders, she should know to cover it up while at school!!! She should know that parents will be concerned, and not for the wrong reasons. Just avoid it all, and cover it! Or, you should ask her what she says to her students when they ask her what it is and why, and all that. That way, you can agree on the answer for your child's sake. You don't want her telling them one thing and you another.
Sorry the response is so long. COFFEE!!! TOO MUCH!!!
But, I hope it helps. She really should cover it. I am in health care, and from experience, I don't want someone with visible tattoos to take care of me. Not that it makes them not have a real license, or not know how to do their job, it's just mixing two different worlds. Just, when in Rome. That is the nutshell. Guess I could have saved you a few hours and just wrote that!!
Good luck!

I don't see how the tattoo is that important. It is not the issue of she has a tattoo that matters...is she a good effective teacher is the issue.

I am a teacher and even though I don't have a tattoo I am a huge fan of them and I think as long as it is tasteful that should show you that her morals are in place. Also, people get tattoos for many different reasons and you don't know if that holds a symbolic meaning for her.

I would also be shocked and worried if the school let you change teachers for that reason. Are you sure there is not some underlying issue you have with the teacher?

I hope this is helpful and just keep in mind that people can have tattoos and be successful, respectful and respected people of the community...for generations people whom are highly regarded in communities have had them, but now they are a little more popular and not so tabu.

I hope this helps. :)

I personally believe you're being way too conservative and over-reacting. If you go to request the teacher change and give this as a reason, the only thing you'll be doing is make them aware that you are judgemental and likely they'll tag you as someone that's going to be difficult - what happens if the principle or whoever you go to has a tatoo that you can't see! Also, how do you know her own child didn't just have a birthday party and it's a temporary tatoo. Also, how would you react if the teacher was from India and had been to a wedding and had a painted henna design all over her body?

Please save your discussions with the school for things that really matter - i.e., your daughter's education and emotional development. If those needs are not met, then yes, please complain. But, if this is your concerns right now, boy are you going to have a hard time in about 5 years as your daughter approaches adolescence.

Also, Moms in touch is a great group, and in my experience, prayer is also a valuable tool, so I would be praying for your daughter to have a positive experience and in my mind, it sounds like the teacher knows the value of fun and free expression and individualism, which I think is really a good thing for first graders to be exposed to. If this really conflicts with your values, please find a private school where your daughter might only be exposed to those values.

I really think you are a little over concerned. Since it is not a "bad" tatoo I really think you need to use this as a learning experience. It is a great time to begin teaching your child on how people are different in a positive light. Hopefully this teacher will be good at her job and your daughter can learn to judge people for who they are not what is on them. I know from experience that not all teachers are good at what they do.

You can also use this as some people make choices in their lives that they have to live with. If you do not agree with the choice of the teacher you can tell her that she made a choice you do not agree with but that does not make her a bad person. She may regret the choice she made or she may be happy with it but some choices we cannot undo so we have to think through them carefully.

This is all my opinion and I understand your concern being a conservative parent myself and their is nothing wrong with it. At the end of the day you know what is best for your daughter.

J.

I was brought to be a very conservative person. I do not have tattoos nor will I ever have them.

I think the important question here is will this teacher be able to teach my daughter? Not if her tattoo is going to be a distration. I have a 4th grader and a 3 grader and I can tell you that my daughter's (4th) teacher last year had a tattoo? Did it bother my daughter in her learning? No. she was the best teacher to my daughter. My daughter loved and respected her. She wants to have her as a teacher again, but as we all know she cant.

Another scenerio, when i was in high school which has been 15 years ago, i had a teacher. he was the best teacher i had. he was a BIG man, had a long beard and long hair. and he rode a harley. a typical biker dude per se. Did my mom yank me out of his class because he could be a bad influence? no she didn't.

I completely understand wanting good role model for your children. I want the same. She might have gotten the tattoos and now regrets getting it. As you well know our teachers aren't paid the best she might actually want to get it removed but may have to save up for it.

