I have 18 month old boy/girl twins. They currently share a room but we will soon have an additional bedroom and I would like to seperate them at some point. (I'm sure they will want to be seperate eventually anyway.) They currently still sleep in cribs but will most likely transition to a big kids bed about 2 years old. Our bedrooms are too small to have both big kid beds in one room so they will have to seperate then. I wanted to get some feedback if I should seperate them while they are still in their cribs and then move them to big kid beds when they are ready or should I seperate and change beds at the same time so we don't have 2 "new" things???
You won't know until you try it.
Each baby is different... so, maybe just try it and see how it goes and try and "separate" them now like how you are thinking of.
Or, some parents put 2 kids in the same bed... via a double bed or something. But sure, at some point when older, then they will probably want to sleep separately.
But that is down the road, and not now.
I would KEEP them in cribs now, still. LATER put them in "beds" when you feel it is appropriate, once they are older.
I would not separate them and change beds at the same time. That is looking for hardship and it may tweak their whole sleep routine, upsetting it.
Just my opinion, but separating them (if you do) at 2+ years old, may be harder to do. At that age, they typically have sleep phases as well developmentally and the "2 year old" sleep difficulties... and flourishing independence all at the same time... which may make it harder.
All the best,
Susan
I ask, why separate them? I am a SAHM of 3 yo twin girls. The relationship between twins is so unique to other sibling relationships. (I also have a 30 yo & a 25 yo son & daughter). There is such a wonderful bond between twins. We also have an extra bedroom but we believe it would be such a trauma to separate them right now because they are truly best friends. We know some day they will probably want their own room and, when they are ready thankfully we will be able to offer them their own rooms. There will be other opportunities to individualize them; sports, school, etc.; why (when there are so many other growth & learning processes they are experiencing at 18 mos.) put yourself through the stress of separating them. We don't have issues with their being together; they go to sleep, don't wake each other when one fusses & the other doesn't...they understand their "rules" and boundaries....so we plan on enjoying this bond as long as it lasts. We've considered making our "spare/guest" room into a play room so they can have shared sleeping arrangements without the crowding of play things when they get to the age of playing in their rooms. Right now they play in our family room & that's the toy area...their bedroom is strictly beds, dressers & a sitting area for story time. I say.....ENJOY WHAT YOU HAVE - LET THEM BOND & LET THEM AGREE ON A TIME TO HAVE THEIR OWN SPACE. Have fun....you have truly been blessed by being given twins!
It's funny that I'm reading this today, as I just happened to separate my twins last week! We moved them from their toddler beds, (they just turned 3) and moved each one into a newly deorated room with big kid beds. They were so excited, kissed and hugged each other good night and went to sleep! No problems!