Hello, Ladies, My name is Rosa,
I am thirty-four years old mom of two beautiful children nine and five. I am currently trying to have may third. Just recently I had a misscarriage and the baby was removed on my eight aniversary June 21, and was totally devasted about the hole thing. I have been waiting to have this third child for almost two years. My husband and I have been trying since february and because of my miscarriage the doctor told me to hold off about four months before you try again. We have been trying since Nov. and doing everything possible from vitamins to eating healthy to you name it. And Last night we just could not conceive for some reason or another and I don't know why he just was not getting into the mood if you know what I mean. I told him I want to have a baby like you have not idea. My feelings to hold take care of and whole bunch of other things is just like I am being teased. Does anyone have a magic potion on how to concieve this month my ovulation cycle starts this week. OR fertility dates or what ever you call it, it starts this week. Can anyone help me ..... Any advice any ideas any anything....
In need to have a baby!!!!!!! Rosa
I too have had a miscarrage. It totaly devistated me, however my situation at the time was not a healthy one (bad relationship) so I grew to accept what had happend was for the best. I have since married to my soul mate and had a child with him.
Anyway, you mentioned that your hubby was not in the mood. I am wondering if he is still suffering the loss of the child as well. He may feel that all he is to you is a baby making machine. I hope I am not coming off as harsh. I don't truly mean to sound that way. When my hubby and I were going through trouble conceiving our child together, he said thats how he felt. We ended up taking a break from trying so hard and just had some fun. I ended up conceiving shortly after. I hope everything works out for the best foryou and your husband.
hi rosalia...i am jackie. i feel for you baby!! i think if you put all this extra pressure out of your mind and just think more optimistic about the whole "pregnacy" thing you will conceive before you know it. or maybe it just wasn't meant to be. if you try and think on those terms maybe it will work. its a mind game for you now. your feelings are taking over and the pressure is taking its toll on you (so to speak). i am struggling with my words today. so forgive me if i sound harsh. i don't mean it.
maybe i too should just take a break from the computer and not try too hard to get my point across. lol get it??
try and work on your marriage in the sex department. like when he comes home try and have nothing but a coat on. sexy!!??!!?? then rosa before you know it you will have what you both deserve. i really feel its just a mind game now for you. try and relax. i agree with the girl below me. your husband may be suffering more then you know it. and you have been consumed with all these feelings of "i want". and it will just have to wait a while. i had my last 2 babies when i was 36 and 39. its not too bad. not to say that you will have to wait that long!!!!!!!! i am just saying that don't put the "age" pressure on yourself. thats all!!! grrrr i am struggling today. so i am going to take my own advice and walk away. i am going to think of something else cause God knows i have a whole house to get prepared for christmas. lol and it will be fun to start all the decorating. bye sweetie. i hope you got my hidden message. i am trying. have fun while you are trying...lol things will be fine. relax and enjoy. look at what you do have and not at what you don't have. lots of love and prayers for you and your family. love jackie