Hi Ladies,
My 10 year old daughter came to me and said that there are boys making fun of her at school because they say she has a moustache. We are asian, so the black hair on her upper lip and eyebrows stand out on her olive colored skin. She was looking for something to remove the hair in my bathroom earlier today. Do you think she is too young for plucking her eye brows or bleaching her upper lip? I remember I was teased about having a moustache in the 4th grade too and it too bothered me.
I don't think she is too young. One of my girls looked like she was developing a uni-brow last year and we cleaned it up a bit with tweezers. We do it every couple of months. A friend takes her daughter for waxing her upper lip every other month. I think she started when she was 9.
Self esteem is so fragile at this age and peers can make or break it. If she is showing darker facial hair then no she is not too young. Kids are so cruel these days. I am of Armenian heritage so I understand facial hair and the emotional damage kids can dish out. Waxing might be an option too for her upper lip since the sun will shine and make it show up even though it is no longer dark.
I would go ahead and get rid of it, maybe look into laser hair removal if she would like. That really sounds like a hard thing to deal with and it does make people stare even if they aren't inclined to make fun.
If your daughter has hair and it bothers her, then she isn't too young. My 10 year old has been tweezing, snipping and shaving for the last year. I recommend using a cream hair removal system. It doesn't hurt like waxing does. If your finances allow, then permanent hair removal is best.
Mary,
if this is bothering her and she is aware ofvit, I don't think she is too young by any means. I wouldn't do bleach though. Try waxing. The results will last longer and over time the hair will soften as a result. Good luck
I would take her to have threading done or waxing. I wouldn't use the bleach. To harsh of a chemical. These methods do come with some discomfort but ...no pain no gain! LOL!
Thank you so much for bringing this to others attention. My 12 year old granddaughter has a moustache. She just wants to ignore it yet others are beginning to say things to her, hurtful things. Sad... I too will benefit from your inquiry.
my daughter is Asain... adopted from Korea.. so when she came home in 2nd grade... because the boys were laughing at her.. i was upset.. i called the dr.. and talked to her. she said the time to take care of things is when the child asks.. so we started bleaching.. not to good because the hair would then turn very blond.. and with her olive skin.. it showed more.. we went to waxing.. and she hated it.. we did it 3 times.. and she really cried.. she asked me about nair.. so we tried it.. she is now in 5th grade.. 11 yrs old... and she does nair about 1once every month.. or when needed.. sometimes its 5 weeks.. she loves it.. goes on easy.. comes off easy and she does it herself.. i am leaving her eyebrows alone for the time being.. i told her if they realy bother her then we will take care of them with waxing.. which won't be as bad as her upper lip.. it won't hurt as much.. good luck.. allison [email protected] if you have any questions..
We had this situation with one of my daughters. It was extremely severe. Her docter referred her to an endroctrinologist who diagnosed a harmonal imbalance that was causing the unusual facial hair growth. This imbalance also affected other areas of her life, especially her emotions. I don't wish to alarm anyone and a small amount of facial hair may be normal. However, the other responses dealt with fixing the symptoms and sometimes there is a root cause that needs to be addressed. Hope this is helpful.
I would take her some that does threading or waxin, yeah it is painful, but the sting goes away pretty quickly. I do not like bleaching because certain lighting emphasizes it.
Just be honest with her about the pain, and let her try a few options.
I myself prefer threading, I often breakout and have reaction to the wax.
I don't think its early for YOU to help her bleach or pluck.the hair. I think its early for HER to do it, just in case she makes a mistake and gives them a reason to make fun of her again. If you don't help, you may find her doing things behind your back.
Kids are cruel, GOOD LUCK in what ever decision you make!
I got picked on early b/c of hairy legs and remember begging my mom to let me shave. She did and the teasing stopped. It's not that big of a deal when you really think about it. She notices it, others notice it...let her do something about it before it effects her self esteem.
If it is starting to affect her confidence, absolutely do it. Grade school is difficult enough! I wouldn't bleach the hair, however, just remove it. If you bleach it, it's still there. I would go to an aesthetician and either have her wax or use the "threading" method (the professional uses thread to remove the hair; it's fabulous). If you need a referral, I know someone at South Coast Plaza who is highly experienced in both methods, and she is Asian, as well. If you choose waxing, make sure and confirm that the aesthetician uses a clean wooden stick EACH time she dips into the hot wax. Otherwise, the herpes virus can be spread via this method (by double-dipping).
I was also teased in school for the same thing. My mother did not let me suffer. Sally Hansen makes a product that is a hair removal creme. You place a thick layer on the upper lip for 5-7 minutes and the hair is removed.
Waxing or threading is great for when she is a bit older. They can be quite painful. I promise you this works--I still use it today! I am half middle eastern and I have very light olive skin and dark hair.
You have a lot of good responses. I do threading on my eyebrows and upper lip, and it is painful, so I wouldn't have her do it until she is a bit older. I suggest waxing which is quick, easy, and relatively inexpensive. You have to do it more often, so a good at home wax would be best. Salons are good if you can afford it, but the new waxes they have come out with at home should work for her. Good luck and hope everything works out ok.