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i also have a 13yr old girl, and i would want to know.
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Hi everyone,
let me start by saying that I am in shock tonight and my mind is racing......
My 13 year old has always been a great girl and over the past few months I have noticed changes in her behavior and grades..from A's to C's and D's. She has had some really nice friends..however, this year in Middle school, she met a girl and she likes to hang with her. I, on the other hand, felt like there were something "fishy" about this girl and could never pin point what it was...just wondering through my daughters change in behaviour. Also, all my daughters friends do not like this new girl she's hand out with. It has got to tell you something..right?
Long story short... I accidently found some videos today of my daughter's friend on the computer under my daughters picture videos section. let me tell you they were not pretty to look at. Should i let her parents know of this or not. If my daughter was doing this..I'd want to know!! How should I handle this? Should I try to break this friendship up?
i also have a 13yr old girl, and i would want to know.
I think I would tell her parents. She is probably posting those videos online too. Kids don't realize the trouble they can get theirselves into.
I would definitely tell this girl's parents. I'd present it like you said - you would want someone to tell you. It can be tricky to tell your daughter that she can't see her friend, because that may make her want to see her friend even more. Maybe you can make sure that either you or your husband are there to supervise them when they are together. Perhaps you and this girls parents can work together on this.
As far as her grades, I would say that imposing rules associated with grades may be the key. She does need to get her grades up, so by restricting what she can do, no matter who she'd be doing it with, until her grades get back up may be the key to solving both issues. No matter what you decide is best, if you haven't done so already, talk to your daughter about the inappropirateness of the pictures in general, while trying to avoid attacking her friends character; saying that the action is bad and not the person and that her friend just made a poor choice and why it is a poor choice.
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Ask the parents if they are aware their daughter is posting videos on the internet. Don't comment about what is in the video, just suggest they might want to review the videos.
This way, they can decide what they want to do, and you don't feel terrible if you just "don't mention it." I'd rather someone tell me so I could deal with the issue--ignorance is NOT bliss where a teen is concerned!
