Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Does Peer Pressure Keep Your Child From Eating Healthy Food?

Photo by: Mary Rentoumis

Today, I sent my son to kindergarten with turkey, carrots, and lettuce rolled up in a spinach wrap. green tortilla wrap Delicious, healthy, and colorful. My son picked the ingredients himself, so I knew he would eat it.

What was I thinking? I sent my child to kindergarten with a GREEN sandwich. So much for mother of the year.

Needless to say, the other kids at my son’s lunch table teased him about having a green sandwich, saying “Ewww, gross” when they saw it. When the sandwich came home in the lunchbox, with only a few bites eaten, I knew something was wrong.

Clearly my poor son is a victim of his mother’s obsessions.

My husband chastised me for sending my son to school with a green sandwich. Had I become the mother in My Big Fat Greek Wedding, sending my child to school with weird food?

Why couldn’t I just give him Wonder bread sandwiches, juice boxes, and Cheetos like everyone else?

After a family huddle, I realized all my children are regularly teased about eating healthy food. Peer pressure and healthy eating was a problem. My son’s sisters were more than happy to dish out advice on how to handle the comments on his lunches.

Diplomatic sister #1: “Tell the other kids your food is yummy and that you really like it”.

To-the-point sister #2: “Tell the other kids to ‘cut it out’ with the teasing. Tell them to ask their mom to buy food like yours so they can try it too.”

So what should you do about the negative impact between peer pressure and healthy eating?
How to Help Your Child Handle
the Healthy Food Teasing

What a child can say to their peers

  1. My food is really tasty and I really like it!
  1. Cut it out! Why don’t you ask your mom to buy this food for you so you can try it too.
  1. My mom loves me so much, she lets me eat this healthy food.
  1. Yes, you are right. My food is “ ______”. Fill in blank with weird, gross, creepy, disgusting, etc.

What you can do as a parent

  1. Pack lunch together, so you and your child agree about what’s in the lunchbox. Better yet, have your child involved in the shopping, selection and preparation.
  1. Don’t try new food items in a school lunch. Test them at home first to make sure your child likes them.
  1. Put only one “weird” item in their lunch box every day. After several days of jicama in my daughter’s lunch box, no one at school cares about it. Now they are actually interested in what emerges from her lunchbox.
  1. Never make a child feel that unhealthy foods are off limits, or they will feel deprived, which causes bigger issues with food. At our house, we talk about food choices in terms of everyday and occasional foods. My kids do have “occasional” foods in their lunch boxes once in a while.
  1. Be a good role model to give your child confidence. Pack you own healthy lunch, and make healthy choices when you are with your adult friends.

As for my son and the humiliation of the green sandwich, he is ready to speak up for himself. He wants to bring purple peppers and pink apples for snack tomorrow.

Bring It On, kid style.

I love these children. They can handle the peer pressure and healthy eating better than their mom.

Mary Rentoumis writes about her humorous adventures in feeding her family a healthy diet on her website, Healthy Diet.com. Although Mary cannot cook, she endures kitchen disasters and grocery store mishaps to create a healthy diet program. With an Ivy League degree in History and Chemistry, Mary is comfortable understanding on a molecular level why some foods are not healthy choices. Mary regularly uses her scientific background to explain to her youngest son why he can’t have candy bars for breakfast.

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57 Comments

My four year old daughter recently went to a birthday party. The mother of the birthday girl was going around pouring Sprite into everyone's cups. My daughter quickly put her hand over her cup and said "no thank you. I want water please."

I still can't decide if I'm more proud of her use of manners or the fact that she prefers water over carbonated drinks...even when all her friends were drinking it. :)

I try to get my daughter to eat healthy foods and veggies. She does get to eat chips and sweets too as a treat. Fruit snacks are a reward for her being good and for small accomplishments. She does not get peer pressure as much as she is the only child with a lunchbox full of fruits and veggies and healthy snacks. She goes to daycare now so she has her lunches prepared and packed by me...

