It's developmental... they don't do it to irk us... but they are just as frustrated about it too... and they can't communicate the way that we want.. .thus they get frustrated and "tantrum."
Teach her some sign language.. it really helps. I did that with both my kids.
Also bear in mind, that a child does not come equipped with a full range of emotions yet, nor that ability to "understand" abstract feelings... thus, they tantrum. They are only learning... it takes a whole childhood to learn about feelings and what "appropriate" ways of handling it is. Heck, even adults aren't always good at managing their emotions! LOL.
At this age, use redirection, and distraction....
No, you do NOT use the same approach as with a much older 2 or 3 year old child. Keep in mind, it has to be age appropriate. Many times, adults expect a child to act much older than they are... so this will frustrate both child and Parent.
It's all normal. All kids do this. It is developmental based. Not being "naughty" kind of thing. They are learning about their world... and we need to manage them.... "discipline" is about "teaching"...
remember, a child WILL do things over and over... they don't even have "impulse control" at this age... FULL impulse control is not developed until about 3 years old. At best. So, a 13 month old is only doing what they understand at this time. Even if you tell them "no" they will do it again.
So patience.
All the best, sorry I have to run,
Susan