Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Does Peer Pressure Keep Your Child From Eating Healthy Food?

Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Today, I sent my son to kindergarten with turkey, carrots, and lettuce rolled up in a spinach wrap. green tortilla wrap Delicious, healthy, and colorful. My son picked the ingredients himself, so I knew he would eat it.

What was I thinking? I sent my child to kindergarten with a GREEN sandwich. So much for mother of the year.

Needless to say, the other kids at my son’s lunch table teased him about having a green sandwich, saying “Ewww, gross” when they saw it. When the sandwich came home in the lunchbox, with only a few bites eaten, I knew something was wrong.

Clearly my poor son is a victim of his mother’s obsessions.

My husband chastised me for sending my son to school with a green sandwich. Had I become the mother in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, sending my child to school with weird food?

Why couldn’t I just give him Wonder bread sandwiches, juice boxes, and Cheetos like everyone else?

After a family huddle, I realized all my children are regularly teased about eating healthy food. Peer pressure and healthy eating was a problem. My son’s sisters were more than happy to dish out advice on how to handle the comments on his lunches.

Diplomatic sister #1: “Tell the other kids your food is yummy and that you really like it”.

To-the-point sister #2: “Tell the other kids to ‘cut it out’ with the teasing. Tell them to ask their mom to buy food like yours so they can try it too.”

So what should you do about the negative impact between peer pressure and healthy eating?
How to Help Your Child Handle
the Healthy Food Teasing

What a child can say to their peers

  1. My food is really tasty and I really like it!
  1. Cut it out! Why don’t you ask your mom to buy this food for you so you can try it too.
  1. My mom loves me so much, she lets me eat this healthy food.
  1. Yes, you are right. My food is “ ______”. Fill in blank with weird, gross, creepy, disgusting, etc.

What you can do as a parent

  1. Pack lunch together, so you and your child agree about what’s in the lunchbox. Better yet, have your child involved in the shopping, selection and preparation.
  1. Don’t try new food items in a school lunch. Test them at home first to make sure your child likes them.
  1. Put only one “weird” item in their lunch box every day. After several days of jicama in my daughter’s lunch box, no one at school cares about it. Now they are actually interested in what emerges from her lunchbox.
  1. Never make a child feel that unhealthy foods are off limits, or they will feel deprived, which causes bigger issues with food. At our house, we talk about food choices in terms of everyday and occasional foods. My kids do have “occasional” foods in their lunch boxes once in a while.
  1. Be a good role model to give your child confidence. Pack you own healthy lunch, and make healthy choices when you are with your adult friends.

As for my son and the humiliation of the green sandwich, he is ready to speak up for himself. He wants to bring purple peppers and pink apples for snack tomorrow.

Bring It On, kid style.

I love these children. They can handle the peer pressure and healthy eating better than their mom.

Mary Rentoumis writes about her humorous adventures in feeding her family a healthy diet on her website, Healthy Diet.com. Although Mary cannot cook, she endures kitchen disasters and grocery store mishaps to create a healthy diet program. With an Ivy League degree in History and Chemistry, Mary is comfortable understanding on a molecular level why some foods are not healthy choices. Mary regularly uses her scientific background to explain to her youngest son why he can’t have candy bars for breakfast.

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57 Comments

I have high hopes the new series with the Naked Chef, Jamie Oliver will change the conversation in America about what kids are eating in school, or anywhere else for that matter. What about saying,'that processed garbage is going to take 10 years off your life!' I am very blessed with my daughter, almost 7, she will eat almost anything, but my son is another story. He won't eat ANY veggies OR fruit...

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All the moms who are feeding and sending healthy foods for their
children DESERVED a metal!! I see more moms shopping healthy
NOW more than ever before. If people only knew what were in the foods we are feeding our children. Red dye #4, monosodium glutamate, aspartame, maltodextrin, lecithin, and hundreds more. Children as well as adults are being fed toxins. Some of us are fed up with eating and feeding our family that junk...

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I had an experience eating snacks with my four year old daughter when a mom eating with her child near by gasped at my daughter munching down on a whole rather large organic carrot unpeeled (no greens on). the mom said did you pull that from the garden? Of course this wasn't an insult to my daughter because when looked at eat other and thiking the same thing said I think we should grow carrots this year! It's the perfect fast food of course.

To answer that rhetorical question "What were you thinking?" You just wanted your child to eat healthy and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
I just want to APPLAUD you, Carrie for packing your child a healthy lunch! I, too, pack healthy lunches (yellow pepper soup, veggie straws, water) for my 5 and 3 year old.

I have found with our 5 children & now the grandchildren, that some are never teased and some are strong enough to dish it out right back. I have one daughter that lives in a very "yuppie" neighborhood in San Ramone and the children at school that do eat junk are the ones that go crying becasue the others are eatting healthy food. I have one son that had a special diet and people wanted to trade him for his lunch becasue it was different than their store bought Lunchables...

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I am having the last laugh for having eaten biologically grown food since 1969. My children ate it too and they are healthier than their peers.
My friends have diseases just like everyone else in the general population. I do not. I have incredible muscle strength and endurance. I take no pharmo prescriptions since I have need of none. No wrinkles in my skin and no cellulite.
Eating healthy makes you healthy.

Kids used to tease my daughter too. We need our kids to be strong enough not to give in. They are not as lucky to have a mom as smart as your son does and your son will be much healthier then those other kids when he grows up.

feel for you, but it only gets worse as they age, what their friends think matters, but good for u, for caring, cuase u obviously know the importance of nuitriion/diet on health/wellness.. besides "brain power"! check out my website, because none of us eat like we should for whatever reason, this fills in the gaps,www.jlarkeyjuiceplus.com

keep up the good work, who wants our kids to be like everyone else, anyway, lol....

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As a kid, I started off at a school without a cafeteria and brought lunch every day. My 70s granola health-nut mom packed me natural peanut butter on wheat bread with pear nectar and an under-ripe banana(I prefer them closer to black!). I hated my lunches even though they sound pretty good to me now. The other kids were eating Wonder Bread and bologna with fake cheese and Hostess treats galore.

Well, turns out I'm my mother's daughter and am inflicting this "pain" on my kids...

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You are doing the right thing by starting your child out with great eating habits. Child obesity is at an all time high, leading to unhealthy sick adults and screwing up the body causing premature developments from all the toxins in the "convenience" foods they eat (try reading whats in those things....chemicals, soy crap, fillers, chemicals...etc)...

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Try reading the ingredients list for Cheetos and many other popular snacks (even juices!). Read them aloud to your kid. Point out to him that healthy eating habits now will keep him out of the hospital later. When his "friends" are overweight, diabetic, and passing away at age 50 due to complications - then he can be the one who is "better off" than everyone else.

Of course if you are going to send what may end up being different you do need to run thru with your children to give them the words for a come back. I have been a vegetarian for years and have had to deal with many comments. I simply say " I don't make fun of your food" I tell my children the same!!

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