I would like to know if anyone can share their Miscarriage experience with me. Over last weekend I found out I was expecting (we didn't know) and then lost the baby within a few days. It was very hard. My question really surrounds the after symptoms. I am still having pain and exhaustion. I can't keep my eyes open and my body feels like it has been through trauma. Because it was such an early lose I didn't expect to feel like this. Has anyone experienced this? I have had lots of blood work to verify the pregnancy and I have to have more next week to make sure the hormone levels return to normal. Otherwise, I may be looking at a D&C. Any feedback would be appreciated.
Hi kristin,
I am so sorry for your loss.
I hear a lot of people continue with pregnancy symptoms until their HCG levels drop back to normal....
I never really had symptoms since I had the miscarriages very early on, 6 to 8 weeks and have never needed a D&C.
Your body will normalize soon, I would say it is probably emotional or you may need a D&C to make sure there's nothing left in there that can cause symptoms and complications.
Depends on how far along you were.
Again, I am sorry about your loss...
I have never lost anyone but my grandma has lost twins right after they were born. I am sorry that you lost them. I would say the best thing to do in your situation is to pray.
Jesus I pray Lord for Kristin that you would give her comfort. I pray that your love will shine upon her. I resist that sickness in the name of Jesus. I command her body to line up with the word of God. Be healed in the name of Jesus. By Jesus stripes you are healed. I command her sleeping to return to normal. I pray Lord that you would open up that womb so that she may have a baby. In Jesus name I pray amen.
Hi Kristin,
I am so sorry for your loss.
I have 2 children (ages 3 and 1) and I had a miscarriage before each of them. It takes a HUGE toll on your body. My miscarriages were also very early on. I remember being sore, tired, not to mention MENTALLY exhausted. I had to have a D&C with one and the other ended naturally. It sounds like your husband is very busy, but I hope that you have SOMEONE to help give you a chance to relax. You said it best yourself, you feel like your body has been through a trauma - it has!!!! Your hormones probably still think you are pregnant - your body and your hormones will take some time to catch up with each other. Again, I am sorry to hear about your loss. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Try to find comfort in the children you do have and I hope you are feeling better soon. Feel free to send me a PM anytime.
I am also sorry for your loss.
Your body has indeed been through trauma and it will take time for it to normalize. Your emotions have also been traumatized and it will also take time for you to grieve your loss and be able to come to terms with it.
I've had an early miscarriage and a late one. I had a D&C with the late miscarriage and ended up with post-traumatic stress because of the horror of the miscarriage. Any loss affects you more deeply than you may expect. Plus, don't expect your husband to feel your loss as deeply as you do, because his body is not the one going through the hormonal changes. That was a tough lesson for me to learn in the aftermath of my first miscarriage.
I would like to urge you to continue to love and appreciate the existence of your living children. Continue to pay as much attention to them as you are able. I pray that your husband will be able to help you out as much as possible and that the Lord will give you the strength and support you need to make it through this loss. God bless.