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It doesn't matter if it's healthy or UNhealthy, kids will tease other kids just for the fun of it. I LOVED peanut butter & marshmallow cream sandwiches (fluffer nutters) and got teased every day I brought one. I was very shy but I had no problem telling my friends that is was the best thing and they were missing out. It's just food. It is much easier for them to deal with being teased over that then, say, their appearance or athletic ability. ;)

Rosemary Wells did a nice kid-friendly picture book on this theme in her book "Yoko" (where Yoko the kitten's sushi lunch draws all sorts of "eew" comments from her classmates)...

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All kids should be armed to deal with peer pressure as early as posible.... Being different is a good thing. All my kids kinda know that if they are always part of the total 'in crowd' there may be something wrong. Its fun to be different, fun to be a leader, and fun to make other kids laugh. Eating green food has to be as awesome as eating worms (gummies of course) - or booger jelly-bellies. :)

I think we all know kids tease when they envy someone or something. This is a lesson in character, and it sounds like your son has plenty of it, willing to stick with his convictions. Wonder bread and the like is much more budget friendly for growing families. Instead of anger toward the situation, you can feel gratitude to be able to make a consistent choice to eat healthy.

Our girls were in a food trade group. No matter what we sent, they traded for something else.

So we learned the following:
• Make food attractive. Crinkle cut carrots soaked in water are better (and safer) than baby carrots.

• You can get organic goldfish - only they are bunnies (and bunnies are cuter than fish); juice boxes (who cares what's on the cover - as long as you have a box) and whole milk yogurt cups (brand recognition isn't an issue - flavor is)...

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My mom always sent me to school with carrots instead of chips and cheese cubes instead of cheese balls etc. I do remember getting teased a bit, but only a little. I just enjoyed my food and went on with my day. By the time I got to highschool, it was a "trend" to be eating salad and such. I was always thin and had a nice figure, so I guess it paid off. I knew a girl who was pudgy going into highschool. So she stopped eating altogether and developed severe anorexia...

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I was that kid that got weird stuff in her lunch at school. No ho-hos or cheetos for me. My family is Italian and we ate a lot of things that weren't mainstream back then. I remember going to school with persimmons and prickly pears in my lunch. No one had seen them before, but I knew they were good and I liked them, so I ate them, even though I got questions. A lot of the suggestions on here are great. We have to teach our kids to eat healthy foods...

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I don't believe that this is an issue of food or only of peer pressure. I believe that your son needs to feel better and more confident about himself. When a person is confident about who they are and what they want and don't want, then it doesn't matter what others say. Maybe you could practice saying 5 things that you truly like about him to him each day. In turn, you can ask him to tell you 5 things that he likes about himself each day...

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The food you sent with your son actually sounds delicious. I had a similar thing happen with my daughter who is also a kindergartener. I sent with her a bag of carrots, because she loved carrots, and she did the same thing as your son and didn't eat much. So, I actually found a good children's book that addressed this very topic. The book is called "A Bad Case of Stripes" by David Shannon. The book addresses this very subject...

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We have the same problem. The whole family is vegan, and all the kids tease both my boys about the veggies in their lunch. My boys are who made the choice that we should not eat animals so they do very well defending themselves. However, it gets frustrating hearing their lunch stories at the end of the day. Why can't people teach their children that veggies are good for you.

As a teacher, I haven't seen anything work better than the book "A Bad Case of the Stripes" by David Shannon. Not only does it keep their attention with beautiful and bright pictures, but it has a great message about being your own person. In this case, it is about a little girl who loves lima beans, but is afraid she would be ridiculed because no one else likes them. Check it out! It's a great book!

If he likes the healthy food, I would focus on helping him stand up to the peer pressure as opposed comprmising on your healthy eating. JMO

I teach at a preschool too, but I see the opposite of what Kat describes. Some of the children in my class are sent with healthy options, but most come with Cheetos and gummie snacks. I always make a point of pulling out my lunch items and saying, "Oh yum, I get to eat strawberries today!"
My children love their veggies and hummus, but my youngest did come home from school asking for orange chips after she saw her friends eating them...

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