I wouldn't judge the teacher by a tattoo. she can still be a role model. if your daughter asks you about it just say honey, as adults we may make decision that we later regret. it is a tattoo, imo i dont like them. and you shouldn't get them but in america we do have the right of free speech and have the freedom to do what we want with our bodies.

please oh please dont judge this teacher by her tattoo. she will probably be the one teacher that your daughter will remeber for the rest of her life and not because she has a tattoo.

~M.~
WM of a 9 year old girl and a 8 year old boy who are the light of my lifes.

I would be wayyy more concerned if that teacher could not teach addition and subtraction and all the important fundamentals of first grade. If your child asks about it just say it is a decision that some people make when they are in college. THen don't discuss it anymore. Its not a big deal. I coach a sport that has the same amount of judgmental parents and i have 5 tattoos. The children cant see them while i coach, but they see them when i wear a tank top. it doesnt change the way i coach. perhaps you should ask your girlfriends and see how many have one or two that they are hiding from you. i used to coach at a different gym where it didnt matter if you could see any tattoos or piercings...but here in this area some parents need to chill out!!! many parents where i coach have tattoos as well. and they dont hide them. hope you chill out and change your mind about people that are a teeny bit different.

C. your not being overly concerned your being redicules. What about her teaching skills? Is she a good teacher? That would be my concern not what is or isn't on her foot. How do you explain people you might see in at Wal-Mart or any place else with a lot more tatoo's on their body than just one on a foot. There are ladies out there that have a tatoo of their childrens names, husbands name, it is a part of some cultures to have a tatoo for women as well as men.
Tatoos are a form a art. I think some people have gone overboard with it but that is their choice and it is not my place to judge them. That is God's place when the time comes.

C.,
I am in agreement with the moms that say to make it a non issue with your kid. Talk about it if they ask but dont judge a book by its cover. This teacher may be one of the most special people in your daughters life. One of my daughters day care workers has a tongue ring, belly ring and a beautiful tattoo on her midriff. I must confess I was alittle taken back by it at first, but she is THE BEST with my kids. I would trust her with my daughters in a heartbeat. I guess what I am trying to say is decide what battle to fight, which ones are worth getting upset over. I would be more concerned if the teacher was not enthusiastic about teaching or didnt take an interest in my kid or was a poor teacher or role model. Sit back and relax. I wouldnt yank her out of the class based on that. Think of the message you would be sending to your daughter if it is only based on the tattoo.

25 years ago when I was in school it was boys with earrings and long hair, and the more I knew my mother hated them, the more I liked them.
Begin the practice now of open dialogue with your child, because the conversations you have now about a teacher's tattoo will turn into a conversation about alcohol in sex before you know it. If you don't have an open, trusting line of communication now, you're in trouble later. Without letting her know your feelings (judgements and prejudices) about adults with tattoos, get her feelings first. Hanna Montana probably doesn't have a tattoo, but someone else your daughter idolizes probably does. If not, it's only a matter of time. Discuss it and be open to acceptance while you have the chance.
When one of her peers has a tattoo and now your daughter wants one, come back and post.

I think that you are being overly concerned. I don't think a flower tatoo is that big of a deal. I did not choose to get a tatoo myself; however, it is a personal choice. I would just be prepared to address the question from your daughter. You may even want to talk to the teacher about your concern.

Good for her. Now time fore you to get more involved at the school. Your concern needs to be getting to her better and developing a relantionship that benfits your child best. Believe me there are way bigger issues at hand. I would be asking her to keep me updated on her progress often. A good way to get the know the staff is getting involved in volunteering at the school, I started with classroom help and now am on the PTA Board.

That being I am on the other side of the boat, I have a quite large tattoo on my ankle. In this very conservative area I was uncomfortable. Getting Volunteering at the school has let realize I do not have to worry about my tattoo or people thinkg about. It is about advocating for my child and the other children at the school. I have since gotten to know all the staff at the school, and when issues have come up with teachers or other issues at teh school I now have the relantionship and confidence that it will be handle appropriatly.