Hi Kristin,
I'm very sorry for your loss. I went through a miscarriage a couple years ago. I had been trying to get pregnant. I was really excited about becoming a mother. I kept careful records of my cycle and took a home pregnancy test as soon as I realized that I missed my cycle. It came back positive, so I went to the doctor. The doctor confirmed my pregnancy, but she couldn't find the baby in the ultrasound. There was a sac, but no heartbeat. I was told to wait two weeks and come back for another ultrasound. When I returned, my hormone levels had increased, the size of the sac had increased, but she still couldn't find a heartbeat. I was told to return in two weeks. The third doctor visit broke my heart. The sac size hadn't changed, my hormone levels hadn't changed, and there still was no sign of a heartbeat. I was told that I had miscarried and I would need to have a D&C the next Monday. My appointment was on a Saturday. That weekend was one of the longest in my life. I felt so empty and really didn't want to believe that I wouldn't be having a baby. During that whole month that I had waited to find the baby's heartbeat, I had felt many pregnancy symptoms. I couldn't stand certain smells. I was always tired. So at eight weeks into the pregnancy, I had the D&C the following Monday. It was terrible. I felt so scared and alone. (A little about me, I am originally from Indiana, but now live in Japan. My husband is Japanese. I went through this experience in Japan. In Japan, a woman has an ultrasound at every prenatal visit. I really had no idea what a D&C was and my ability to speak Japanese is somewhat limited, so that added greatly to my fear.) My husband was with me, but he didn't feel that connection with the pregnancy the way I had. I had lots of pain after the D&C, but the doctor told me that I would be able to start trying again after having two cycles. It really hit me hard emotionally as well. It seemed like everyone around me was pregnant. I was teaching the English speaker's sunday school class at church for the 4 and 5 year olds. Two girls in the class had mothers who were pregnant. One week after I had the miscarriage, one little girl said in class, "My mommy's baby isn't dead yet. Did you tell everyone you were pregnant too early?" It broke my heart again. I had only asked her mother because she was pregnant and I needed to see a doctor who could at least speak a little English. I know that the little girl didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but it still really hurt. So did everyone asking me if I was OK. I just wanted the earth to open up and swallow me in. I don't know if you are religious or not, but I found my strength by leaning to Heavenly Father for support and the healing power of the atonement of Jesus Christ. I prayed more than I ever have in my life, and with help from heaven and the love of my husband I made it through. Nothing could ever take away the love I had for the little one that didn't have a heartbeat during that first pregnancy. I still keep the ultrasound photos from that first pregnancy. I did get pregnant after having the miscarriage. I now have a very strong, healthy, stubborn, handsome little boy. He brings so much joy into my life. I also think that even though my miscarriage occured very early, there is a little one watching us from heaven. Be strong. I know that it is difficult, but you have a family that needs you. Let your love for them grow stronger. You can heal, and you can make it through this difficult time. Any trial we go through can become a blessing, if you choose to let that happen. I'll be sure to include you in my prayers.
Best wishes and hang in there,
Dawnette
A miscarriage can takee it out of you mentally, physically, and emotionally. I had a misscarriage at 6 or 7 weeks and it was a downer for me for about a month. I had to focus on my crafts, reading a good book, or something else I really enjoyed. Once things were strightened out with my physical being, I had to make up my mind to straighten out my mental and emotional state. I eventually had my daughter. She was beautiful and very much loved. I felt that the time wasn't right for a child when I had my miscarriage. I was fine and rarely even thought about the miscarriage only if someone said something about it.
Kristin,
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage about 6 months ago. After I didn't want to do anything. I felt so tired and depressed. It took about a month to get my hormones back where they should be. I found a group that has helped me out alot it is for parents who have lost chilren at any age (even before they are born) They have helped me with support and alot of good information. The one piece of advice I will give you is don't let anyone tell you that you can only greive this loss for a set time frame. It is not true you take as long as you need. Once again I am sorry for your loss and if you want any information on the group let me know.
