3 Years and 3 Month Old Will Not Potty Train

My advice is to be patient. My daughter learned when she was barely 2, but my son was 4 years and a few months. When they are ready, it is easy.

A. :)

with my daughter we made her clean up her accidents. This tought her they didn't magiclly go away. I think we had 3 accidents after that and now she is fully potty trained.

Hello S.. I would suggest quit trying for a little while. Every child is different. Some are ready early and some takes a little while to get the hang of it. After a few weeks try again. Start slowly. Let her know that if she does need to go potty to let you know. I know its tough. There for awhile I didn't think my son was ever going to get the hang of it. He finally did. We would have him go to the bathroom after he ate, drank, or nap time. When you start trying again be patient and start slowly. It takes time. We quit buying diapers and pull ups. Believe me I was doing alot of laundry. After awhile though my son hated to pee in his pants. I hope some of this helps. I know its difficult at times. My sons doctor did say the average child isnt potty trained till they are 5 or 6. Good luck.

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Take her to the store and let her pick out some "big girl panties" with a character she likes (princess, tinkerbell, minnie mouse, etc). Put her in those, and tell her "character name" doesn't like to be pee-pee'd on. She'll not like the feeling of being wet if she pees on herself, and you can tell her the "character name" is sad when she pees on them. I can't help you with #2, as my 3yr 3mth daughter still poops in her panties.

My 6 year old was 4 years and 1 month. I know it is sometimes different with boys, but eventually I just "gave up" and about a month later he did it. Just hang in there!

I saw this on Dr.Phil with the potty training the baby doll. Tell her that if she potties on the potty she will be able to talk to her favorite cartoon character. My sister did this with my nephew. She had an older cousin call and act like Thomas the Train. It worked like a charm. He turned 3 in June and was just like yours. He would not even want to sit on the potty. Now he will have an occasional accident but for the most part he is well into potty training.

T.

S.,
Hello. What worked for us was moving to regular underwear and a few other tips I have. I let my daughter pick her underwear out at the store and our motto is to keep them "clean and dry", we say this every time we put our underwear on, I tell her she did a good job keeping them "clean and dry" when we go to use the potty (if they are), and remind her again when we pull them up after she uses the potty. Find about 3 days when you can just stay at home or in your neighborhood. I would take her to the potty - to just try every hour and then explain that she won't have to go so often if she starts to tell you when she has to go pee or poop. After she starts telling you and actually going, I would still be aware of the time; children do get busy playing and don't want to stop. So, if it's been over 2 hours, I'd just say it's time to "try" to pee or poop.

Accidents will happen, and I never made a big deal out of it; however, it was my daughter that had to clean it up - meaning, she had to take her own shorts and underwear off, wipe herself clean and if it got on anything else like the floor, I gave her a wet cloth to clean it up (of course sometimes I would still need to go over it more), and then she had to carry her wet clothes to the washing machine, come back wash her hands and get re-dressed. I would ask, "Where do we put our pee and poop?" She would say, "In Potty" and I said "That's right, let's do that next time." I have always been kind and understanding (even when I just asked if she needed to go potty), and just talked her through each step of clean up. It's just natural consequences. After about two to three days of having to fully clean up after herself, I think she will start using the potty. I would be kind and understanding at all times during the potty training process.

I would move to underwear and have her clean up when accidents do occur, but that's just me. We did still use pull-ups for nap and night until those can be mastered too (which is waking up dry for a few weeks after nap and then all night). Hope maybe something was helpful. Best of luck to you.
~ J.

S.
i have the same problem that you do i have a 3 year old that will be 4 at the end of the year. i can not get her to potty or poop in the toilet to save my life. i tried pull ups, she treated them as though they were diapers, i tried training pants, peed them til she had no dry ones left, got tired of her doing this so i put her back in diapers. she only uses 3 or 4 a day depending on how much she drinks or poops. so if anyone gives you advise that works please let me know and and good luck to us all that are training our pre-pottiers. J.

well looks like were in the same boat i have a 2 month old and a three year old my three year old has always been good at peeing in the potty but pooping always in the pants when i brought the baby home and she saw he pooped in the diaper she was like eww i was like see its yuky and i swear as soon as she knew that she started pooping in the potty so good luck to you and by the way am also maried to my high school sweet heart also six years and i just thought that was neat,take care.liz

i would just drop it for the time being and give her a break. peeing in the potty is one of the few things children have control over and perhaps shes feeling overwhelmed and her defense is to not do it. stop for a few weeks, regroup and then try again. my son was about 3 1/2 when he finally had the hang of peeing in the potty. he didn't poop in the potty till 2 weeks after his 4th birthday but once he did he has never had an accident. good luck