And don't be so hard on yourself. Anyone getting a tatto knows that it will offend some people its choice WE have made. I am not offended that people are not crazy about my tattoo. Once most people get to know me they often forget I have it. She wil either be a great teacher or just one you have to work through ( I have had them both), but none of it will be because she has a tattoo. Good luck with the school upcoming school year, I hope it is wonderful for your child.

Sincerely
Den mom, assistant Cub Master, PTA board member and most of all concered mom.

I would be concerned too. If it were me, I would mention it to the principal, becuase maybe they aren;'t aware of it. Let the principal handle it from there. Or since it is early in the school year, changing classes might be better.

i wouldn't be too concerned. its not in a bad place, ie lower back etc and its nothing more than a harmless flower. i'd go with people make choices, blah blah blah like you said.

I think you may be judging the book by its cover. The important thing is finding out if this woman is a good teacher. That should be your foremost concern.

I see you don't have any teenagers yet, and I can tell you from experience, there will be many issues to deal with that are vastly more important than a teacher with a tattoo. I don't mean to be harsh here, but how do you feel about women who have their ears pierced? Back when I was young, all my friends moms were aghast when we wanted to get out ears pierced because they thought it was trashy. In today's world it is almost a norm on most women.

Having a tattoo, whether visible or not, does not give insight to that person's political, religious or intelligence level.

Trust me, you will have much bigger fish to fry as your children grow into those teenage years. Be sure you choose your battles carefully.

Good luck, Dear.

Of course, just my opinion, but I would simply explain what it is if she asks, and then explain your view. I tend to be pretty conservative, yet to me, this doesn't seem worth a request to change teachers. There could even be non-visible things about other teachers that bother you more. Provided she ends up being a good teacher, I think I would use it as a learning experience. I supposed one other option is to talk with the teacher if you feel comfortable enough. Perhaps she would wear footwear that hid the tatoo while she was teaching.

It sounds like you do feel that the tatoo does not make her an appropriate role model, even though you said it does not make her less of a person.

My feeling is (and take it for what you will), if you make a big deal out of it, then your daughter will be more interested in it. You can use it as a lesson to your daughter not to judge people by their appearance, but to get to know them for who they are. If your daughter brings it up, you can say that it's a decoration that her teacher has to express herself. Kids at that age are usually pretty satisfied with a simple explanation (as long as it's truthful) and will move on.

I am sure at one point... Women with pierced ears were seen in the same way. Though I do not have tatoos nor would I choose to have one I believe that it IS a personal choice and says nothing about the quality or lack of quality of the individual teaching your child. Many more people have tatoos than did 10 years ago. If your daughter notices it I would explain that people make that choice. Just like they choose to pierce their ears or for that matter - wear make up. It is an enhancement people make to enhance what they view as beauty. Diversity is good. Sometimes it makes us uncomfortable because it is different than us but it allows us to reflect on the importance of acceptance. Best of luck to you and your your daughter this year. I hope the teacher ends up being the best teacher ever!
Simply,
C.

It is not your place to point out HER choice. I myself don't care for tattoos, but I would not die on this hill, if you think this teacher's tattoo will affect the way she teaches your daughter, than switch teachers, or enroll her in Private School, where Policies are a little more strict. Good Luck with your choice

Just about everybody regrets getting a tatoo. Usually done when your 18 and not finished with college. I would not judge. After all, she is a college grad.

She could be one of the best teachers that your district could have to offer. I think that I would be more worried about how good of a teacher she is then focusing on physical appearance. You are over reacting, and discrimitory based on appearance. The first African-American teachers must have faced this very reaction. If you had them switch your daughter's teacher over a tattoo, you are teaching your child that discrimination over appearance is okay. What would you tell your daughter if she decided that she did not want to be around another child because she percieved him or her as physically ugly? Give me a break-- there are way too many important things in life then to focus on a tattoo. Be a bigger person and you'll teach your child a bigger lesson.