Sandi
Kristin, As a person who experienced a miscarriage myself I understand what you are going through and I am so sorry for your loss. We live in a society that still doesn't share the pain a family experiences at this time. Your job expects you back to work as normal, friends,and even family don't talk to you about what has happened, or worse yet will say things only to make you feel worse. "Something must have been wrong", "you'll have another", even "everything in God's time". Even though the time you had knowing of your pregency was short your body and mind will take some time. Take time to morn, to share your loss with your husband, and if people say things that are dumb remember they may be uncorforable with the subject.You may be experiencing a degree of depression which can explain feeling tired. But remember this is normal.You are allowed this, and it's ok. You're body needs rest and your mind needs to go through the grief process. Don't expect to jump up and go,go, go. Go to the things that give you pleasure, or do something special for your loss. Church, plant a garden in memory, or just a quiet afternoon with your family. We live in a fast lane society and this is a time when you need to slow it down, take it easy, and you will move on. I'm not a doctor so if you feel call him/her or go in and talk about the things you feel. I hope I helped a little. Your sister in God. Cheryl
You will have some bleeding and you will not feel good. You will experience pain and may pass more blood clots. They may also do a pelvic exam to see if everything passed ok along with the blood work. If not everything has passed then your hormone levels will still be high and they will do the d&c. You will be put under for the d&c and they will clean out any tissue etc. that has not passed on its own. Typically as early as your miscarriage happened all the tissue etc. has passed and a d&c is not neccessary. I had 3 miscarriages the first at 3 months. I had to have a d&c, the second one was at 5 months with twins had to have d&c and the last one I was 2 months and had to have a d&c. You will have scar tissue because of this but hopefully it will not affect your chances of getting pregnant again. I think you should be fine but give it at least 6 months before you think about another baby so your body can have time to heal. I am sorry about your loss and hope that the next time your pregnancy will be fine.
Debbie
I am 31 and have been married almost 12 yrs. My husband and I have 3 boys (after all those miscarriages) ages 10,7 and 4.
Hello, So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost a pregnancy at about 9 weeks. It was ectopic and required surgery and a D&C. I remember having pregnancy symptoms for weeks after. My doctor also made me have blood work to make sure my hormone levels returned to normal. I had to have blood work done every week for 6 weeks! The doctor said the level had to be I believe under 30 and it took 6 weeks to return to normal. I know I still had symptoms for awhile until hormone levels were stable. I am sure alot has to do with the emotional stress that also comes along with miscarriage! Take care,get rest and accept lots of help. I wish your family the best. God Bless!!!
I am the mother of 4...3 boys ages 15, 10, &2 and 1 girl almost 4 yo. I experienced 2 early miscarriages after my first two children. One was at 6 weeks and the second was at 8 weeks. The first one miscarried completely and needed no additional care....of course I cried a lot and was emotionally drained (depressed to an extent), bled a little longer than a normal period but no real cramping/contrations. The second one was very traumatic for me as the baby seemed to be forming normally....heard the heartbeat and had an early ultrasound showing normal development. Any how, when I miscarried I continued to have contractions and had to go in for a D&C. I was physically and emotionally drained and it took me a week before I could do activities without pain. Have you had excessive bleeding? Are you experiencing contractions or severe cramping? Do you have a fever? Being tired is normal....your body has been through a lot!....however you should be able to function after a couple days, maybe not 100% or even 90%. I would definitely call your doctor if you think something is wrong or just don't feel right. Do you know that it wasn't a tubal pregnancy? Have you had an ultrasound? Everybody responds differently physically and emotionally to miscarriage. I would recommend a support group....we went to one at our hospital and it really helped. I will pray for your body to heal itself without any medical assistance. Please do call your doctor about the pain....some is normal and some is not and your doctor can help decide what to do. You do have a choice if they suggest a D&C....you can choose to have it done or try to let your body handle it naturally.....assuming you are not losing too much blood....I was a basket case when mine happened and was in the hospital within 12 hours and having a D&C and was off work for a week. Listen to your body and rest when it tells you to. God Bless!
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my 1st child (carried her for 10 months, thought I was going for elephant status!). The first one was early on, in the second month. I was exhausted, my body had (as has your's) gone through a trauma, I can't honestly say I remember much about the pain (I was 26 and am 56 now).
The second one I lost at 4 months, and the doctor did a DNC within a week. Same exhaustion, trauma feeling etc.
The third I lost at 5 1/2 months after spending 3 weeks on bed rest. They did a DNC immediately at the hospital. I was still exhausted, and had the trauma symptoms.
Do you take vitamins? You might start if you don't, they will help some.
I will be praying for you.
