I have a 10 yr old daughter and she is fearful of everything.She scared of being bullied or teased every year at school.She is fearful of the dark.Scared when my husband and i go out on dates and she and her siblings are with there grandpa.She is also fearful she is gonna die in her sleep.The list can go on and on.I have a very smart daughter A's and B's.Is this a normal for a 10 yr old?
We did have a grandma who died in her sleep but she was very young.Maybe 5 or 6 months old.
No not normal. If it is interfering with her life, and it sounds like it is, she needs to get I to some therapy. A 10 year old should be happy and carefree.
see a psychologist for at least an evaluation. if this fear is interfering with her daily life.. it is a problem.. she might need therapy or medicine.. she is not faking this.
sounds like you've probably been waiting for her to outgrow it and it hasn't happened.
At this point, i think you do need to get some professional help, because its seems as if you have probably already exhausted your bag of tricks for helping her and it might be a chemical issue at this point.
My 10 when through a slight stage of being worried because he had more experiences this year that were new for him, but no i don't think it's normal to still be scared of the dark or be worried about dying in her sleep. the bulling i could maybe see as they become more exclusive in their social circles but the others are things much younger kids are scared off. ( unless she has a valid reason, did someone die?)
Does she talk about these fears daily or just once in awhile? If it's daily, you should seek help from a professional.
Just my opinion, but because it appears this fear is really effecting her daily life and happiness, it is problematic. I would think she should benefit from talking to a therapist or counselor of some kind. It can't be easy going through life being fearful of everything. :(
At different ages, kids can temporarily have different fears -- but so many fears, about such widely different things, is not normal. By age 10 many kids can be reasoned with about their fears, at least somewhat.
I would get her evaluated. The term I see on here sometimes is "generalized anxiety disorder." I am not a doctor and can't say that she has that -- but anxiety is something you need to mention specifically to the doctor. If her pediatrician does not take you seriously but you remain concerned, find another doctor who will help you located a good therapist who works with children her age, and get her evaluated. You might even find that she only needs a limited period of therapy, not years of it or meds. You won't know until you ask a professional. Good luck -- no little girl should be this unhappy and worried.
Sometimes, often, kids hear things/stories at school from other kids, and it makes them worry or get scared. That happened to my daughter in 4th grade or so. Other kids, telling stories to other kids and some kids even do it on purpose, to get other kids scared. EVEN the Teacher, knew about it and talked to the WHOLE class about it.
For example.
Talk to your daughter! Chat with her about things. Let her "vent" or say and express herself about why, she may feel that way.
This is not a way to live...especially for a child ! Her daily life activities are being affected in a negative way.
Does she get bullied at school? Is this why she does not want to go to school and why she does not want to be alone? If she is being bullied @ school (or on tech devices), write a talk or a letter to the principal immediately and tell him that xxxx cannot be the same classes next year. Then, address this with the teacher. Usually bullies bully when an adult is not around.
Yet, when I hear you say that the list goes on and on...I would not wait another day. I would take her to a therapist and get to the bottom of this.
I was bullied horribly as a kid. I never told anybody. I still got good grades. **This issue needs to be addressed ASAP.