I was a 1st grade teacher last year. One of our teachers has a tatoo on her ankle. She is actually one of the best teachers in the grade level. She if fun and keeps learning fun which is definately a plus for 1sst grade. I would have the talk that some people choose things like that and worry more about what kind of a teacher she is. Children are being presented with alot of new things in first grade. You want someone who can hold their attention long enough to get the concept across.

OK I see where you are coming from I do not have a tatoo either and was brought up in a very conservative family life. However, I have several friends who have tatoos and they came from very wealthy and conservative families too. Some people just make stupid choices and some people dont see them as being stupid but expressive. Take this as a learning curve with your daughter, however be careful what you tell her or teach her cause it will forsure go back to the teacher from your child and that would and could be embarassing. Just because she has a tatoo that she probably got when she was 16 years old does not mean that she is not going to be the most caring loving educated first grade teacher in the world. Tell your daughter that it is a personal choice that adults make once they are big people and that it is called body art. Some people coose to express themselves with clothing and makeup and some choose to be more permanant, but then tell her that you have to wait till you are an adult to choose this because it will never come off, not wash off or unstick, so it is something that you have the rest of your life and that is why you have to an adult to get one. Tell her why you did not get one and that you choose to express how you are feeling day to day in clothing and being artistic that way instead of permanently on your skin. That you choose to be different everyday. That may help. Good luck. I hope you do not get too many emails telling you not to judge cause we all do but I am forgiving when it comes to Tatoos we all do stupid things when we are younger and then get in a profession and are like man having that put on my ankle looks really bad with a skirt, but nothing you can do about it. I bet your first grade teacher is really smart and expressive and you will have a great year with her, she will surprise you I bet! Maybe she will explain it to them too, you know onw of them is going to ask her what it is!!!

you say your life is very full then please count your blessings and find something substantial to worry about. its a tattoo for goodness sakes. focus on your child's education, the lunches she is served and the kids she makes friends with.

Yes, I believe you are being overly concern. My girl had a teacher that had a tattoo onher ankel but she was a excellent teacher in todays world it is accepted if we judge people by what they have on their bodies rather than what they are teaching our children then WE have bigger issues ourselves we need to address. We instill our children with values that we once had as children but we need to be a little relaxed and not focus on the little things and worry bout the bigger things we are faced with. I think some people have been alitle harsh with what they are saying but to each their own. I would say get to know the teacher then make up your choice on what and how you tend to do about it.

Worry about something worth worrying about.

I think you are definitely over reacting. I'm sure at some point your daughter will see tatoos on lots of people. It's what you choose to teach her at home about tolerance, personal choices and consequences that matter. What would you think about room mothers and school volunteers with tatoos. I suppose you could always homeschool her to keep her away from the many different types of people and their personal preferences.

