3 Yr Old Kissed a Boy at Daycare?

I kissed a boy in my kindergarten class, nearly 28 years ago. After that, I didn't kiss another boy until I was 17, then 19, and then 20--and then I married him. It isn't a huge deal, but you should tell her that she is only allowed to kiss people in her family, and model the type of kiss that you find acceptable. For my husband's family, that is a kiss on the cheek. For my side of the family, that is a quick peck on the lips.

This is much ado about nothing. She's never seen anyone kiss each other?! Poor kid!

Seriously!?

This question seems very trollish to me. Just saying....

She showed affection! Suspend her!

Seriously? You're over reacting.

Has your 3 year old never been given a kiss by you or her father?
Never seen you kiss Dad?

And???...so what...she is three, and he is four...no.big.deal!!

I really hope I am reading this wrong. Are you saying your daughter has never been kissed and doesn't know what that is? I hope not, I hope she gives receives kisses from you and other loved ones.
If she does know what kisses are then please give her a break, she's THREE! Kissing her friends to show kindness and love is normal, you simply need to remind her that kisses are for family members only, that's all.

You gotta be kidding right?

It seems you already have reacted. Anyway, no big deal. She just has to learn that we can hug our friends at school, but it is not appropriate to kiss them. We save that for mommy and daddy.

When she gets to big school, they will likely have a no touching policy and she will have to learn not to hug.

When you say caught, was she trying to mimic a passion or intimate kiss?

Surely she has seen it on tv. Even commercials have kissing.

It's fine. No, you shouldn't "react."

Relax. She likes him. You kiss daddy on the cheek I'm sure. She sees that. Don't freak out. Just teach her that kisses are for family. No big deal.

If she likes him she kissed him. There is no sexual thought or intent at this age only adults who think that. She kisses you because she likes you and cares about you, this is no different.

Wow.

You've NEVER kissed your child in her whole life?
She's NEVER seen anyone kiss hello, goodbye, I love you?

How sad.

Your family & your daycare mst be very odd places that no one ever kisses their children.

Well if you kiss her and she kisses back she is familiar with the concept. I think it is sweet but as a general rule I thought my kids to "keep their hands to themselves"

My daughter did the same thing, and to this day (she's now almost 12) it's the only non-relative boy she's every kissed.

Curiosity of any sort is yes 100 percent normal. And you react by talking to her without making it a big deal. If you make her feel bad about it, it can be a negative effect on her.

I'm not sure what you meant by don't even ask where but either way...curiosity is normal.

I think it's natural... When I pick my son up at school and some of the parents/grandparents bring a younger sibling with them, I have seen quite a few of the little ones going up to other little ones and hugging and giving them a kiss.. I don't think it's a big deal in that they probably learned to do that from their loving caregivers. However, as a child grows , I think it's always a good idea to discuss boundaries... not every child will want to be hugged/kissed.. even if just harmless..

What do you mean by "don't even ask where?" What kind of kissing are we talking about here? I don't think preschoolers doing some innocent kissing is a big deal at all, although they should be discouraged because it's a good way to spread germs. Something about the tone of your post makes it sound like it wasn't that innocent, but without more details, it's difficult to comment. I mean, the last you you want to do is OVER-react if they were just kissing on lips or cheeks. Plus, you can't tell me she's never seen people kissing - it happens in commercials and it happens in real life and I am assuming you kiss each other, and she's seen you and Daddy kiss, unless, like I said, we are talking about something totally different.

I would make it a simple fix. Family Rule: Until you are dating, you only kiss family.

Now, having said that, there are some people who say that you can kiss a hurt - like if you scrape your knee, you can kiss it. However, you can change that to giving a hug - and only if the person needs it.

Just make it a family rule. Say it simply. Then ask why she did it. Maybe some of the other kids asked her to. Just say that the other families have other rules, but these are our family rules.

Good luck!

It is pretty sad if indeed your child has never witnessed you, her dad or anyone in her family showing NORMAL affection toward each other. Don't you kiss her goodnight? Tell her you love her with a big hug?

Don't be so blind to think she has never seen it on tv, commercial, children's books or movies either.

It is completely normal for a child to show affection. You just redirect them so they understand that showing affection in that manner right now if family only.

She was not being some bad child for doing this. Please don't make her feel like she is a bad kid for showing affection. If not managed correctly, and you make her feel like this is taboo behavior, you could warp her mind regarding emotions and affection for years to come and she will end up not being the healthy adult she should be.

Give her a hug and a kiss and let her know you love her, Mom.

This is normal. When my son was 3 the little 3 year old girl next door used to run up to him at least once a day and give him a kiss, sometimes on the cheek, sometimes on the mouth. He would say "thank you very much" and she would giggle and run back to her yard. Little kids see their parents kiss, kissing is everywhere, even couples at the market kiss. Kissing is not in and of itself a sexual act, it is an act of love and friendship.

You may need to start teaching her about personal space. That not everyone likes being hugged and kissed.