I feel like I am so young. I am 24, married, and we have 2 beautiful children. We chose to have our children young and close in age, but now all of my old friends do not have kids and I do not really have much in common with them anymore. Then the "older" moms kind of look at me as if I am to young and I really feel as though I do not have much in common with them. Is there any other younger moms out there that are going through things as I am. I am in the N. Wilmington Area and my kids are 2 1/2 and 6 months. I would love to meet up with people my age with kids my kids ages.
Oh I am not disregarding older moms, or disrespecting them. Actually a few of the moms I have met and become friends with are late 20's and early to mid 30's. I am just curious as to people my age because a lot of the moms look at me as if I am some high school student that just graduated and became pregnant. I am only 24, look about 15 and have 2 kids... It is not my fault I look and am young, but I have more to me thank just a young mom. I have completed school, college, and returned after my Bachelors to obtain another degree for writing children's literature.
Well, I'm 27, so older than you I guess... I have an 11month old... none of our friends have kids at all (most are still single even) so I'm in the same boat as you though
J.,
I totally understand you!! I am 27(though I could pass for 16 due to my height and I look young) and I am SO sick of the looks and comments about me and my children. DH and I had our first at 20/21 (just before we were 21/22), our second at 22/22, our third at 23/24 and our fourth at 25/26. A couple of our friends had kids early like us, others are just having them now...our kids are 6,5,4 & 20 months.
I feel like I don't fit in a lot of times. I have started to be more assertive and I start more of the conversations with the other moms. I now am more comfortable around the "older" moms and now that they have gotten to know me I am treated as an "equal" instead of the "young mom"....maybe it is because I am getting a bit older? Or that I have handled 4 kids?
Have you tried a Mommy and Me class at the local Y? You can try the SAHM website to find playgroups in your area.
Keep your head up, it does get better. I was so embarrassed when my first started Kindergarten because I had to be around these mothers twice a day for drop off/pick up....some were RUDE. Now that my second is heading there next year I already have my band of friends as many of the parents whose children were in my oldest son's class will be in my second sons class and the year after the same thing for my third son.
HUGS to you!!
J.,
Try not to discount those older moms, they may have a lot to offer. I am 34 and feel like a young mom. I may not be too young number wise but my children are 22 months and 3 1/2yrs. If you haven't already looked into an At Home Mothers Group, that may be the place to start. Most groups will let you visit one of their meetings and you can ask questions about other memebers and see if it meets your needs. There is always the park, moonbounce adventures, or other kid friendly places to just strike up a conversation with someone. I do hope you find what you're looking for. I joined "AHMC", my moms group, and have been very happy ever since. You'll be amazed at the amount of support a group can offer.
A. R
Newark, DE
it's funny to say but i sometimes feel the same way and i am MUCH older than you. I had my first when I had just turned 26 and when he started school I felt like the youngest mom around. I had the good fortune to make a couple of good friends in the school yard while waiting to pick up the kids. You will find some parents are going to look at you funny but it could be for any reason not just your age. By the way my closest friend from school is 10 years older than me.
I also know about being all alone in the mommy game. When my oldest was born NONE of my friends were even married and most didn't have boyfreinds. It took 5 years for any of my friends to have another one. It is hard to keep that relationship going in spite of the kids but if your friends are great and you really want it, it can work.
I have found that a good place to start is either a preschool or a set story time at your local library. You wan to stay in your town because these are the people you will meet upi with over and over and if you meet them now it will make it easier when you meet up again like in kindergarten.
good luck!
Hi J.,
My name is Jenn and I'm a 29 year old Mom here in North Wilmington. I'm invloved with a local group called Mothers & More. We've got quite a few youngish members including a bunch of people with kids the same ages as yours.
Our website is: http://delcomothersandmore.com
and our email is: ____@____.com
Check us out and see what you think. We'd love to have you!
