I am really curious. I keep hearing about using a time out chair for children around the age of 1 1/2 years old. I would love to do that with my granddaughter BUT how do you get them to stay in the chair???? She is into everything and trying to keep her in a chair would just be another battle. Telling her NO has never worked. I have had to smack her hand and leg a few times but I really don't want to do that if I could just find another way to get her to listen. Thanks
you may think i am crazy - but do you ever watch the supernanny? she uses time out chairs or rugs or a specific room (depending on the age of the children) if she isn't willing to sit in the chair get a small rug - just make sure it is in the same spot - put her in it and walk away - COMPLETELY ignore her (this was hard for me to do - at first) once she is in time out, but don't start the time out timing (1 minute per year of age) until she is on the rug - the first couple of times with my son (now 31/2)lasted a while (30 minutes +) but now - no problem! hope this helps!
To be honest, I don't think a timeout chair will work at this age. My youngest is 16 months old and I know she does not understand that she has to stay sitting in a chair. I've always heard that for toddlers this age you should use either their crib or set up a pack and play in another room for time outs.
Good luck, hope this helps.
We used an extra high chair. (not the one we feed him in so he didn't think he was in trouble at meal time) I put it in a room away from everything. Good luck
I have noticed that time out does not work with my son. He is 22 months old. The best thing that works for him is getting to his eye level and telling him what I expect of him. When he does not follow through on this, take and show him what I want him to do by holding his hands or what ever body part it takes to complete the task. If he still throws a fit then he is taken out of the situation and I tell him I do not like that behavoir and wait for him to calm down. Tell him I love him and try to do the task again. With this consistancy is the key. At his age he is wanting to strike out on his own, so to help with the independance I give him options he can choose from. This helps him feel like he is contributing to the situation. Then when he complies with the expectation I praise him. I do not punish him at this age because I want to show him the behavoir I expect instead of drawing attention to the behavior I do not want. I hope this helps. Good luck she is becoming her own little person at this age. : )
The chair didn't work for us because of the things you mentioned. We have our kids sit in a spot in the hallway. That way, there is nothing for them to play with.
I have taught parent education for several years and frequently hear from parents that time out does not work. Time Out DOES work if you start young and are consistent. I can spout off for an hour on the unhealthy lessons that physical discipline teaches a child, but Ill spare you and get to the point. It is good to start time out at this age, but because she is so young you will have to put her in the time out chair and sit next to her until her time is up and keep telling her no and putting her back into the chair. As she gets older, she will get it and stay in the chair. At this age, she should only be in time-out for a minute to a minute and a half and this should happen immeditely after she has done something wrong as children have a short attention span when it comes to remembering why they are in trouble. As she get a little older, you will be able to put her in the chair and walk away, but she is too young to understand now. Time out is not an instant gradification discipline. Some parents like seeing an instant reaction in the child by physical discipline, but the negative impact of this can last a lifetime. Time out takes time for the child to adjust to, but is the most effective method of discipline and TRUST ME, it does work if you have the patience to be consistent with it. Hope this helps and good luck!
My son's 20 months old and I have just started implementing timeout. I have a small chair that is somewhat away from everything that I have him sit in. Since he is so small I really don't have him sit any longer than a minute. The point is not to punish but to separate him from the situation to give him a moment to calm himself. I hope that helps :)
I just put her in it away from everything and the first couple of times she would get up and I would just put her back in it. She doesn't have to stay long because she's only 20 months so we just put her for 2 minutes. She sits in it now and it seems to be working but it's only been a week or so.
My daughter is 3 year old now and I still haven't got this timeout method figured out. I can put her in a chair but she just gets up immediately unless I hold her in it with force. She is quite strong so it's a hugh struggle for the both of us. She gets even more mad trying to fight me so trying to get her calmed down is out of the question. The only way works for us is to put her in the biggest walk-in closet in the house and hold the door shut. I open the door every 2-3 minutes and ask her if she is done throwing a tantrum. If she continues to scream, I close the door again. That can go on for 20-30 minutes. I wish there is a better way to do this for us.
I am a 46 year old mother of a 2 year old little girl and I know that this can be difficult. I tried this with my daughter and it was exhausting just putting her back on the time out mat everytime she got up. After about ten or twelve times she gave up and sat there for the two minutes (1 minute for each year of her age) of time out. After two or three more exhausting (for me) trips to time out she finally gave in and now just the threat of the time out mat helps with her when she doesn't want to do what I say. Just hang in there.
How about buckling her into a high chair or a booster seat? What ever the punishment, you must follow through or she will only get more out of hand. Also, if it is about one item or toy try putting the toy in "time out". I keep children at home and this has solved many a arguement or fight. I keep a small box on my freezer and the toy or item in question goes up for at least 5 minutes. I confuses them a little at first, but after a few times they catch on. Kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit sometimes. Good Luck!
I have a Fisher Price Infant to Toddler rocking chair for this specific purpose. It has a seat belt! :) It's very effective!
Skip the chair just have her stand in the corner. The trick is that you put her in time out and you also tell her when to get out of time out. Right now a time out longer than 1 sec will not work. You are teaching her that she is not to move until you tell her too. Eventually you'll be able to fully implement timeout.
I have twin two year olds. I have a time out corner instead of a chair. I feard they would fall out of the chair or stand on it. The floor is a safer bet, I think. Good luck! I also put them in it for the number of years they are. We just moved up to two minutes right after their 2nd birthday.
~Holly
I can tell you from experience of a mother that time out does work. And the younger you start the more they will understand. My mom also uses it with my children if she has too. You have to be patient and consistent with it when you use it. If she gets up you just walk her back over there and sit her down and do that as many times as it takes until she finally sits there for 1 full minute (which is plenty of time out for her or 1 1/2 min. at most.) If you do this it will eventully work and she will know when she gets in timeout she will not be able to play or anything but sit there. Another method I use if I can't do timeout is takeing one there favorite toys from them for however long depending on the punishment and this works especially well with boys. But good luck :)
My mom use to have a day care and she used a booby pillow (just an ugly floor pillow) and when they were bad or mad they had to cry into the pillow. I have one at my house for my son and it works pretty good. Mine is not ugly and it does not help if some one decides to use it as a floor pillow because then blaine thinks they are in trouble.