What Age Do You Stop Kissing Your Kids (Daughter in Particular) on the Lips

my mom still kisses me on the lips, and i'm 24. She still kisses my adult brothers on the lips too. My dad--on the lips with all of us also. I kiss my siblings on the lips too haha....It's just how we roll in my "overly affectionate" (my husbands description of my fam-dam) family :)

My mum still kisses me on the lips -and vice versa- and I'm 32. Her mum was 80's and she was in her 50's at my grandmother's death. Still on the lips. And cheeks, and nose, and forehead, and crown... and wherever, really. In my family, it's a non-issue.

As long as both people are still comfortable with it, I don't think it ever has to stop. I know adult mom/daughter pairs that still give a peck on the lips, there is nothing wrong or sexual about it. Same goes for fathers and daughter, or mothers and son, or sons and father, any combo!

I am 36 and my mom kisses me on the lips. Maybe it's a cultural thing... but we are lip kissers....
Whatever your personal preference is - If it makes you feel uncomfortable then I guess it's time to stop.

Same as Abby. My Mom still kisses me on the lips after 25 years. Some people do it and some people dont. I guess it just depends on how comfortable you are with it. If you feel awkward doing it then that is up to you.

There is no "time frame" that you do and you dont. If you want to do it, who cares what others say, and if not then dont.

Are you kidding....never stop kissing!

Wow, am I actually seeing the word "eww" in some of these answers? If you're talking about your own child, you created her, she came from you, remember? What could possibly be "inappropriate" about this?

My son is almost 40 and my daughter will be 38 in December and I still kiss them both on the lips, cheeks, forehead (well, maybe my daughter, I can't reach my son's forehead, hehe). I love my kids and love to make them feel loved. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm judging those who don't, I don't mean to. I just can't seem to understand why others feel that way.

Well, I'm 30 and still sometimes kiss *my* mom on the lips :) hahaha

I think that as long as no one involved in the kissing is uncomfortable with it, then it's fine. Meaning, if YOU don't want to anymore (for whatever reason) or if your daughter starts asking for cheek kisses, then I think it's time to stop kissing on the lips.

My girls are all 5 and under and kiss everyone they love on the lips - to them, that's what a kiss IS! Now, my in-laws are uncomfortable with it so they do double-cheek kisses, but my parents kiss them on the lips and it doesn't bother anyone.

Once it starts being "weird" for one of you, then it's time to stop.

My mom still gives me a quick peck on the lips and I'm 42. I do the same with my 11 yr old daughter, it's her preference. I don't think anything is wrong with it though.

My son is only 5 and I still kiss him on the lips... That doesn't really answer your question though since I don't have a daughter and I haven't stopped kissing...
However,
I am 30 and my mom still kisses me on the lips. So does my best friend's mom (been friends since childhood).

My daughter is 5 and I still kiss her on the lips. I have never really thought about it.

Interesting question. I am shocked at how many people have never kissed their kids on the lips. It never occurred to me *not* to kiss my son on the lips. My husband does too. When he doesn't want us to kiss him on the lips anymore, we won't.

I have 3 adult daughters...27,30 and 35...we still kiss ...both as pecks on the cheeks and "on the lips"...I really don't think about it...it is just a natural show of affection between people. I know that my husband is not as demonstrative as I am but he still kisses them...sometimes on the lips but usually, on the cheeks.
Why make an excuse? Just let your affection be shown in a natural and loving way.

My daughter is 8, almost 9.
She still likes to hug and kiss.
When she kisses me... she will kiss me on the lips.
I don't see a problem with this.
My daughter is still a child with a child's heart.
And I am her Mommy and that is what she sees me as.
It is not 'icky' to her.

In some cultures, even adults greeting each other, do this. Pecking on the lips.

I kiss my daughters on the lips, and will continue to do so unless they tell me otherwise. I'm 34 and I still kiss my mom on the lips.

My housband and I kiss all of our kids on the lips. Some of our kids are little and some are older teenagers. We've always done it and think nothing of it.

