K.R.
Don't really have any advice for you but wanted to let you know that you are not alone in struggling with this. I have three year old twin boys on the spectrum and I wonder about whether or not we should have another one. I am concerned about another on the spectrum. I am concerned about having twins again. I am concerned that it will be hard to handle a baby along with the aggressive therapy schedule, nutritional intervention etc. If you do decide to have another make sure you get your vitamin D levels checked ahead of time and during your pregnancy, avoid anything with mercury (fish/flu shot) and watch your EMF (computer and cell phone) exposure to minimize the chances of another on the spectrum. That advice came from my boys pediatrician when I told him I was considering having another. Good luck to you.