I am sure HR will never go to the trouble to look at the child's birth certificate.
Children do not like it when their parents are not married. You may think it
is cute, or modern or what ever and you , for your own minds , are OK with this, but for the child's sake why don't you just quietly get married. No muss or fuss just a legal document to please your child.
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Well, I don't have a good answer for you, but if you've found a way to explain your pregnancy then I'm sure you will also figure this out as well.
I didn't need a birth certificate to put my children on our insurance. I think you need to put your child's father's name on that certificate.
Lies are never good. Have you thought about the other issues you have:
- What will happen if work friends come and visit you in the hospital when daddy and you are there with the baby?
- What is going to happen when baby gets sick and you or your boyfriend need to stay home for several days? Won't the company see a correlation between the days off you both might need to take?
-Later on, when you finally marry this guy, are you going to pretend that he adopts the child or how are you going to explain to everyone what you have shared with the child?
I would go down to the courthouse and get married. You can have a big ceremony later. I don't understand how financial obligations would prevent you from getting married.
Does HR think you are room-mates? Don't they have your address?
Before I got married, I would have said that my SO and I didn't need to be married. I'd still say we didn't NEED to be married, but I am glad that we are. Having been married a little over 6 years (and my oldest is 6, so you can do the math), I can say being married IS different from living together and it does make life easier. Maybe it shouldn't but it does. Personally, I am glad I went along with my (now) husband and did it (he wanted to get married, I was the balky one - preggo and all).
If you plan to spend your lives together, a trip to the courthouse is worth putting in the "to consider" column. I am not sure what the laws are in CA, but here in CO you could get married for around $60 (no "wedding" but the party can always come later).