Our family always kisses on the lips STILL as grown ups. So, I guess it's a personal thing.... and do what you are comfortable with. My mom still kisses me on the lips and I'm 54.

My daughters are 23 and 14. I still give my older a quick peck on the lips sometimes. And sometimes it's the cheek. My younger is not fond of any kind of kissing from me right now.

Don't kiss my kids on the lips. The house rule is only people that are married to each other, or when you are both old enough to drive a car.

I am 41 - and I still kiss my parents on the lips. Nothin inappropriate about it.

It's definitely a personal choice. I am 29 and when I see my parents (who live in different states) I kiss both my M. and dad on the lips. My husband thinks its weird, but we have always done it and I don't feel weird about it at all.

I am 40 and my mom and dad both kiss me on the lips. There is nothing sexual about it - it is a demonstration of affection. They do in public as well - we kiss each other during the exchange of peace at our church. I don't expect to stop ever. We also hug a lot - when I went away to college, the thing I missed the most was having someone give me a hug and kiss - without wanting anything from me!

I kiss both my boys on the lips! They are 5 and 1. I still kiss my baby's feet - they are so cute and chubby:) I will miss that when they get stinky like his brother's.

C.

it is a personal choice, I am an adult and still kiss my mom and sis on the lips, and up until my grandma passed away I kissed her on the lips too. I usually kiss my dads cheek, but probably more because he is a smoker than any other reason.

Are there rules about this? Cause I couldn't care less what everyone else does. If my little 6 yo cutie wants a peck on the lips, she gets one. I see nothing wrong or weird about it. It's sweet.

Whenever she thinks she is too old.....if it never happensok, if it does, ok...my daughter is 8 and still wants two small/quick pecks before bed. Ill let her hold the reigns on that.

I never have kissed my child on the lips, because I hated when it was done to me as a child.

Tee hee, I am SO glad that there are so many moms that think kissing on the lips is ok. Not because I am comfortable with it (I'm not) but my daughter (3) is. Gotta thank the daycare lady for that one! But, now that I see that so many people think it's ok, maybe I won't freak out about it so much. What I really try to discourage is the marathon kisses (thanks Beauty and the Beast) where she smashes her kips to yours and keeps them there forever. Sigh.

my son is 9 and I still kiss him but NEVER on the lips. I don't like that and have trained him to NOT allow others to do it either. my mil used to do that and I didn't like it , so I stopped it.. but on his cheek is ok by me..

I would say when it feels uncomfortable. My younger kids are10 and 12 and I still do. I know I stopped with my older two before they turned 14 but for the life of me I can't remember when

I was in my mid-teens when I asked my mom to start kissing me on the cheek. I made sure to tell her that I still loved her, but that I ready for more "grown-up" kisses. I still kiss on my girl and will continue until she askes me other wise.

I never kiss my children on the lips. I don't think it's appropriate, not to mention I wouldn't want their germs. Not judging those who do this, I just never have felt comfortable kissing any of my children on the mouth.

I kiss them on the forehead, the cheek, the tops of their heads...the tips of their noses...but not the lips.

We aren't lip kissers at our house with our kids. I have a friend who kisses her dad on the lips though an has all her life.

I don't .
It's weird.
some people are lip kissers some aren't.

Well, I have a son. However, if I had a daughter I would do the same thing. I don't kiss him on the lips. I reserve the affection of lip kissing, for my husband only. I'm not insinuating, that people who kiss their kids on the lips are being inappropriate. It's just a choice we made, for our family.

If you aren't comfortable with it, then you should stop. As with any affection, both parties should be comfortable.

I still kiss my mom on the lips sometimes and I'm almost 45 :) I come from a mostly affectionate family ... at my uncles funeral over the summer I was an absolute mess, and my family all kissed me and held me as I broke down. Cousins, aunts, uncles, my dad.

Course this is also the family that at lunch after the funeral my 80+ year old aunt was blowing straw wrappers across the room at her brothers LOL

My daughter is 21 and we still kiss on the lips.