Tattoos have nothing to do with her teaching abilities and you cannot and should not shelter your child from tattoos. They are everywhere. You might as well talk to her about tattoos before she sees it. About how everyone has a choice to treat their bodies however they want and some people choose to make marking on their bodies called tattoos (maybe show her a pic). And then explain to her your views on tattoos. Sooner or later, you will not be able to avoid them. I am a mother of 3, I used to work at my chuch(only quit to stay home with my children full-time) and I have 4 tattoos. Does that mean just because I have 4 tattoos (one is on my hand, back of my neck, upper arm and ankle) that I can't or shouldn't be a role model? No way! I think tattoo's come with alot of steriotype. I do not smoke, drink or do drugs! They are simply my way of expressing myself, for instance, the tattoo on the back on my neck is a memorial tattoo for my daughter that pasted away due to an umbilical cord accident, my kids think it's neat. Some people dye their hair as a way of expression, some people dress in a way that expresses themselves, etc. Talk about the different ways and let it be known how you feel about each one and then assk your child how he/she feels about them. After all, teachers are people too, and they should have the same rights of expression as anyone else. It's ok to dissagee but changing her teachers just becasue of a tattoo is being kinda prejudiced don't you think? My opinion is: don't discriminate agianst her just because of a tattoo. If someone didn't like your hair color, should you have to color it a different color? She shouldn't have to cover her tattoo either. But that's just my opinion. If your daughter knows about tattoo's in advance, it is likely to not be a distraction in the classroom. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I think that it is wrong to judge her for a lil tattoo. I have tattoos and I cover them for work but the butterflies on my foot I can not cover and I have never been treated any less than the people with out them. I think it is crazy to think tattoos are what makes a person, my mother has worked for the school district for 25 years and just got her first tattoo on her hand 6 years ago and another one on her other hand 6 months ago. She talks to parents everyday and interacts with kids and not once has a parent complained or the principle. She does student enrollment and placement so she interacts alot with parents. SHe has the same respect as the first day she started. Don't judge someone by a silly tattoo look with in and give her a chance. Someone responded that it is against god well as it is true but he is also a forgiving god and it is also wrong to judge, so with that said I hope you come to peace and don't pass those veiws down to your child let her come to you with questions if she even cares to. Children are so beautifully not judgemental and whos to say she hasn't already noticed tattoos just going to the store or on tv. They are every where no matter what your view is they aren't going anywhere. And to go to the principle on the teacher is so WRONG and could put her job at risk and you don't know her situation. This may be her only means of living don't ruin her life because you can't handle her tattoo, home school your kids if society isn't what you want around your kids. It's 2008 not 1945 people have the right to express them selves in any way they want it's her body and it shouldn't concern you. Good luck I hope you get the answer you wanted.

Just because someone has made the choice to have a tatoo doesn't mean they are not a good role model. I am a former teacher and I don't have any tatoos, but I think you are being overly critical. All people are different and are entitled to their own ideas and choices. As long as your daughter's teacher is qualified, why would you worry about a little tatoo? Be more accepting of people, so you will be a postive role model for your daughter. Hope your daughter has a great school year!

In today's society a tatoo is acceptable. It is almost like saying, "my daughter's teacher is overweight and I don't want her to be around that type of person." There are great role models out there that choose to have tatoos. If you have watched the any of the Olympics there are lots of athletes tatooed. It would also be different if the tatoo was of a devil or skull and bones...its a flower. Just my 2 cents!

as a former school teacher of the younger ones, I say give it a rest. She could turn out to be a fantastic teacher. Make it a "teachable moment" when your daughter inquires about it. I am sure she will ask the teacher first. If you are not against tattoos then why are you making a big deal of it. Honestly, it probably makes her a better teacher because it shows she has a life outside of school.

Last year my son had a fantastic 1st grade teacher. On the last day of school she and I exchanged myspace information. Then I found out her husband is the front man for a heavy metal rock band! It was so funny to me to think that I expect teachers to just be teachers and not to have any kind of personal life, other than going home and grading papers! She is STILL a fantastic teacher who loves children, and it just so happens that her husband is the front man for a heavy metal band. Your daughter will not be as alarmed by the visible tattoo as you are, and she will probably absolutely love her teacher.

One evening when all the girls in my church group were together w/o the guys, someone asked about tattoos and who had them. We were about equally divided half and half on who had tatoos and who didn't. I think this is just a fact of our culture these days and you definitely need to use it as a teachable moment.

I don't know how old you are but I can understand your trepidation about a professional person with a visible tattoo. Try not to overeact, after all, a tattoo is merely a tattoo, not a weapon, drug or "scary thing"....it doesn't mean one is a bad person or that they do bad things, quite the contrary, it is merely an art form to many people.
I can say this because both of my daughters, my step-daughter and daughter-in-law have a variety of tattoos, much to my chagrine (I am old school and afraid they have a negative conotation). All of my girls are honest, hard-working professionals (one is a teacher) and the tattoos just mean something to them personally, not anything negative. Years ago I learned to teach my children that people are all different, look different, have different skin colors, etc. It is not important what a person looks like, it's merely important how a person behaves. She might be a wonderful teacher and I hope you give her a chance. Just an aside, I knew a very nice woman who lost a child in a car crash; she got a visible tattoo to always have a visible reminder.

I wouldn't worry about it.