Pam R
Hi Kristin. So sorry you are having to go through this too. I miscarried a few weeks ago - should've been 11w, found out the baby passed around 6w at my 8w ultrasound and decided to miscarry naturally. It is still physically and emotionally draining. I ended up having to go to the ER for an emergency D&C anyway because of excessive bleeding. You feel this way because your body HAS been through trauma. I never thought that it would be that rough (physically) on my body to m/c that early either, but it is. I have found that Babycenter.com has been a great place to turn - they have an infant/pregnancy loss bulletin board, which is a great place for questions and support from women who have, or are going through exactly what you are. Hope you feel better soon, I know exactly how difficult everything is and will be right now.
I'm sorry for your loss, Kristin. I've been there, twice. It's not easy and if you feel like crying, go ahead and do it, because you'll feel a little better afterwards. I, too, had bleeding after the miscarriages. The bloodwork it to check to see if hormone levels are dropping. If they are, then no D and C needed. I remember being slightly depressed afterwards, and also, because you've lost blood, you might be anemic. Your doctor will tell you if there is concern for that, so don't hesitate to ask about all of your sypmtoms. Don't worry, you guys will have more babies when it's time. I ended up having a hormonal problem, called a Luteal Phase Defect, treatable with Progesterone supossitories for 12 weeks during the 1st trimester. I have 2 healthy kids now, thanks to a thorough doctor who didn't give up on me. Hang in there, kid.
Hi Kristin, I have never had a m/c, but lost our daughter at 75 days to SIDS, found the most wonderful group, sidsfamilies.com, who also help those w/ m/c. we will always try to help, or at least give support. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. April
I lost my baby at 5 months gestation. The biggest thing I remember at it was the feeling of emptiness. I had to have a d&c because I bled very heavily and was in a lot of pain. I do remember being tired when I got out of the hospital but mostly I just felt numb. I know this probably doesn't help answer your question really well but it is about all I can offer. I wouldn't worry to much about being tired and such. No matter how far along you were, your body still had to undergo a lot of changes trying to support this child. Please talk to your doc if you are worried that things aren't as they should be. I wish you the best, Shannon G.
Grace and peace to you. Having a miscarraige can take a major toll on all areas of your life (mentally, physically, and spiritually). I miscarried at 4 1/2 months and it was one of the hardest things I have ever been through. Physically your symptoms are normal. You still have all the hormones of pregnancy so you are tired etc... and your body HAS been through some trauma so that does add to the exhaustion. The bleeding is normal too. I do believe you will have some clotting but should watch for really large clots as they can be a sign of hemmorage. Obviously I am not a doctor so check to make sure exactly what you should watch for. I ended up having a dnc too. It wasn't too bad for me but you can still expect to feel like you do. Tired, bleeding, etc. The most important thing you can do now is take care of yourself. If you need to rest do it. If you don't be careful you could make it worse. Some women experience extreme emotional and/or spirtual difficulty with a miscarraige and some don't. Whatever you are feeling, trust that IT IS OK. YOU ARE "NORMAL" (whatever that is). Allow yourself to work through it however you need. If you are emotionally upset there are often support groups at hospitals for this type of occurence. If you would like you can e-mail me and we can talk some more. I am willing to support you however you need. God bless.
Hi Kristin, I recently miscarried in Feb. similiar situation, I found out on a wednesday and miscarried on a friday. I was in pain and bleeding a lot (loss of that much blood would surely make you exhausted) my doctor wanted to me have a D&C immediatley and I did and I felt great afterward (physically). I would ask your doctor for the D&C.
I found out last Friday I was pregnant and then started bleeding Monday. It was just at 5 1/2 weeks, but I never expected to feel so tired. I couldn't lift my head off the pillow. Emotionally I was doing okay, but physically drained of all energy. I had a little more bleeding than usual and some cramps, but nothing extraordinary. I didn't have any pain other than that and the drs told me to just make sure I wasn't soaking through a pad an hour. I'd call your doctor and ask them. They've done this often and should be able to help you.