Your Child Is Just Too Much

I know its hard to hear that, but I don't think it was so much your child as it may have been her. In all probability she wasn't providing much activity and kids get tired of access to toys pretty fast. Not that they need to be entertained 24/7, but they do need some engaging activities.

I personally think your son would do much better in a center or a certified home daycare. They will be better at keeping him busy so he can adjust more easily. They will also be a bit better trained at dealing with children's schedules conflicting with others so feedings, teething etc won't be an issue. A center is also NOT going to tell you your child is too much unless your child is violent and inflicting harm on another child. They may say your child had a bit of a tough time during parts of the day, but they'll also make sure you get positive updates too.

Good luck!

I believe these types of situations never work for multiple reasons. Taking care of someone elses child is not the same as taking care of our own. The feelings we encounter when other children cry and won't stop, ask for mommy, stand by the door, throw things, throw tantrums, fight with other children, and any number of other tough behaviors, is overwhelming to someone not truly called to this business. On top of that, it's truly like holding down 2 jobs instead of just one. In theory, it seems like it should work. But often one of the parties feels that their burden is higher in some way and that they aren't receiving much out of the situation.

I have done this for 24 years and even with having a few tricks up my sleeve, it's still difficult for me to overcome a strong case of separation anxiety. You can look under my name to see what I have recently posted on here about one of my daycare children. She is beginning to turn a corner. But she's still more work at this point than any other child in my care. My years of experience will get me through it. This woman you used was just a mom. I don't mean that as a slurr. Moms are important. But moms are not daycare providers.

Only you can decide if you want to try again. I do believe you need to find a professional caregiving situation next time. It could be a nanny or in home care or daycare center. But don't use someone new to the business because it sounds like your little guy is struggling and needs someone that's been through it before. No one else can magically get him over this phase. But at least a professional won't let him go.

I am sorry, that's tough.
I think it's important that you don't take it personally. It is quite likely that if you were swapping care, that the other mom just couldn't handle the additional work and responsibility. Being a mom alone does not necessarily qualify someone to provide daycare for other children (I certainly wouldn't want to do that more than occasional sitting). You might find that in a professional setting in a center you child might adjust much better. I don't think that the breastfeeding has anything to do with it, it might be more of a personality issue.
Give it a try and see!
Good luck!

Sorry to hear that. It sounds like you need a more reliable source for child care. That is rather rude to just deny care one morning upon your intending to drop your kid off because "he's just too much" without any warning or conversation. If she was feeling overwhelmed she should have come to you to talk about it when the problem first started for her.

The teething stage is long and dreadful but her being a mom herself should help her know what to expect. He may be having a problem transitioning from breast to bottle and that can be frustrating for the child and the caregiver. With patience and communication a mutual process can be created for the caregiver, parents, and child to follow to reach transition success. Her throwing her hands up and quitting was not the solution.

At least at daycare the caregivers are trained to deal with a plethora of situations and a magnitude of all types of children. A good daycare (like my children's) will be able to help you and even suggest things they and you can do to make the situation easier for everyone when it comes to teething and feeding. They will not just deny childcare one day out of the blue.

Best of luck!!

How old is your child?

Ultimately, perhaps get a babysitter/Nanny for your child. Versus "Daycare." maybe your child will do better one-on-one... versus in room full of kids of varying ages etc.
And if you need Mommy time etc., then your babysitter can babysit your child....

Next, what do you mean by your child "is too much"????
What is the "problem"???