Sorry but I can't believe you would actually tell your daughter you don't want her germs when she's asking for your loving affection.
What is wrong with this society where people think they can't kiss their kids on the lips?????
You're not French kissing her, you're kissing her and showing her love.
When people worry about it or think it's gross, there's something wrong. They have issues.

I know you are asking about daughters in particular but I had to chime in. I come from a family of lip kissers. I still kiss my mom and dad on the lips, in public too, and I'm 30 years old and will keep doing it until they are no longer with us.
My husband comes from a much less demonstrative family and he quickly got converted to "my way" and it is wonderful watching how affectionate he is with our son. We both kiss our son on the lips. He's only two now but I imagine we'll keep doing it until he (our son) decides it should stop.
Affection rules. I love watching my husband shower our son with hugs, kisses and I love you's.

I've never kissed my now 16 yr old on the lips. I've always kissed her on the cheek or forehead.

I also tell her daily how much I love her and she knows I have her back... No matter what!

Wow! I have never even thought about a kiss on the lips as inappropriate. I am 37 and still kiss my parents on the lips. My son is almost 14 and a few years ago he started kissing me on the cheek instead of lips. That was fine with me. My daughter is 12 and she still kisses me on the lips. I think you should do what you and you daughter feel comfortable with. I do not think a quick peck on the lips with your child is inappropriate.

I was never a "big" kissing on the lips person. But when my kids were born and now a little older they will laid a quick peck kiss on my lips. I don't think anything of it. My 5 year old tells me "no,kiss me on the cheek." So I do. If they tell me no,then I not going to force them,or myself to do it. She have her days where she want she wants a kiss on her cheek and some days where she wants a quick peck kiss on her lips. My husband don't ever kiss any of our kids on their lips. He told me before it makes him uncomfortable. I think very soon,i'm going stop all the lip kissing my kids b/c all 3 is getting older. To me I don't see nothing wrong with a "lip kiss",its not like your making out or french kissing.But I guess everyone is different and brought up different ways!!! :)

My kids are 23 (girl) and 19 (boy) and I still kiss them on the lips. I do the same with my parents. Now, the boy won't do that in public! I'm lucky he will look in my direction!! :)

I kissed my mom on the lips until i got my first boyfriend at age 16. lol Then she started saying "you've been kissin boys!" everytime i go in for one . If i never got a boyfriend, i'd be still kissing her on the lips. I feel there is no problem with it :) I will kiss my daughter on the lips until she starts kissing boys .. lol

I think the population is 50/50 lip kissers vs cheek kissers. I kiss my son on his forehead, top of head cheeks, even hands etc but not on the lips. If I was a lip kisser and it all the sudden felt uncomfortable I would stop. It sounds like you are not comfortable kissing her that way anymore so I believe now is a good time for you to stop. If it was not bothering you, no need to stop.

Interesting?! My daughter is only 3 so we haven't gotten there yet but I am sure we will eventually...I am a person who does not like to be hugged or kissed, except by my hubby and kids.

Wonder when this will happen for us? 8 seems almost right...although I still kiss my 8 yr old son on the lips...I don't know? Maybe around 11? That's my guess!

My daughter is 2 1/2, and we still kiss on the lips sometimes because it's how she started out kissing. (Probably because that's how she saw her dad and I kissing.) When she gets to a point where I feel like she's old enough to understand why, we'll change to kissing exclusively on the cheek.

Now that I think about it a little more, we only kiss on the lips when SHE initiates the kiss. If I kiss her, it's always on the cheek or forehead.

As long as both of you are good with it. My husband is 52 and would give his dad a quick peck kiss on the lips until he was 50 and his dad passed away. When he sees his mom, he still kisses her on the lips. My family seems to be shy even about kisses on the cheeks. I kiss my 5 year old on the lips sometimes, on the cheek other times, on the temple all the time. My 23 month old, I still kiss his feet to make him scream, so obviously I don't mind kissing his lips.

My kids are adults and I still do. Why would you not? I love them all

lol eww I'm sorry I do not think I've ever or will ever kiss my kids on the lips but I do smother them with kisses on their cheeks arms head lol, and hug them to they say mom i need up for air lol. And I will do that for the rest of my life even when they are 40 or 50 etc

My mom and I aren't lip kissers, but I did notice that one of my husband's brothers kissed his dad on the lips (at age 30). I would think that this is pretty much the same thing that you are talking about because it is same sex. I had notice this kiss between my inlaws because they are not very affectionate when other can see them, other than hugs. I did not find it weird though that it was on the lips. I think that this is a choice that you have to make by your comfort level.

PS- I love my son's kisses (ALWAYS on the lips), but he is only 11 months old! I wonder what the norm will be when he gets older.

I had never thought about this issue until reading your post. I've never kissed my kids on the lips! I don't know why, really. It never occurred to me to do so. My mom didn't. I guess I'm saving the lips for my man.

I have not read all of the responses but here is mine anyway...
When I was growing up - if we showed affection by kissing - it was on the cheek. I was going to do the same with my kids. When my first son was born, I accidentally kissed him on the lips and I still do it to this day. He just turned 11. I cannot kiss him in public and will only get a quick hug if we are at school but at home - it is still fine. My 4 year old - I still kiss on the lips. He kisses Bubbie on the lips, too. My ex-b/f's daughter - even kisses me on the lips, still. There is absolutley nothing wrong with it. It is a sign of love and affection.

I stopped when my girls moved their head to where I could not kiss their lips anymore. My 10 year old just recently stopped, but my five year old has never been a lip kisser. Every time I kiss them it is now on their forehead, cheek, or nose. My four year old will still let me kiss her on the lips, but I'm sure that will probably end soon. I will only stop when she decides she is done with it!

I had to stop with my son...(three) he thinks he should give mommy a longer kiss... (we nicknamed them movie kisses), if he wants one I say "No movie kissing mommy, those are for daddy!":...My daughter is 6 and we still give lip pecks. But I am a cuddler and so are they so there are always lots of kisses on the cheeks, head, nose...

I was going to say to do it until it seems to make her uncomfortable, but then I read this again and realized that you are the uncomfortable one. It seems that this was okay to you when she was little, but not anymore. I think that unless her behavior seems a little weird to you (and I'm saying this in the nicest possible way), you should just indulge her because it will probably be over soon enough. I kissed my parents on the lips until I got older and uncomfortable with that. Then I kissed their cheek and now I just give them hugs. My son used to allow cheek kisses, but doesn't like to exchange them at all with me, but he will do it with his dad.

My kids are 6 and 7 and I kiss them both on the lips.. I kiss my dad on the lips and when my mom was alive I kissed her on the lips too.. BUT my kids wont let me kiss them when they are getting on the bus or in class lOL!

I have a 4 year old girl and we never kiss on the lips - I've always done the cheek. Worried about transmission of Herpes etc. Any who has ever had a cold sore has herpes and could pass it on with lip kisses. That's also why I don't let her drink out of other's cups (and I don' t either).

But to each his own, and since most people have the herpes that causes cold sores already (but not little ones of course, until we give it to them) it's probably a futile effort to prevent it.

I do not, nor will I ever kiss my daughter on her lips.

If it makes you uncomfortable, stop. If it doesn't, don't. I sometimes kiss my little boys' on the lips. We mostly do cheek kisses, but sometimes I kiss their elbows, knees, arms, fingers, and top of their heads. I don't consider it weird but maybe if they are teenagers I might. I doubt they let me kiss their knees and elbows and cute little fingers at that age either. LOL.

I still kiss my mom on the lips, and I'm 41.

My daughter is 4 and I started trying to stop kissing on the lips about 6-12 months ago. Most of the time now we both do cheek kisses but sometimes she wants it on the lips. Sometimes she also sees my husband and I kiss on the lips and wants to do it too.